You must first be logged in to post a new topic.
If you are not registered, please click "Create Account".
| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: [1] 2 |
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
My Heart is Breaking today...
No surprise I guess. My XH and my youngest DD (baby of the family with 6 siblings) has taken his lack of parenting for years. He automatically thinks that the kids should be the ones to reach out to him always
Jackie was 4 when he left and he never tried to have bond where he had to make the effort. He was never there for her and in the last few years we have tried to help her get to know him on her terms.
She and my other DD planned a Father's Day Brunch today. He knew about it for weeks and I even called him and talked to him about it. SHe would never show how much it hurts her that he has a relationship with the older kids now, but I know she cares.
I just got told by her that he cancelled it
thru my older DD last night.  I know she is
upset but trying not to show it.
I had to go outside and cry. I also have a call into him. He has his phone set on VM.
ETA: The only reason any of our kids speak to him is because of me. I raised them all! THe older ones are NOT getting together with him this weekend either due to where they live now.
Message edited 6/15/2008 11:15:06 PM.
|
Posted 6/14/08 2:01 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
Emily
Kasey & Me! Lurves it!
Member since 7/06 8703 total posts
Name:
STBHC
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
What a royal jerk!! He did not even call Jackie to tell her personally?? 
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:02 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by Emily
What a royal jerk!! He did not even call Jackie to tell her personally??
No! Nothing!
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:05 PM |
| |
|
metagefken
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/08 679 total posts
Name:
J
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
i'm so very sorry especially for your daughter. he may not know it now but he'll live to regret his actions. i had a cousin just like him. when he walked out on his wife and 5 children the youngest was only a toddler. he had very minimal contact with any of his children but none with the youngest. one day many years later he spotted some of his children in the neighborhood. they talked to him and then he asked his daughter if the boy with her was her son. she said no, he's yours. he almost fell over. he tried having contact with his children from that point on but none of them wanted anything to do with him. he died a lonely man and frankly he deserved it.
to you and your daughter.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:23 PM |
| |
|
lvdolphins
My Loves!
Member since 5/05 46292 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:31 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by metagefken
i'm so very sorry especially for your daughter. he may not know it now but he'll live to regret his actions. i had a cousin just like him. when he walked out on his wife and 5 children the youngest was only a toddler. he had very minimal contact with any of his children but none with the youngest. one day many years later he spotted some of his children in the neighborhood. they talked to him and then he asked his daughter if the boy with her was her son. she said no, he's yours. he almost fell over. he tried having contact with his children from that point on but none of them wanted anything to do with him. he died a lonely man and frankly he deserved it.
to you and your daughter.
 I just don't get how anyone can do this to their kids.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:33 PM |
| |
|
robynfs
12/6/10!!
Member since 9/05 4947 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Ughhh I'm so sorry...your daughter does not deserve to be treated that way!
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:40 PM |
| |
|
JodiBabe
Married for 9 yrs!!!!!!
Member since 5/05 6672 total posts
Name:
Jodi
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:41 PM |
| |
|
nov04libride
big brother <3
Member since 5/05 14672 total posts
Name:
Me
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
I've been there with my dad, and honestly maybe it's for the best. She needs to see what he really is, and not have a vision of what her relationship with him could be like. The sooner she learns how selfish he really is, the sooner she can move on and work on coming to peace with not having him in her life.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:41 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by nov04libride
I've been there with my dad, and honestly maybe it's for the best. She needs to see what he really is, and not have a vision of what her relationship with him could be like. The sooner she learns how selfish he really is, the sooner she can move on and work on coming to peace with not having him in her life.
SHe already knows what he is about. I try to tell my older DD that her sister is entitled to form her own opinions without the added guilt her sister and father throws on her.
Message edited 6/14/2008 2:51:00 PM.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 2:47 PM |
| |
|
justthe4ofus
I hate hypocrites!!!!!
Member since 5/05 6905 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
I am so sorry for Jackie. Your x and my father sound like 1 and the same!
|
| Posted 6/14/08 3:04 PM |
| |
|
LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
Member since 8/06 12785 total posts
Name:
Bonnie-Jean
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Awwwwww. What a poop head! I feel so bad for you and your daughter. Maybe your horse can go kick him in the nards?
|
| Posted 6/14/08 3:05 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by BJandDan
Awwwwww. What a poop head! I feel so bad for you and your daughter. Maybe your horse can go kick him in the nards?
The Azzhorse would love to if my X had any 
|
| Posted 6/14/08 3:06 PM |
| |
|
SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
Member since 3/06 32345 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
omg Phyl I am really sorry.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 3:09 PM |
| |
|
SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
Member since 3/06 32345 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by Phyl
Posted by BJandDan
Awwwwww. What a poop head! I feel so bad for you and your daughter. Maybe your horse can go kick him in the nards?
The Azzhorse would love to if my X had any
 
|
| Posted 6/14/08 3:10 PM |
| |
|
DayDay
Livin' the Good Life....
Member since 9/06 5939 total posts
Name:
Dayna
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
That is so terrible.. and I can relate.. I didn't have much of a relationship with my father growing up and it was so hard on me..
Keep being supportive of her.. As long as you are there for her that's going to be important to her as well..
|
| Posted 6/14/08 4:25 PM |
| |
|
Michi
My Love
Member since 5/05 31600 total posts
Name:
M
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
I am so sorry
|
| Posted 6/14/08 4:42 PM |
| |
|
hbugal
Lesigh
Member since 2/07 15928 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
My father (and I use that term loosely) is like this..he has 5 daughters..2 of them dont speak to him at all (Im one of them) and the other 3 tolerate him in small increments. He is a user and has used every woman in his life....Let's put it this way 5 daughters and he's never walked a single one of us down the aisle.(and some of us have been married more than once  )
He has never tried to mend the fences with any of us. He feels that we should do for him and if we dont like it I guess that's just tough...
I buy my mother a card every year for Father's Day...
Message edited 6/14/2008 5:14:51 PM.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 5:14 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by hbugal
My father (and I use that term loosely) is like this..he has 5 daughters..2 of them dont speak to him at all (Im one of them) and the other 3 tolerate him in small increments. He is a user and has used every woman in his life....Let's put it this way 5 daughters and he's never walked a single one of us down the aisle.(and some of us have been married more than once )
He has never tried to mend the fences with any of us. He feels that we should do for him and if we dont like it I guess that's just tough...
I buy my mother a card every year for Father's Day...
He wasn't even invited to his other DD's weddings!
For years when Jackie played Junior Olympic Travel Softball I always got a Happy MoFa's Day from the other parents on Father's Day.
Jackie says she wants me to walk her down the aisle when the time comes
Message edited 6/14/2008 5:19:14 PM.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 5:18 PM |
| |
|
MeeshkaMich
LL=Yum
Member since 2/06 5616 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
your girls are lucky to have a great mom like you
I think you being their MoFa made them the beautiful, wonderful DDs they are.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 5:42 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by MeeshkaMich
your girls are lucky to have a great mom like you
I think you being their MoFa made them the beautiful, wonderful DDs they are.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 5:44 PM |
| |
|
sunflowerjesss
Mommy to 3!
Member since 10/05 20369 total posts
Name:
Jesss, duh.
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Oh Phyl, thats terrible.
Your X sounds like a real lame-o. He should have never cancelled and if it were absolutely necessary and warranted he should have called your youngest himself with the explanation.
Thank goodness your DC have such a generous, kind, caring mother to make up for the lack of father!
Message edited 6/14/2008 5:54:04 PM.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 5:53 PM |
| |
|
Phyl
R.I.P. Sweet Mia ♥
Member since 5/06 28918 total posts
Name:
The Mystical Azzhorse! ™
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Posted by sunflowerjesss
Oh Phyl, thats terrible.
Your X sounds like a real lame-o. He should have never cancelled and if it were absolutely necessary and warranted he should have called your youngest himself with the explanation.
Thank goodness your DC have such a generous, kind, caring mother to make up for the lack of father!
|
| Posted 6/14/08 6:15 PM |
| |
|
JennZ
MY LIFE!!
Member since 8/05 25463 total posts
Name:
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
Wow, sounds like you ex and my dad should go for a drink. So Sorry for Jackie.
|
| Posted 6/14/08 6:21 PM |
| |
|
pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
Member since 9/05 32436 total posts
Name:
Stephanie
|
Re: My Heart is Breaking today...
what a jerk....hope your dd is feeling okay....
|
| Posted 6/14/08 6:30 PM |
| |
|
| Pages: [1] 2 |
