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luvbuffet
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Do you have someone in your life ( friend, coworker, relative) who plays the victim card. Anything you talk about they need to top and say how rough they have it?? How do you handle this????
Message edited 4/27/2017 12:01:23 PM.
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ANewDayHasCome
Love multiplies, not divides
Member since 11/12 14481 total posts
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Yes. A few. I limit my contact with them and don't engage in substantial conversations.
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| Posted 4/27/17 12:01 PM |
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SusiBee
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A coworker and we limit the conversations with him and/or steer the topic away.
He loves to talk about himself and his problems.
We've tried offering advice, but he doesn't take it or counters it, so many times he is met with stony silence.
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| Posted 4/27/17 12:06 PM |
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alli3131
Peanut is here!!!!!!
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Allison
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I tend to cut toxic people out of my life so someone like that wouldn't last long.
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| Posted 4/27/17 12:27 PM |
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Hofstra26
Love to Bake!
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Yes I do, I just don't deal with them anymore. Cordial when I see them, don't engage in meaningful conversation because I can't stand the "poor me" diatribe. Over it.
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| Posted 4/27/17 12:33 PM |
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If you are true friends, I believe you take the good with the bad.
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| Posted 4/27/17 12:35 PM |
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PearlJamChick
No one sings like you anymore.
Member since 7/10 9264 total posts
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Petticoated Swashbuckler
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I avoid them as much as possible. If I need to deal with them, conversation is at a minimum.
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| Posted 4/27/17 12:36 PM |
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Pumpkin1
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My sister, which is why I don't speak to her anymore.
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Loveme
LIF Adult
Member since 6/11 3170 total posts
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Yes, my cousin. She'll always be in my life, especially since I'm her son's godmother, so I can't cut her off. Honestly, I just tune her out when she starts with the why me drama.
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Funkybutt
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My FIL is like that. After the last time I saw him I vowed to never go with DH to see him again. Get this - I hadn't flown in over 8 years and went to therapy to get over the fear of flying. Going to visit FIL and my family was the second time I flew after therapy. FIL decided to take the opportunity to go into great detail about a horrible flight he had (where he *says* they almost crashed). I wouldn't speak to him the rest of the trip b/c I was so mad at him for getting into his one upmanship on something I was so sensitive about.
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dctead
It's 5 o'clock somewhere!
Member since 11/10 2139 total posts
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Emily
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Posted by SusiBee
A coworker and we limit the conversations with him and/or steer the topic away.
He loves to talk about himself and his problems.
We've tried offering advice, but he doesn't take it or counters it, so many times he is met with stony silence.
I have two coworkers like this. Its gotten to the point where I do limit my conversations with them - and if we can't change the topic, I just leave the room. I have zero patience with it anymore.
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jam11308
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I do & I've just limited contact. She's a relatively new & casual friend that I made 2 years ago (our kids are friends) and we really clicked at first, but after a year I stepped back A LOT. Being that she was a new friend & we're both busy with work & kid stuff, it was pretty easy to dial it down and fade away a bit. To be honest, she probably didn't even notice...she probably just started "competing" with & complaining to the next person that came along. lol
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| Posted 4/27/17 6:26 PM |
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Disneygirl17
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Ha! Yes my mil. I don't really talk to her. She's a good grandma. But is a one upper and dramatic. It's annoying.
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