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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by computergirl
One thing I wanted to add to this discussion--
It's so easy to say that we as a society are so hung up on looks, that looks don't really matter, etc. But the thing is, they DO matter.
I replied to this thread yesterday and I said that I would call myself attractive, but not naturally so at all. It definitely takes effort to make me presentable  and I do put in that effort nearly every day. But the thing is, I can honestly say I've been "pretty" and I've been "ugly", and the truth is EVERYTHING is easier when you're pretty. Not just in dating or in terms of male attention. You're just treated better in many areas of life. You're noticed. Back when I put less effort into my appearance, I might as well have been invisible.
I'm surprised nobody has mentioned this yet on the thread.
sadly this is very true!! They have actually done studies on it too. Attractive people are more likely to receive jobs, promotions, etc too.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
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I think I look good. Dh thinks I'm hot.
Hellllloooo. My bpics say it all
I think sometimes over-confidence can make someone pretty seem pretty ugly.
Seriously?
Yup. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only person (not that it matters) who thought that response was a littttle over the top. Then clicked on referenced b-pics and was a bit shocked. I'm allowed to say it. Shrug. Flame away.
I'm pretty sure this was a tongue in cheek statement anyway. Also what forced you to click on her pics? Just to you could come back and try to make her feel bad. Good for her if she's confident! All women should be. We ALL have something to offer.
As far as the OP-I think I'm attractive, although I have a lot of weight to lose right now. I have good hair and pretty eyes and when thinner I have a body that I (and men seem to) like
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
With me i think its a self esteem issue. I would say right now I would be attractive if I lost 30 lbs... but now thinking about it, even at my thinnest, I don't think I was ever really happy with myself.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
no, not at all, especially without makeup , I am not a pretty face 
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I agree with Coco Chanel (even though she was a Nazi) about the lazy vs attractive factor.
At one point...say 30 lbs ago?...I was attractive. Now, I'd say I'm not aging well.
I am not unattractive but I'm not attractive. I am also lazy about my appearance.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
For the most part, yes but I have my good days and bad days like everyone else. I'm mostly unhappy with my post-children body at this point. I think I'll feel better when I lose these last 10-15 lbs. I find it ironic though when I was younger and didn't need to put too much 'work' into getting myself together, I had all the time in the world. And now, when I could really use some extra prep time in getting myself together I don't have a minute!
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
Posted by computergirl
One thing I wanted to add to this discussion--
It's so easy to say that we as a society are so hung up on looks, that looks don't really matter, etc. But the thing is, they DO matter.
I replied to this thread yesterday and I said that I would call myself attractive, but not naturally so at all. It definitely takes effort to make me presentable and I do put in that effort nearly every day. But the thing is, I can honestly say I've been "pretty" and I've been "ugly", and the truth is EVERYTHING is easier when you're pretty. Not just in dating or in terms of male attention. You're just treated better in many areas of life. You're noticed. Back when I put less effort into my appearance, I might as well have been invisible.
I'm surprised nobody has mentioned this yet on the thread.
sadly this is very true!! They have actually done studies on it too. Attractive people are more likely to receive jobs, promotions, etc too.
TOTALLY true. Look around...
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
sadly this is very true!! They have actually done studies on it too. Attractive people are more likely to receive jobs, promotions, etc too.
TOTALLY true. Look around...
This was the most recent study that I read:
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/13/fashion/makeup-makes-women-appear-more-competent-study.html?_r=0. While it was sponsored by self-interest groups, I believe it has a lot of validity.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
Posted by computergirl
One thing I wanted to add to this discussion--
It's so easy to say that we as a society are so hung up on looks, that looks don't really matter, etc. But the thing is, they DO matter.
I replied to this thread yesterday and I said that I would call myself attractive, but not naturally so at all. It definitely takes effort to make me presentable and I do put in that effort nearly every day. But the thing is, I can honestly say I've been "pretty" and I've been "ugly", and the truth is EVERYTHING is easier when you're pretty. Not just in dating or in terms of male attention. You're just treated better in many areas of life. You're noticed. Back when I put less effort into my appearance, I might as well have been invisible.
I'm surprised nobody has mentioned this yet on the thread.
sadly this is very true!! They have actually done studies on it too. Attractive people are more likely to receive jobs, promotions, etc too.
TOTALLY true. Look around...
Even for guys. Way back, before Amazon.com, when I had to shop for electronics in person...   , I used to dress in jeans and an old T-shirt to compare models, figure out what I wanted, etc. I was never approached by a salesman. As soon as I stopped in right after work, and dressed like I had a little bit of money, I would have 3 or 4 people offering to help.... annoying, but I knew how it worked, so I was able to make it work to my advantage.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I used to think I was somewhat attractive.
Now that I have 3 kids under 3 and work FT, I've let myself go and don't have any time to put into my appearance.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
Posted by computergirl
One thing I wanted to add to this discussion--
It's so easy to say that we as a society are so hung up on looks, that looks don't really matter, etc. But the thing is, they DO matter.
I replied to this thread yesterday and I said that I would call myself attractive, but not naturally so at all. It definitely takes effort to make me presentable and I do put in that effort nearly every day. But the thing is, I can honestly say I've been "pretty" and I've been "ugly", and the truth is EVERYTHING is easier when you're pretty. Not just in dating or in terms of male attention. You're just treated better in many areas of life. You're noticed. Back when I put less effort into my appearance, I might as well have been invisible.
I'm surprised nobody has mentioned this yet on the thread.
sadly this is very true!! They have actually done studies on it too. Attractive people are more likely to receive jobs, promotions, etc too.
Of course looks matter because we as a society ALLOW it to matter. But they aren't ALL that matter. It's all about perception. We've been ingrained with the idea that pretty people are somehow 'better' or cleaner or smarter or nicer or whatever. It isn't TRUE, but that's what people think or want to think.
The sad fact is that I DO have to work harder than a more attractive person for some things.. but rather than blame my looks and allow my unattractiveness to define me and my failures - I use it as impetus to step myself up in other ways.
I may not be hot - but I have a gorgeous husband who loves me, a good job, two incredible kids, a decent home in a nice neighborhood, a fantastic group of friends and a wonderful family. Maybe if I were prettier I'd have more friends.. or I'd have had more boyfriends when I was younger.. but what would be the quality of those people if their interest in me was based primarily on my looks?
I don't know.. I think I've managed to get myself a pretty fantastic life without the benefit of beauty. Maybe I would have had more WHATEVER if I were pretty.. but maybe I wouldn't be who I am if I were born with better looks.
The upshot.. take what you are given and make the most of it. I don't see any reason to be sad or mopey just because I don't happen to be beautiful.
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
Looks matter. Take it from someone with many years of experience in recruiting for various levels of jobs and companies.
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
Yup, I do think I'm attractive.
ETA:
I do think mindset plays a roll in being attractive. When you're in a good place, you tend to smile more, your eyes seem to sparkle, these things tend to make someone appear more attractive.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by jam11308
Nope...not attractive at all, but my dh doesn't seem to mind so I don't worry about it like I did when I was younger lol
This bothers me.
I've known you close to thirty years, you are an attractive woman.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Yes I think so. Of course there are always things to work on.
I only gained a little weight during both pregnancies ( bad MS) and both kids were born early / small. So nothing has really changed in that sense. I am and always have been pretty thin. One thing I started working on is the quality of my hair. I think if you have healthy hair and nice skin, it goes a long way.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
No not really actually....but I have a handsome husband and an even more gorgeous baby boy so its allllll good  
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Most of the time? no
I have funny looking eyes (not color) one is more closed than the other. So its off.
I dont like my fly away hair.. seems to always be a mess. 
I have a pointy nose
Body wise, I'm in the middle. I love my tattoo but its a little too much and hard to hide and show off my shoulders at the same time.
Then I look at the mirror and catch myself not smiling or trying and I am a little shocked that I have a very nice shape to my face, jaw line is nice and neck graceful. I have high cheek bones and strong features. So I can pass off as a classic strong beauty. Not danty and light but mysterious and slightly dangerous.
I do NOT look cute mad. I do not look good smiling. JMHO
But Im passable.
I'm unique! and that makes me happy. I'm not run of the mill average. I'm something special and I stand out. That alone to me adds beauty. took me a long time to feel that but here I am.
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
Lol I have to say- maybe?!
I have a 13 month old and need to lose the baby weight, I JUST committed to doing so this month. If I lost 20 pounds, I would say yes.
With the baby weight, I put alot of effort into it- dressing to accommodate/mask the mid section, manis and pedis, eyebrows, facials, hair....it takes work but 85% of the time, YES!
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Yes, I am considered attractive and most of the time I know that I am very pretty.
Perceptions about beauty are a double edged sword though. Yes, in many ways my life has been easier because I am pretty. And i have definitely reaped those advantages but it cuts both ways. For instance, during law school when I interviewed at all the big law firms it was no coincidence that I got call backs at all the firms where my interviewer was male and none where my interviewer was female.
In addition, I feel like people automatically assume that I am not that intelligent. So I feel like I have to work harder to show people that you can be attractive AND intelligent. People are reticent to believe that the two can co-exist. It doesn't help that I look much younger than my age so I find it difficult to garner respect as a corporate attorney.
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
we're all gods children and beautiful in our own way
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I consider myself attractive- but more importantly I like the person that I have become
I was always pretty since about 12 when I out grew my baby fat and perm-
but liking myself and having confidence in something other then my looks is true power
it makes me sad that so many other of you amazing ladies haven't gotten there yet and I hope you find your way- self estem comes from with in and once you find it - watch out world!
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I think I'm okay. With effort, I think I could be hot, but as a FTWM, I barely have time for anything.
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
Most of the times I think I am, but some days I just don't care.
I have a nice body, I walk like i'm on a catwalk, high heels or not, but my face is not all that pretty, unless I put some effort into it.
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Growing up I didn't see myself as attractive - I went through an awkward stage for like 12 years  But, once I hit around 17 I started to come into my own and out of awkward/ugly Then, around 18/19 I started to see that other people (men) were noticing I was no longer awkward. By 20, I caught on and started to feel OK about myself. Then, I met DH and he really made me feel confident, truly confident, which has been nice considering for such a long time growing up I didn't feel that way.
Now that I'm an adult, 28 years old, I do feel good about myself - I like how I look. If I really didn't like something and I could do something about it, I would... like, if I weighed a little more than I wanted, I would exercise. If I didn't like my nose I would have it done, whatever. But, I'm pretty happy - a few months back I did feel like my clothes weren't looking quite the same so I did slim a bit to make them look/feel better on.
I'm happy with my hair and face -- but make up makes a big difference b/c I'm pretty deathly pale lol. So, I think eye liner, mascara, and blush go a long way!
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
Not at all. I have horrible self-esteem.
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