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hopingforbaby
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
If I put in the effort, I can be decent looking. But if I have to choose between blown out hair and 15 mins of extra sleep in the AM, sleep pretty much always wins.  I also need to lose about 20lbs to feel comfy with my body. Overall I would say I am average I guess.
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allIwant
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by MsSissy
some days yes.
some days no.
This for me too!
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| Posted 2/11/13 7:59 PM |
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gdubs
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
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Posted by MRsFaTThead
I think I look good. Dh thinks I'm hot.
Hellllloooo. My bpics say it all
I think sometimes over-confidence can make someone pretty seem pretty ugly.
Actually I would prefer somoene be over confident and self assured than cry whoa is me, I'm soooo ugly, and disparage themselves etc
And most people I talk to find confidence to be super sexy and attractive.
Agreed. She's good looking and knows it ... isn't being a jerk about it. Just being silly.
But when you're good looking and go fishing for compliments -- that's annoying to me.
Ignore, Roz. You're a fine piece of woman. If you were a piece of clothing -- I'd totally cut the tags off you and wear the shit out of you FOREVER.
That's a pickup line with a one time usage only ... specifically tailored for you 
I honestly would not have expected any different response from Roz and I think that is the reason people love her. A little bit of cockyness thrown in with honesty and humor along the way.
The perfect mix IMO!!!!!
Exactly!!! I smiled when I read Roz's response because that was just HER. And most people would kill for her confidence. 
To answer the question for myself I clean up alright! There are days I put in zero effort and it shows... I'll give myself an "EEESH" when I look in the mirror those days... but if I actually take some time then I'm usually pretty happy with how I look. I like my eyes, hate my nose and complexion but you work with what you have!
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| Posted 2/11/13 9:06 PM |
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DrMeg
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
I used to think I was. I have put on a lot of weight since DH and I met and don't like what I see in the mirror now. But he loves me and thinks I am beautiful (and tells me that all the time) and thats what matters most.
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| Posted 2/11/13 9:15 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by Hofstra26
I think I have a pretty face, I just wish I had my old pre weight gain and pre baby body of my teens and twenties. Hopefully after baby #2 comes and I can get back to Weight Watchers my body will be better and I will find the "whole package" more attractive. 
This is pretty much my answer as well. I think my face is pretty, especially when I put on makeup (which I do regularly if I am leaving the house). I am far from thrilled with my body these days.
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| Posted 2/11/13 9:42 PM |
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rsquared
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I think I am a solid 7, but I have a cute personality and I cook, so that gets extra points.
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| Posted 2/11/13 10:13 PM |
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AllyMally
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
On the average day i'm pretty homely lol, but when I clean up I do alright. I am the poster child for what good make-up and fixing your hair can do to change your appearance. I get down about it some days, but then my husband comes home and sees me a frizzy, sweaty, breakfast/lunch/dinner stained barfed on peed on mess and STILL thinks i'm hot. I have learned to make peace with myself. The last thing I want is to make my daughter have low self esteem like I had growing up.
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| Posted 2/11/13 10:33 PM |
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I think I still have the potential I looked perfect in my teens but starting at 18 a hormonal imbalance ( PCOS) basicly destroyed my body. If I could lose 50lbs Id probably look nearly as good as I did when i was 17, I didnt age bad aside from that. I dont mind my body not being perfect after 3 kids, Id just would like to have a waist and a slimmer face. I also dont put much effort into myself and refuse to spend much money myself. If I buy makeup it's from the dollar store If I do go out I usually am always dressed up, full hair and makeup and am a bit of a offbeat fashion wise so that makes me stick out a lil more ( I used to be " goth" haha but my style is more vintage pinup now) I love the way I look pregnant so Im content with myself now. But it is hard when I run into people who knew me in my skinny teen days and makes me a lil paranoid thinking in their head they are going " what happen to her?" HaHa
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AdoptedCalm
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by rsquared
I think I am a solid 7, but I have a cute personality and I cook, so that gets extra points.
I think I'm beautiful but I'm just a beginner when it comes to cooking, so I guess I lose some points.  But my SO thinks I look really cute when I help him cook, so that brings me back to being pretty darn good looking.
And I have a man that can cook, so at the end of the day, I am definitely satisfied with life.
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| Posted 2/12/13 1:42 AM |
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Alli06
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
When I was in my 20s then yes I thought I was kind of attractive. At about 29 after my first son was born everything went down hill. My weight has been up and down between two kids and I just look old. My face changed so much. I used to be so photogenic and now I can't stand pictures of myself.
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| Posted 2/12/13 3:54 AM |
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sultana
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
No I am not- have not been for awhile
working to change that though
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| Posted 2/12/13 5:18 AM |
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MrsMick
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
I think I am. Even better body wise when I'm not pregnant. Ill admit, I'm kind of vain and I really do like what I see. I wasn't always like this but once I hit 21 or so I have become extremely confident.
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| Posted 2/12/13 7:09 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by LL514
but isn't that the problem now??
if you think you're ugly, everyone says oh hey now be confident in yourself!
if you think you're attractive everyone says you are full of yourself and conceited.
she wasn't being conceited, she was being confident and shouldn't we all be confident in ourselves?
Thinking you are attractive does not automatically equal conceit - or even self confidence. Thinking you are physically unattractive does not automatically equate to lack of self confidence or poor self esteem.
As a society we really attach WAY too much value to 'looking good'.
Some people simply 'know their strengths'. Some folks can think "I'm really beautiful.. but I wish I had more patience or I wish I had a better degree or I wish I had more friends."
Some folks can think "I know I'm not really 'pretty' - but I have a fantastic sense of humor and I am brave."
If they are speaking the truth - that's not conceit and it's not a scary lack of confidence - it is just knowing who they are and what they are.
CONCEIT - IMO - is when you are so prideful that you no longer see the 'reality' of a situation and no room for improvement in any area. Lack of confidence is usually evidenced by folks who look at themselves and can't seem to find anything that is worthy about them. I mean - if a person thinks the ONLY important thing in life is LOOKS and they either loathe or love their own, that's a problem - but I don't think anyone here sees things like that!
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CunningOne
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Nah, always been the ugly duckling and I'm ok with that. I have a wonderful husband who likes what he sees and that's all I care about
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| Posted 2/12/13 7:30 AM |
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Lannasmama
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
To be honest, no I do not think I am all that attractive. Very rarely I will say ok today I look presentable.
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| Posted 2/12/13 7:34 AM |
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Lannasmama
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by evrythng4areason
eh i have horrible self esteem-i think there's so many out there who are better looking than i
i clean up alright i suppose, but i've never felt that pretty-i constantly look at others and admire them for their beauty
Yes! Me exactly!
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HoneymoonBaby
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Do you think you are an attractive person?
Having DD took a toll on my body and I struggle with my weight. But, since having my DD I've never felt more womanly and accepting of my body. Since my body nurtured and produced such an amazing child, I can't hate it that much... I would never want my own daughter to hate her body or her looks, so I try to make sure that I set a good example for her.
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jam11308
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by rojerono
Thinking you are attractive does not automatically equal conceit - or even self confidence. Thinking you are physically unattractive does not automatically equate to lack of self confidence or poor self esteem.
I think Rojerono/Jeannie's entire post is spot on, but this part especially stood out to me. I answered that I'm not attractive - my answer doesn't come from lack of self esteem or confidence. I'm just a realist. I can look in the mirror & be honest with myself. Did it bother me when I was younger? Hell yeah! Now? I couldn't give 2 figs - my life is pretty damn fantastic & having better skin or a smaller nose wouldn't affect that in the least lol It honestly doesn't bother me anymore - it just is what it is
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by rojerono
Thinking you are attractive does not automatically equal conceit - or even self confidence. Thinking you are physically unattractive does not automatically equate to lack of self confidence or poor self esteem.
I agree with the first part for sure. I am not conceited but I think I am pretty. I do not think I am the most gorgeous woman on earth but if I were say Alessandra Ambrosia I might think that and that still wouldnt make me conceited it would be a fact that I am better looking than most
The second part I don't know. Personally attractive is a loose term, IMO to not find yourself attractive at all does seem to *me* to equate to low self esteem. But maybe I am looking more into the kind of person someone is whereas this question was soley focused on 'looks', see for me it is hard to seperate the two. Someone being attractive goes so much deeper than looks for me. When you KNOW someone and LIKE them you see things that you might not if they were a stranger stading in front of you and people become more or less attractive accordingly.
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ModDot
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by rojerono
Posted by LL514
but isn't that the problem now??
if you think you're ugly, everyone says oh hey now be confident in yourself!
if you think you're attractive everyone says you are full of yourself and conceited.
she wasn't being conceited, she was being confident and shouldn't we all be confident in ourselves?
Thinking you are attractive does not automatically equal conceit - or even self confidence. Thinking you are physically unattractive does not automatically equate to lack of self confidence or poor self esteem.
As a society we really attach WAY too much value to 'looking good'.
Some people simply 'know their strengths'. Some folks can think "I'm really beautiful.. but I wish I had more patience or I wish I had a better degree or I wish I had more friends."
Some folks can think "I know I'm not really 'pretty' - but I have a fantastic sense of humor and I am brave."
If they are speaking the truth - that's not conceit and it's not a scary lack of confidence - it is just knowing who they are and what they are.
CONCEIT - IMO - is when you are so prideful that you no longer see the 'reality' of a situation and no room for improvement in any area. Lack of confidence is usually evidenced by folks who look at themselves and can't seem to find anything that is worthy about them. I mean - if a person thinks the ONLY important thing in life is LOOKS and they either loathe or love their own, that's a problem - but I don't think anyone here sees things like that!
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Ophelia
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by rojerono
Thinking you are attractive does not automatically equal conceit - or even self confidence. Thinking you are physically unattractive does not automatically equate to lack of self confidence or poor self esteem.
As a society we really attach WAY too much value to 'looking good'.
Some people simply 'know their strengths'. Some folks can think "I'm really beautiful.. but I wish I had more patience or I wish I had a better degree or I wish I had more friends."
Some folks can think "I know I'm not really 'pretty' - but I have a fantastic sense of humor and I am brave."
If they are speaking the truth - that's not conceit and it's not a scary lack of confidence - it is just knowing who they are and what they are.
CONCEIT - IMO - is when you are so prideful that you no longer see the 'reality' of a situation and no room for improvement in any area. Lack of confidence is usually evidenced by folks who look at themselves and can't seem to find anything that is worthy about them. I mean - if a person thinks the ONLY important thing in life is LOOKS and they either loathe or love their own, that's a problem - but I don't think anyone here sees things like that!
I love this!!!!! 
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
No, every once in awhile yes but mostly no. Thank God for my other good qualities 
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| Posted 2/12/13 10:31 AM |
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jambalady
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Yes, I do.
but in terms of pure physical beauty, attractive to me is not the same as drop dead gorgeous.
I would generally think along these lines:
5-10% of all people - GORGEOUS, drop dead beautiful - "some of your supermodels, movie stars, etc. just some.
30% - "attractive" - this is in your slightly above average category. "pretty but . . ." could lose a little weight, nose is too big, eyes too far apart, etc. Not a drop dead stunner, but generally appealing. I put myself in this category
40% - average
20% - below average/"ugly"
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computergirl
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
One thing I wanted to add to this discussion--
It's so easy to say that we as a society are so hung up on looks, that looks don't really matter, etc. But the thing is, they DO matter.
I replied to this thread yesterday and I said that I would call myself attractive, but not naturally so at all. It definitely takes effort to make me presentable and I do put in that effort nearly every day. But the thing is, I can honestly say I've been "pretty" and I've been "ugly", and the truth is EVERYTHING is easier when you're pretty. Not just in dating or in terms of male attention. You're just treated better in many areas of life. You're noticed. Back when I put less effort into my appearance, I might as well have been invisible.
I'm surprised nobody has mentioned this yet on the thread.
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| Posted 2/12/13 10:51 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Do you think you are an attractive person?
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by rojerono
Thinking you are attractive does not automatically equal conceit - or even self confidence. Thinking you are physically unattractive does not automatically equate to lack of self confidence or poor self esteem.
I agree with the first part for sure. I am not conceited but I think I am pretty. I do not think I am the most gorgeous woman on earth but if I were say Alessandra Ambrosia I might think that and that still wouldnt make me conceited it would be a fact that I am better looking than most
The second part I don't know. Personally attractive is a loose term, IMO to not find yourself attractive at all does seem to *me* to equate to low self esteem. But maybe I am looking more into the kind of person someone is whereas this question was soley focused on 'looks', see for me it is hard to seperate the two. Someone being attractive goes so much deeper than looks for me. When you KNOW someone and LIKE them you see things that you might not if they were a stranger stading in front of you and people become more or less attractive accordingly.
The OP specifically said she was talking about skin deep beauty - not pretty on the inside stuff. I answered honestly. I am fat, my skin is sallow and I have larger pores than I'd like. My nose is too small for my face, my head is large, my teeth need massive amounts of work, my hair is thinning. I cannot in all honesty or good conscious look at myself and say "Man.. I'm a babe." I don't take this as the greatest hit in life. I also don't sing well, I am messy and I am terrible with money. This is not me being 'down on myself' or lacking esteem, it's me being able to look at myself with honesty and clarity that is not biased by acknowledgements of my more positive attributes.
On the other hand - I am intelligent. I have a good work ethic. I am kind and I am generous with my time and whatever money I have. I am a good parent, a loving wife and an attentive friend. I try to make people feel good about themselves. I cook really well, I am fair minded and even tempered and I have a fantastic (albeit slightly warped) sense of humor. And I'm pretty great in the sack. This is not conceit - it's a fair and honest assessment of what I know about myself - and I know me pretty well.
You are right on one thing.. when you know someone you see them differently - but it doesn't truly blind you - it simply makes you more forgiving of the parts when the sum is wholly beautiful. OP wasn't asking about the whole.. she was asking about the parts.
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