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RothschildNY
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Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
I cant watch the show, all I see are the previews.
First, I feel for them, I REALLY do. I am SO sorry they had a MC, and have to go through all they are.
But.
I will preface this by saying I have ONLY watched the previews.
It looks like her WHOLE life is caught up inmaking a baby. Its made to seem that her life is failing because she cant have a baby.
Its made to seem that her life is nothing if she cant have a baby.
I hope, in my TTC journey that I *never* get like that. It just seems like she is (and other women) having her whole life and identity revolving around getting PG.
I hope upon hope that this will happen for me. But my husband and I have promised eachother that if it doesent we wont let it ruin our lives and our marraige. We wont let a lack of a baby ruin us.
Please. Dont take this post as ANYTHING BUT compassion for her and anyone going through this.
But we made a promise to eachother that we would not bet our marraige and life on getting pg or not. Its not worth it.
My heart breaks for all the women who want this and it cant happen. I wish you all the  in the world. Just make SURE not to loose who you are, and your relationshi with DH for it. You are ALL so much more.
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
It is so easy to make this your whole life. We've been trying for only 5 months, and I must say I think about it night and day. If I can't get pregnant, I will feel as if part of my life is broken and incomplete.
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| Posted 11/29/10 9:45 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
i dont watch the show either... but its only an hour of their lives that they show and i think a lot of the draw they get is playing the m/c angle... and their marketing is always about that... otherwise they are two unknown people that no one would care about...
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| Posted 11/29/10 9:50 PM |
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CatNYC123
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Did she have another mc?
I agree with the pp... it may not be their whole lives but it does make the show more marketable... sad.
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| Posted 11/29/10 9:52 PM |
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
I have watched their show and although they do talk about having a baby and their struggles, I don't feel the whole show is only about that. They do seem to market the show that way though. In entertainment its all about what sells and that gets people watching. They have chosen to put their story out there, not only through the show but also through a book and other TV appearances and I commend them for that. I feel that I can totally relate to their lives although I have not been through IVF. I have been trying to conceive for over two years w/ two MCs mixed in and two failed IUIs. And there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about it. I hope that you will never have to face the thought that you may never be able to have biological children but it is something I am faced with everyday.  But it is nice to finally have someone speak out about something that many of us deal with in private and people who don't face it will never understand.
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| Posted 11/29/10 10:07 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by AngnShaun
i dont watch the show either... but its only an hour of their lives that they show and i think a lot of the draw they get is playing the m/c angle... and their marketing is always about that... otherwise they are two unknown people that no one would care about...
I agree because this is the only part of the show I really care about because I can unfortunately identify with infertility and pregnancy loss
I DVR it and actually fast forward through a lot of the show sometimes 
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| Posted 11/29/10 10:09 PM |
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by MrsH2009
It is so easy to make this your whole life. We've been trying for only 5 months, and I must say I think about it night and day. If I can't get pregnant, I will feel as if part of my life is broken and incomplete.
I agree. Until you've been through any length or difficulty of TTC you have no idea. To want a child with all your being and not have it happen is truly devastating and really can't be trivialized in any way.
My journey was far from complex with either of my children but 9 month to conceive my son was so hard on me.
Now wanting a 3rd and knowing it could be complicated is very hard to face.
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| Posted 11/29/10 10:34 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Only watching the previews really doesn't do the show justice and makes u think that's all the show is about...this season it mostly is..last season it wasn't so much...
I'm a fan of this show and I feel for them and I applaud the show and them for letting people who r ttc or have had mc to see the struggle and hw hard it can be...after a mc it does occupy ur life cause its all ur mind thinks about and this was filmed while she was happy when she found out the ivf worked and heartbroken when she mc at 8 weeks...they didn't sugar coat it at all which I thought was great...
As for this being her whole life..I'm sure right now it is cause she is in the middle of treatments etc..I don't think she is wrong for feeling incomplete if she can't have a child...I know I would...would me and dh be happy and enjoy are lives?...of course but would still always always feel like I was missing something..something we both wanted more than anything in the world
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| Posted 11/29/10 11:00 PM |
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by gina409
Only watching the previews really doesn't do the show justice and makes u think that's all the show is about...this season it mostly is..last season it wasn't so much...
I'm a fan of this show and I feel for them and I applaud the show and them for letting people who r ttc or have had mc to see the struggle and hw hard it can be...after a mc it does occupy ur life cause its all ur mind thinks about and this was filmed while she was happy when she found out the ivf worked and heartbroken when she mc at 8 weeks...they didn't sugar coat it at all which I thought was great...
As for this being her whole life..I'm sure right now it is cause she is in the middle of treatments etc..I don't think she is wrong for feeling incomplete if she can't have a child...I know I would...would me and dh be happy and enjoy are lives?...of course but would still always always feel like I was missing something..something we both wanted more than anything in the world
ITA
I just want to add that of course that is the angle the show is going to play up because its drama. I'm sure that they have more to their lives than just the m/c- families, careers etc. Just like everyone else in the world who goes through the process. Its just not being edited into a 1 hour show.
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| Posted 11/29/10 11:26 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
I also want to say I wish there were more real life shows documenting womens experiences through infertility. I think it's a hidden topic that people don't speak up enough about.
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by gina409
Only watching the previews really doesn't do the show justice and makes u think that's all the show is about...this season it mostly is..last season it wasn't so much...
I'm a fan of this show and I feel for them and I applaud the show and them for letting people who r ttc or have had mc to see the struggle and hw hard it can be...after a mc it does occupy ur life cause its all ur mind thinks about and this was filmed while she was happy when she found out the ivf worked and heartbroken when she mc at 8 weeks...they didn't sugar coat it at all which I thought was great...
As for this being her whole life..I'm sure right now it is cause she is in the middle of treatments etc..I don't think she is wrong for feeling incomplete if she can't have a child...I know I would...would me and dh be happy and enjoy are lives?...of course but would still always always feel like I was missing something..something we both wanted more than anything in the world
I totally agree with this.
I watch the show... and a lot of it is about them trying to have a baby.. but it's not the whole show.
it was so sad when she did have the mc... and after that she wasn't willing to even try for a little while, and just needed to take a break from it all. So they took a break from treatments and all and focused on healing.
I think it's good that they are throwing the secrets of TTC and Infertility out there to the public. Unless you are going through it, people seem to relatively know very little about it... and not only that but it's almost like a secret how many people have issues TTC. People also seem to be unaware of how long it can take to get a BFP. It's almost refreshing to see things going on their show that somewhat mimic what we struggle with.
I wouldn't say it's their whole life... because they still have their demanding jobs and life. She ran a marathon and films for E... he builds houses... they went on vacation in an RV they do have other areas of focus... but the show and editors pick and choose what makes it into each episode... so you are only seeing a fragment of their relationship.
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by gina409
Only watching the previews really doesn't do the show justice and makes u think that's all the show is about...this season it mostly is..last season it wasn't so much...
I'm a fan of this show and I feel for them and I applaud the show and them for letting people who r ttc or have had mc to see the struggle and hw hard it can be...after a mc it does occupy ur life cause its all ur mind thinks about and this was filmed while she was happy when she found out the ivf worked and heartbroken when she mc at 8 weeks...they didn't sugar coat it at all which I thought was great...
As for this being her whole life..I'm sure right now it is cause she is in the middle of treatments etc..I don't think she is wrong for feeling incomplete if she can't have a child...I know I would...would me and dh be happy and enjoy are lives?...of course but would still always always feel like I was missing something..something we both wanted more than anything in the world
ITA with this too
we watch the show every week. even DH likes it because he can "identify" with then as far as the pregnancy stuff goes. it's just tv and who knows what's "real" but they seem like a very balanced couple, meaning they do a ton of stuff in their lives that keep them who they are. they don't seem to lose sight of who they are as a couple.
to the OP, please do not take this the wrong way, but it is very hard to understand how you could lose yourself in this process if you haven't been through it. i hope your TTC journey is easy and short but unfortunately for some of us here it hasn't been. we've been TTC since '08 and i will absolutely tell you that there are times (a lot of times) where i lose myself in the process. i will also tell you that to suffer pregnancy loss has been hard on my marriage. yes, we are stronger for it now but that's not to say there haven't been moments of discontent in our marriage. last year i had to terminate my pregnancy at 12 weeks b/c of severe abnormalities with the baby and i can honestly say that i walked around in a deep state of depression for over 6 months. did i "lose" myself? h*ll yeah i did! i was lucky to even be functioning given the sadness i was feeling. this year i've had 2 more losses and it doesn't get easier. i've learned how to cope, as many women here have, but it's never easy.
anyway, i'm not trying to start anything here, i know you were just talking about the show, but just please remember there are plenty of women on this board who have been here for a LONG time and have lost A LOT.
good luck to you in your journey!
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fight the future
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
my heart goes out to them.
it DOES seem like the people who have trouble conceiving are almost the ones who want them the most.
humans are not intended to wait until 30+ to START trying to have babies and unfortunately... for a lot of people -- that's what society has encouraged them to do.
and on top of the whole waiting thing, Americans as a whole are overweight with gobs of chemicals in our food and drink.
Wishing them and everyone else here the best of luck and lots of
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| Posted 11/30/10 8:47 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by PennyCat
I also want to say I wish there were more real life shows documenting womens experiences through infertility. I think it's a hidden topic that people don't speak up enough about.
i agree... lots of women have that lonely feeling and a show about the struggles would be reality tv that i would watch...
kinda like how no one talked about post partum depression... like it was taboo... i think IF gets the same treatment...
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| Posted 11/30/10 9:37 AM |
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kelkel09
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
i watch and love that show. i think they are such a cute couple. It is true that it is a big part of the show, but it make sense since that is an important part of their lives right now. However, I definitely don't think that is all they think or talk about though. The show also focuses on their house remodel and their careers.
I am glad that they were brave enough to go through these struggles on TV, bc it is helpful to other couples who may be going through the whole thing. I think this shows that despite the struggles, life goes on and you can still have a happy marriage.
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| Posted 11/30/10 9:51 AM |
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FlowerWife
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
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PennyCat
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by FlowerWife
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
I agree 1000%
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RGEC47
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by FlowerWife
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
I agree. This is such a sensitive subject and so personal and different for each couple. It is hard to truly understand if you are lucky enough to try and get pregnant immediately and not have to deal with IF.
I give you credit for talking to dh about this and preparing yourselves. It is tough and does consume you, even if you don't want it to.
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PennyCat
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by RGEC47
Posted by FlowerWife
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
I agree. This is such a sensitive subject and so personal and different for each couple. It is hard to truly understand if you are lucky enough to try and get pregnant immediately and not have to deal with IF.
I give you credit for talking to dh about this and preparing yourselves. It is tough and does consume you, even if you don't want it to.
Absolutely. I never thought trying to have a baby would take up the huge part of my life that it has...... but between going through infertility, getting pregnant with our SON, losing him in the 2nd trimester, then going down the fertility treatment path once again, you can't help but have it consume you.
In a perfect world, it wouldn't- but in a perfect world, I would also be 33wks pregnant right now with my son.
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RGEC47
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by RGEC47
Posted by FlowerWife
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
I agree. This is such a sensitive subject and so personal and different for each couple. It is hard to truly understand if you are lucky enough to try and get pregnant immediately and not have to deal with IF.
I give you credit for talking to dh about this and preparing yourselves. It is tough and does consume you, even if you don't want it to.
Absolutely. I never thought trying to have a baby would take up the huge part of my life that it has...... but between going through infertility, getting pregnant with our SON, losing him in the 2nd trimester, then going down the fertility treatment path once again, you can't help but have it consume you.
In a perfect world, it wouldn't- but in a perfect world, I would also be 33wks pregnant right now with my son.
It breaks my heart everytime I think of your story but at the same time you give me strength to move foward. If you can move foward and stay positive after going through what you went through, then I should stay strong and know that it will eventually happen.
I will not say I completely understand your situation because I have not had a loss, but I do understand the frustration and send you my prayers. 
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by RGEC47
It breaks my heart everytime I think of your story but at the same time you give me strength to move foward. If you can move foward and stay positive after going through what you went through, then I should stay strong and know that it will eventually happen.
I will not say I completely understand your situation because I have not had a loss, but I do understand the frustration and send you my prayers.
Thank you!!  Know that it will eventually happen for YOU too! We'll all be reunited on the pregnancy board and parenting board, hopefully soon!!
(edited for spelling )
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by FlowerWife
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
ITA!!!!! It is so easy to say "Oh I would never, won't ever, will never..." when you aren't forced to actually make a decision on what you will and won't do to make your dreams of being a parent come true.
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Posted by gina409
Only watching the previews really doesn't do the show justice and makes u think that's all the show is about...this season it mostly is..last season it wasn't so much...
I'm a fan of this show and I feel for them and I applaud the show and them for letting people who r ttc or have had mc to see the struggle and hw hard it can be...after a mc it does occupy ur life cause its all ur mind thinks about and this was filmed while she was happy when she found out the ivf worked and heartbroken when she mc at 8 weeks...they didn't sugar coat it at all which I thought was great...
As for this being her whole life..I'm sure right now it is cause she is in the middle of treatments etc..I don't think she is wrong for feeling incomplete if she can't have a child...I know I would...would me and dh be happy and enjoy are lives?...of course but would still always always feel like I was missing something..something we both wanted more than anything in the world
I agree, I love the show! And showing their struggle on tv is so amazing.
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Posted by FlowerWife
i dont watch the show but i can say from an 18 month long battle with infertility, it DOES become your whole life. theres no way around it.
regardless of how it's portrayed on TV, i will say from experience you cannot judge how someone reacts to infertility, especially if you havent been there.
i dont mean this to sound like flame, its def not meant to be, im just saying until you are on the other side of ANY situation, you really can't say how you would react. you are only idealistic until it's you in those shoes.
ITA!!!! 
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Re: Giulliana and Bill- Its heartbreaking.
Speaking of Giulliana I was watching E news last night which she hosts and she looks like she has a little bump! I wonder if she's prego now, I hope so.
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