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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by halfbaked
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Looks like I'm the only one that would tell my kids to tone it down.
Not at all, so would I. There's a difference between playing outside and acting like screaming banshees 
How do you know they were screaming like banshees?
I don't know either the OP or the woman, but I can imagine that it's entirely possible that the kids were not just shouting karate-associated words, but being louder than the mom wants to admit.
Obviously not saying that's what happened, but we only ever hear one side of the story here.
I don't think the woman yelling shut up was appropriate, but she may have had a bad day and been fed up.
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by AScottWolf
Honestly, if this were my mom, she'd go around the block and knock on this women's door. I might do the same if someone said this to my kid.
This! They're outside and it's the middle of the day... too bad if they're making noise...they're kids. There's def. a difference between making noise and screaming though (but I highly doubt they were screaming outside lol). Tell her to put a muzzle on her dog since its barking is bothering her so much.
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| Posted 8/8/13 6:58 PM |
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Irishlass
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Re: this woman has some nerve
I guess I'm also in the minority. I would tell my kids if I had any to tone it down but I would also speak to the woman. As a person who has had to listen to kids screaming at the top of their lungs for hours on end, I can understand how irritating it can be. I've been woken up at 7 am on a sat morning by a screaming little 6 year old.
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| Posted 8/8/13 7:33 PM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
None of us know what really happened. That said, some people work nights and need to be able to sleep during the day. Some people are dealing with illnesses. The list can go on and on. I think what it boils down to is being mindful of others. This goes for both sides of this scenario.
Kids can be loud. As parents, many chalk it up to kids being kids. When they're not your kids, many are less tolerant of others' noise.
When we were living in a condo, one of our neighbors used to let her kids play in the hallway. They'd run up and down, yell, play ball. It annoyed us to death. We never said anything until we brought our newborn home. One day, after having not slept all night, I'd had enough. I opened my door and sternly told the children that the hallway is not a playground.
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| Posted 8/8/13 7:57 PM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
just to clarify the kids were out for 15 minutes when she yelled shut up and it was 2 in the afternoon and they were not screaming like banshees
trust me if they were screeching or being obnoxious I would tell them to quiet down because I don't want to hear that!
anyway no one has the right to tell my kids to shut up in their own backyard
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| Posted 8/8/13 8:00 PM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Next time her dogs are out there barking yell at them to shut up see what she does.
I have kids behind me always yelling but I know they are having fun and it puts a smile on my face.
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by halfbaked
Posted by AScottWolf
Honestly, if this were my mom, she'd go around the block and knock on this women's door. I might do the same if someone said this to my kid.
Absolutely. She has no right to say anything to your kids and besides it's the middle of the damn day!
Seeing kids doing karate in their backyard would make me SMILE! I love that they're not sitting inside playing on their iPads!
This! I have kids that live behind me that are always playing and yelling and just having a good time. It makes me happy that there are kids actually outside playing which is so rare these days.
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| Posted 8/9/13 7:20 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by MrsMick
Posted by halfbaked
Posted by AScottWolf
Honestly, if this were my mom, she'd go around the block and knock on this women's door. I might do the same if someone said this to my kid.
Absolutely. She has no right to say anything to your kids and besides it's the middle of the damn day!
Seeing kids doing karate in their backyard would make me SMILE! I love that they're not sitting inside playing on their iPads!
This! I have kids that live behind me that are always playing and yelling and just having a good time. It makes me happy that there are kids actually outside playing which is so rare these days.
I agree, I have a bunch of children on my block who are always playing outside in their front yards, playing with the neighborhood kids, running lemonade stands etc. They can be loud at times, but it doesn't bother me whatsoever.
It sounds like that neighbor was just having a bad day (or is a miserable hag- either one )
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| Posted 8/9/13 7:32 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by PearlJamChick
What a miserable tee double-u a tee.
This took me a second 
and yes, unless she had someone very sick in the house or something of that nature, that was extremely rude of her! I love hearing kids play outside. What a witch.
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by GoodThoughts
None of us know what really happened. That said, some people work nights and need to be able to sleep during the day. Some people are dealing with illnesses. The list can go on and on. I think what it boils down to is being mindful of others. This goes for both sides of this scenario.
Kids can be loud. As parents, many chalk it up to kids being kids. When they're not your kids, many are less tolerant of others' noise.
When we were living in a condo, one of our neighbors used to let her kids play in the hallway. They'd run up and down, yell, play ball. It annoyed us to death. We never said anything until we brought our newborn home. One day, after having not slept all night, I'd had enough. I opened my door and sternly told the children that the hallway is not a playground.
I have to disagree here. A hallway is entirely different than being in your own backyard. If people sleep during the day or have a newborn, they have to expect that life in the outside world will still go on. It doesn't revolve around you. Not being mean directly at you or anything, just in general. Get a fan or music as background noise to drown it out. Would you rather the kids be inside, inactive, playing video games??
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by ThePinkGoose
Posted by GoodThoughts
None of us know what really happened. That said, some people work nights and need to be able to sleep during the day. Some people are dealing with illnesses. The list can go on and on. I think what it boils down to is being mindful of others. This goes for both sides of this scenario.
Kids can be loud. As parents, many chalk it up to kids being kids. When they're not your kids, many are less tolerant of others' noise.
When we were living in a condo, one of our neighbors used to let her kids play in the hallway. They'd run up and down, yell, play ball. It annoyed us to death. We never said anything until we brought our newborn home. One day, after having not slept all night, I'd had enough. I opened my door and sternly told the children that the hallway is not a playground.
I have to disagree here. A hallway is entirely different than being in your own backyard. If people sleep during the day or have a newborn, they have to expect that life in the outside world will still go on. It doesn't revolve around you. Not being mean directly at you or anything, just in general. Get a fan or music as background noise to drown it out. Would you rather the kids be inside, inactive, playing video games??
I know the hallway is different. I mentioned it because when my circumstances changed, my tolerance did as well.
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| Posted 8/9/13 11:05 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
In my mind, she has no right to address your kids directly like that. If she has a complaint, she can write a note or ring the bell like a civilized person and talk to an ADULT in a civilized manner. Someone who takes it upon herself to confront CHILDREN on their own property in such a crass manner has stepped way over the line.
I don't care what kind of day she's had. There's an adult world with proper adult interactions and civility. She should look into it.
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| Posted 8/9/13 11:07 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by MamaNDaddyof3
anyway no one has the right to tell my kids to shut up in their own backyard
Exactly! End of story!
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| Posted 8/9/13 11:23 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by seaside
In my mind, she has no right to address your kids directly like that. If she has a complaint, she can write a note or ring the bell like a civilized person and talk to an ADULT in a civilized manner. Someone who takes it upon herself to confront CHILDREN on their own property in such a crass manner has stepped way over the line.
I don't care what kind of day she's had. There's an adult world with proper adult interactions and civility. She should look into it.
THIS!
She is the adult - regardless of what kind of day she had or mood she was in, she is the one is suppose to act like the bigger person.
I would go ape shiit if someone yelled at my child while they were playing in their own backyard.
There is no law that says children playing outside have to tone it down.
Growing up next door to us was an older couple and the wife was just a down right witch. She would come out yelling and screaming at us when we were playing in our yard or if our soccer ball flew into her yard.
It got to the point that when we heard her back door opening, we would run into the house because we were scared of her. My mom had several confrontations with her and she had us play with our soccer ball in a different part of the yard and asked not to scream so much.
It didn't matter the woman would come out yelling everytime we were out there...sometimes with a broom
Finally, my mom had to tell her she didn't own the neighborhood or the outdoors and that we were just being kids and that there would be problems if she continued to yell at us for no reason.
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| Posted 8/9/13 11:24 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Was the dog barking?
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Re: this woman has some nerve
I don't care who works at what time or how effed up of a day they are having. NOBODY tells my kid what to do but me. And NOBODY tells my child to "shut up" but me. Children are defenseless. You have a problem with my child? take it up with me.
I especially don't like that she specifically did it when the mother wasn't around and then when the mother was out she kept her trap shut and went inside.
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| Posted 8/11/13 9:29 AM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by meloyellow
I don't care who works at what time or how effed up of a day they are having. NOBODY tells my kid what to do but me. And NOBODY tells my child to "shut up" but me. Children are defenseless. You have a problem with my child? take it up with me.
I especially don't like that she specifically did it when the mother wasn't around and then when the mother was out she kept her trap shut and went inside.
I agree, I thinks its disgusting to yell at someone else kids. And frankly, you are acting like a little b!tch by confronting the kids instead of addressing the parents.
You have a problem, knock on my door and let me know and I will address my kids.
When I first moved into my condo, our neighbors children were loud and worse is that they let them run and play up and down the hallway. This was when we were going to be "Childless". It drove me insane but I would raise my TV or go to the other room. However, I would have Never yelled at them directly but would have knocked on my neighbors door.
Now that I have my son, in the morning he so full of energy and excited. He is loud as heck and wants to run to the elevator. I always have to tell him to be quiet & don't run.
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| Posted 8/11/13 12:06 PM |
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mom2boys
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this woman has some nerve
I do know the OP not like that should make a difference, but the kids where outside in there own backyard playing. I spend a lot of time there with my kids and without my kids. They are just begin kids playing in there own backyard.. What gives a neighbor the right to yet "shut up" to a couple of kids playing in there own backyard in the afternoon? If the neighbor has a problem, come over and talk to the parent instead of yelling at a 8,6, and 5 year old children..
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| Posted 8/11/13 12:44 PM |
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Re: this woman has some nerve
Posted by mom2boys
I do know the OP not like that should make a difference, but the kids where outside in there own backyard playing. I spend a lot of time there with my kids and without my kids. They are just begin kids playing in there own backyard.. What gives a neighbor the right to yet "shut up" to a couple of kids playing in there own backyard in the afternoon? If the neighbor has a problem, come over and talk to the parent instead of yelling at a 8,6, and 5 year old children..
This is my point exactly. Even IF the kids were loud as heck and being rude (which appears they weren't), you should still address the parents.
And lets say you do observe my child doing something bad and I am not around, then there is a tactful way to let them know. Only I can tell my son to shut up. You tell them can you please be quiet
Plus she waited to the mom went inside, that's a coward thing to do. Why pick on or address the children instead of an adult?
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