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ReiRei13
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Godparent Dilema
So we already asked my sister and Brians brother to me the godparents (they were our MOH and BM- and the closest people to us). So today i go to our church to book the christening and I find out that the Godparent has to have been confirmed. My BIL never made his communion ot confirmation so now he can no longer be the Godfather! My DH is so upset (I'm secretly a little excited b/c now my brother can be it)!
Anyone ese experience this??
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Re: Godparent Dilema
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
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| Posted 11/17/08 7:25 PM |
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donegal419
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Re: Godparent Dilema
I haven't yet, but I do know that the Church expects the Godparents to have received Confirmation. This is because the true meaning behind a godparent is for those chosen people to raise the child in the faith on your behalf god forbid anything happens to the parents. Once you're confirmed you're a full member of the Church. Of course, many people do not pick religious people (just their closest siblings or friends) but that is the real reason behind the godparent thing so the Church doesn't really bend on this!!!!! So sorry your DH won't be able to have his brother serve in that role!!!!! 
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| Posted 11/17/08 7:28 PM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
From what I am reading in order to be a Godparent you have to be confirmed! If you're not then you can be a Christian Witness (whatever that means)which we're not sure we want- we want actual Godparents!
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
I thought the same thing that only one of them needed to be confirmed or maybe only one person needs to be confirmed to get married
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| Posted 11/17/08 7:29 PM |
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MikesWife
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
From what I am reading in order to be a Godparent you have to be confirmed! If you're not then you can be a Christian Witness (whatever that means)which we're not sure we want- we want actual Godparents!
Ohhhh. I'm sorry - that stinks!!
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
This is what my church said. DH's godfather isn't even Catholic, he is Methodist.
I would double check with your church and if they say the same thing go to another church.
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| Posted 11/19/08 12:45 PM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
This is what my church said. DH's godfather isn't even Catholic, he is Methodist.
I would double check with your church and if they say the same thing go to another church.
According to my church that would be considered a Christian witness and not a Godparent
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| Posted 11/19/08 12:46 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
This is what my church said. DH's godfather isn't even Catholic, he is Methodist.
I would double check with your church and if they say the same thing go to another church.
According to my church that would be considered a Christian witness and not a Godparent
its considered a "sponsor" of sorts when one has received all of their sacraments and the other hasnt...only one technically HAS to..BUT, if you just dont like the idea of it, thats different...either way im sure youll call them your babies "Godparent"
I dont know when youre due, but any chance he can make his sacraments through an RCIA program? If he starts now, he may be able to receive the last sacrament by Easter..is this a possibility? It would take ALOT on the part of the person doing it, BUT if he really wants to be a Godparent versus a sponsor, maybe he'll do it?
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Re: Godparent Dilema
I think every church is different, my DH was a Godparent for his nephew and he was never confirmed
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| Posted 11/19/08 1:05 PM |
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Heavin627
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Re: Godparent Dilema
you have to talk to your church, some make exceptions... i know one has to be confirmed, the other not confirmed or different religion will be called a sponsor.. but for the most part you can still call them a godparent, just not in the eyes of the church.. again depending on the church and who christens ur baby.
we had a similar situation with our niece.. DH is not catholic, and she was being christened catholic... he was just put down as a sponsor
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| Posted 11/19/08 2:14 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Im Godparent twice and haven't even had a communion. I think only one needs to be.
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| Posted 11/19/08 2:19 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
This is what my church said. DH's godfather isn't even Catholic, he is Methodist.
I would double check with your church and if they say the same thing go to another church.
According to my church that would be considered a Christian witness and not a Godparent
Soooo - is it REALLY a big deal if the 'church' considers your sister the Godmother and your BIL the 'witness' - Your family will still recognize him as the baby's Godfather and the baby will grow up w/ him as her 'Godfather' - KWIM ??
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I would call around to different churches. My brother isn't comfirmed but the church we ended up picking only needed one godparent to be confirmed.
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| Posted 11/19/08 2:58 PM |
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
This is what my church said. DH's godfather isn't even Catholic, he is Methodist.
I would double check with your church and if they say the same thing go to another church.
According to my church that would be considered a Christian witness and not a Godparent
Soooo - is it REALLY a big deal if the 'church' considers your sister the Godmother and your BIL the 'witness' - Your family will still recognize him as the baby's Godfather and the baby will grow up w/ him as her 'Godfather' - KWIM ??
I feel the same way. I was a "witness" or "sponsor" for my goddaughter/niece, and no one ever refers to me as anything other than Godmother. I don't think it's a big deal. And in the ceremony, no one would have known that I was called anything other than godmother.
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| Posted 11/19/08 3:01 PM |
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Do you have to provide proof?? If not then I would just do it  My church requires it but honestly I checked the box and never had to provide proof for either of my kids...
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
that is what i thought too
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| Posted 11/19/08 3:03 PM |
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by BlessedMommy
Do you have to provide proof?? If not then I would just do it My church requires it but honestly I checked the box and never had to provide proof for either of my kids...
I almost did that when I was godmother and hadn't been confirmed, but I thought I'd really be in trouble with the big guy for lying to the church! 
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Re: Godparent Dilema
it depends on what denomination you are and then what your church adheres to. usually the catholic churches are more strict in the catholic beliefs while a lot of the protestant churches may deviate a bit from the overarching protestant beliefs (for whatever specific denomination they're part of).
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Re: Godparent Dilema
It depends on the church. Some are very strict and some are not at all!!!!
If he really wants him to be the Godfather try looking for another church. You also ahve to be confirmed to be married and guess what? My best friend was never confirmed and she still got married at a church! lol and guess what? MyDH was never confirmed and is the Godparent of 3 children!! lol
Theres always "ways" around things.
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hmm8191
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
From what I am reading in order to be a Godparent you have to be confirmed! If you're not then you can be a Christian Witness (whatever that means)which we're not sure we want- we want actual Godparents!
it's really the same thing. No one will ever know the diference unless you tell them.
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laurabora
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Re: Godparent Dilema
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by mpetretti
Posted by jellybean1420
Posted by MikesWife
I thought only one of the two had to be confirmed. Hmmm.
This is what my church said. DH's godfather isn't even Catholic, he is Methodist.
I would double check with your church and if they say the same thing go to another church.
According to my church that would be considered a Christian witness and not a Godparent
Soooo - is it REALLY a big deal if the 'church' considers your sister the Godmother and your BIL the 'witness' - Your family will still recognize him as the baby's Godfather and the baby will grow up w/ him as her 'Godfather' - KWIM ??
I agree with this, I don't understand why it would be a big deal to anyone except the church. It's such a technicality. For each of my boys we had one Catholic and one Lutheran godparent, they weren't treated any differently.
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| Posted 11/19/08 5:43 PM |
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luckyinlove
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Re: Godparent Dilema
In my church, only one needs to be Catholic-- the other just needs to be baptized as Christian. My BIL was never baptized,so he is going through the process now to become a Catholic.
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