Can I vent/cry for a minute

ugh! My poor baby, I'm traumatizing him with doctors appointments.
Last week, he tripped and fell into the corner of a wall at daycare, split open his face/lip, had to get 8 stitches. They papoosed him, tied his arms down when the plastic surgeon had to stitch him up, he was screaming up at me saying "all done. . .all done" "mama up, mama up" It was heartbreaking (side note-PM pediatrics and Dr. Lebowitz are awesome)

& today, he had to go back for a follow up at the urologist b/c he has to get re-circumcised. They opened the door to call his name, he started to walk in and then realize he was headed toward doctors and SCREAMED It broke my heart. We calmed him down (thank god for goldfish) then Dr. Palmer walked in and all hell broke loose again. We had to hold him down just for him to check him. I feel like a horrible Mommy. Again, looking up at me going "maaa maaa"

& now he has to get all fixed on March 22 and they are going to give him "silly juice" prior to being sedated since they said "he's traumatized by recent doctors visits'

I cried sitting in the chair waiting to just schedule his appointment on the 22nd, I can't imagine seeing him all looped up on silly juice then limp from sedation. I'm about to have an emotional breakdown & these things are not even that serious. There are worse things in this world that other parents are going through, I know that but I just don't want him to have to be in pain AGAIN.

& any advice on getting your child to "like" the doctors again?

ok, thanks for letting me get that out.

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I don't have any advice (my DD HATES the doctor) but just wanted to send

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I am so sorry! I got teary eyed just reading this.... only thing I can say is that he won't remember this at some point.

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Awww Dev, I'm so sorry he's going through all of this!!!!!
And really if your child is in pain, ANY pain, the fact that there are "worse" things that happen doesn't minimize your situation ONE iota so don't feel badly ok?
Yes he will be fine, yes it will be a hard day, but YES there will come a point where he is not traumatized and actually enjoys his doc visit, I PROMISE YOU.

And maybe, just maybe, they'll give you a shot of silly juice too??

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Oh Devon I have tears in my eyes reading that!!! I have no advice.. John screams the min we get to the exam roon until we leave..

But tons of Hugs for you!!!! and Pray for strength to get thru it.

doesn't help now.. but he wont remember this.. thank GOOOOOODNESS!!!!

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Poor Joey. Hopefully after this string of visits & procedures he won't have to go to the Dr for a while & he will forget. Can I ask why he needs to be re-circ?

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No advice, but I got all choked up reading about what he's been through. I'd be an emotional wreck too if my DS called out for me like that.

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I am so sorry!

That's alot for a mom (and baby) to handle in such a short period of time! try and think of today and enjoy your little honey.. the craziest thing is that they will never remember any of this and yet it'll age us moms by like 10 years!

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Posted by colette

Awww Dev, I'm so sorry he's going through all of this!!!!!
And really if your child is in pain, ANY pain, the fact that there are "worse" things that happen doesn't minimize your situation ONE iota so don't feel badly ok?
Yes he will be fine, yes it will be a hard day, but YES there will come a point where he is not traumatized and actually enjoys his doc visit, I PROMISE YOU.

And maybe, just maybe, they'll give you a shot of silly juice too??

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I know how you feel and my heart is breaking as I read this

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I couldnt even finish, I teared up reading what you two have been through!

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Posted by DPerotti

Thanks Colette, you always say the right thing! I am SO asking for silly juice!

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That would break my heart. I wish I had advice. Other than bringing him for non-traumatizing events there (no shots either), I have no answers.

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OMG-how terrible, I'm so sorry you both had to go through that

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Posted by colette

Posted by DPerotti

Thanks Colette, you always say the right thing! I am SO asking for silly juice!

You could always DIY some and take a cab!
And I'm thinking, what if you buy him a little doctor's kit with the stethoscope and the white coat thing, maybe a doctor doll, and play with him???? Might make it a little more fun???

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Thanks Ladies
Here I was thinking I'd be this really strong Mom. Oye! Clearly, I'm not.

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You ARE a strong Mom.. A strong mom who would take every hurt and pain away if she could!!!!

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Posted by summerBaby10


Poor Joey. Hopefully after this string of visits & procedures he won't have to go to the Dr for a while & he will forget. Can I ask why he needs to be re-circ?

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Awww sorry your little guy is going through this rough patch

DS had a fear of Drs for a bit after he had eye surgery. We started playing Dr with him every so often with a little Dr kit. I dont know if he just forgot/ outgrew the fear or the games worked but he did get over it.

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Sending you lots of DS used to go hysterical every time he saw a Dr or nurse. The worst was when they do tests that they have to tie him down- just heartbreaking But I do have to say it does get better. DS is special needs, so maybe it's different, but I feel like now he cries so much less, can calm down easier.

I was going to recommend a doctor's kit also. It really helped DS a lot, but at first he wouldn't even touch or go near the blood pressure cuff even though it didn't work and he'd cry. Our last hospital stay was so so much better. He really only cried horribly with painful/uncomfortable stuff. The last half of our stay when the Drs came to visit he would smile at them & try to clap their hands.

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Posted by Linda1003

You ARE a strong Mom.. A strong mom who would take every hurt and pain away if she could!!!!

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Oh, Dev!!!
Just reading your post just made me cry!! Lots of hugs for you an Joey! Look at the bright side... he will soon forget about all of this!!

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it's a hard job being a Mommy! what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!