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Bridex100
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Sunday weddings and work
DH is a groomsman in a Sunday wedding in Manhattan. DS is the ring bearer. We now live in the DC area. I have a work meeting at 10:00 in DC on Monday morning. DH doesn't have to work on Monday.
The wedding starts at 4:30pm. What time do you think the wedding will end?
We already booked a hotel in Tribeca for Sat and Sun night.
WWYD?
A. Leave wedding with entire family at around 8pm and drive home to DC.
B. Leave wedding with boys around 7pm to hotel and let DH stay longer at the wedding. Take a flight or train by myself very early Mon morning. This will cost me an extra $200-400.
C. Leave wedding with boys at 7pm, go back to hotel and wait for DH. When DH is done, get in car and drive halfway to around Philly and spend the night. We can drive down the rest of the way to DC on Mon morning
D. Leave boys with DH at the wedding while I fly or train it back to DC by myself on Sun
E. Drive home to DC Sun eve by myself and leave DH at wedding. He can train/fly back by himself on Mon.
I think the obvious answer is A but I don't want DH to miss his friend's wedding, esp if he doesn't have to work on Mon.
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Don't know if this was a choice , but how about you leave in the car with the boys around 8 Sunday evening and DH train or fly home Monday.
Was this choice E?
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:03 AM |
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halfbaked
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
I'd probably go with B. I know spending the extra money stinks, but I would not want to drive home late on Sunday night with the whole family... or by myself for that matter. Plus, I don't really see the point of saying to DH "Yeah, you can stay but here's the kids and I need to leave." KWIM?
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:05 AM |
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alli3131
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Sunday weddings and work
I would just leave Sun night after the wedding. it will probably be over at 10 or 11. Maybe leave a bit early. Kids can sleep in the car.
Its only a 4-5 hr drive. For that short of a drive i would nto stop halfway.
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:11 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by alli3131
I would just leave Sun night after the wedding. it will probably be over at 10 or 11. Maybe leave a bit early. Kids can sleep in the car.
Its only a 4-5 hr drive. For that short of a drive i would nto stop halfway.
DH and I both don't like night driving. We are usually in bed by 9-10pm (we wake up at 6 everyday). DH and I would probably both be falling asleep behind the wheel by midnight.
I don't even like to drive during the day!
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:45 AM |
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MrsO
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Is the ceremony at 4:30 or is that the reception?
I would not have dh leave the wedding early. If anything would it be to much for you to leave dh behind and you take the kids and just drive home. I would feel bad having him leave early or have him keep the kids at the wedding.
I will assume the meeting can't be rescheduled?
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:54 AM |
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Bearcat
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
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| Posted 8/28/13 11:54 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by MrsO
Is the ceremony at 4:30 or is that the reception?
I would not have dh leave the wedding early. If anything would it be to much for you to leave dh behind and you take the kids and just drive home. I would feel bad having him leave early or have him keep the kids at the wedding.
I will assume the meeting can't be rescheduled?
Ceremony starts at 4:30 but it is at the same location as the reception.
I am assuming the wedding ceremony will be over around 5:30, cocktail hour and then dinner at 7 or so.
DH did not get the schedule for before the wedding.
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:01 PM |
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ThePinkGoose
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Sunday weddings and work
I would reschedule my meeting being that I have advance notice.
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:14 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by ThePinkGoose
I would reschedule my meeting being that I have advance notice.
This or I would choose B or E.
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:18 PM |
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mbg1007
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
You said you already booked a hotel for sat and sun night, so it sounds like you werent planning on going to work on Monday in which case your job had avance notice that you couldnt be in, is that accurate? If so, I would ask to be excused from the meeting given that work was already on notice, have it rescheduled or ask to be skyped/conference called in.
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:18 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by mbg1007
You said you already booked a hotel for sat and sun night, so it sounds like you werent planning on going to work on Monday in which case your job had avance notice that you couldnt be in, is that accurate? If so, I would ask to be excused from the meeting given that work was already on notice, have it rescheduled or ask to be skyped/conference called in.
I never told work that I would not be at work on Monday.
I actually work a flex schedule so normally it would not be an issue but this is a very important meeting with out of town attendees. I have to be there.
Normally I would have put that I would be out of office on the calendar but I am out of work due to some surgery I had a few weeks ago.
eta: It would be easy for me to say I would miss the meeting but I don't want to miss it. plus even if I were up in NY, I would have retired early with the kids anyways.
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:29 PM |
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Cheeks24
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Sunday weddings and work
This coming Monday as in Labor Day?
A one way ticket on Amtrak prior to two weeks booking is under $100
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:49 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by Cheeks24
This coming Monday as in Labor Day?
A one way ticket on Amtrak prior to two weeks booking is under $100
Not this weekend. No way would my boss expect to work on Labor Day. Wedding is in mid-sept.
I think many people do the early am trains/flights for business so they always cost more.
I have flown to ny/dc for less than $100 for pleasure many times.
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| Posted 8/28/13 12:50 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
early am flight for you or stay home.
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:00 PM |
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chilltocam
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Sunday weddings and work
I'm confused about E - who do the kids go with? Depending on the answer, I'd go with that or B (except that if you are going to go back to the hotel in NY, why would you have to leave the wedding by 7? Couldn't you stay until 9-ish or so?)
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:04 PM |
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LiveandLearn
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
If it were me, I would stay at the wedding with my family and take an early train back Monday morning.
I take the train to DC often during the week and it is such an easy trip. It might make for a little bit of a long day since it will be a late night the night before but you can nap on the train on the way down.
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:14 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by chilltocam
I'm confused about E - who do the kids go with? Depending on the answer, I'd go with that or B (except that if you are going to go back to the hotel in NY, why would you have to leave the wedding by 7? Couldn't you stay until 9-ish or so?)
E would be me driving to DC with the boys Sun eve.
I don't think our kids would last until 9, esp if we are the reception by 4 or so. My 4yo would be fine but my 2yo can barely sit still for a 30 min dinner at a casual restaurant. this is a black tie event with barely any kids. I plan on bringing a lot of things to entertain them but nothing will work after 8pm if my 2yo is tired. I am not looking forward to this wedding!
Message edited 8/28/2013 1:18:35 PM.
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:18 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Can you find out if they planned to provide a babysitter perhaps in the bridal suite? I think that's a valid question. You are one of a few people with young children, you are traveling and one of them is in the bridal party. What do they think you will do with a 2 year old for an entire black tie wedding?
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:33 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
Posted by Blu-ize
Can you find out if they planned to provide a babysitter perhaps in the bridal suite? I think that's a valid question. You are one of a few people with young children, you are traveling and one of them is in the bridal party. What do they think you will do with a 2 year old for an entire black tie wedding?
They have not mentioned a babysitter so I doubt it. All of the groom's friends are mostly single. A few guys are married but most of the guys are bachelors. DH is the only dad.
I was in a very formal wedding last yr. My friend offered me a babysitter but I declined. DH went up to NY with me for the wedding but they didn't actually attend. They stopped by cocktail hour to say hello but they did not come to the ceremony or stay for the reception.
this time older DS is the ring bearer so circumstances are different.
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:45 PM |
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MrsG823
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Sunday weddings and work
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nancy6485
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
I would leave all together early Monday morning
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| Posted 8/28/13 1:54 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
B
But I don't see the need to leave 2 hours in to the reception. If you're going to attend the wedding, you should attend. Leaving right after the cake is cut is one thing .....but taking the kids and leaving at 7:00 .......??
If the ceremony is 4:30, the reception won't begin until 5 at the earliest -
I would go to the wedding, leave when it's over and let DH drive back on Monday when he's rested w/ the kids - while you take a flight to make your 10:00 meeting
ETA - I just read the reception begins @ 4:00 - sorry.
I'd still do B
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| Posted 8/28/13 2:09 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: Sunday weddings and work
For me, B would be the option.
If he and your DS are in the wedding, I would not expect DH to leave the wedding early and as the bride/groom, i'd be really disappointed if one of the groomsmen left the wedding a few hours early.
to me, a 4:30 invite, means the ceremony starts at 5 - goes til 5:30 or 6. Cocktail hour is from 5:30 - 6:30, then reception 7 - 10/11.
I would go to the wedding and then you leave the ceremony with your kids (or at least the 2 year old) around 8 and go back to the hotel.
If you have to be back for a 10 am meeting, then you leave the hotel super early and get a train back, while your DH and the kids can sleep in and drive back as planned.
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| Posted 8/28/13 2:13 PM |
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Posted by Otherme
For me, B would be the option.
If he and your DS are in the wedding, I would not expect DH to leave the wedding early and as the bride/groom, i'd be really disappointed if one of the groomsmen left the wedding a few hours early.
to me, a 4:30 invite, means the ceremony starts at 5 - goes til 5:30 or 6. Cocktail hour is from 5:30 - 6:30, then reception 7 - 10/11.
I would go to the wedding and then you leave the ceremony with your kids (or at least the 2 year old) around 8 and go back to the hotel.
If you have to be back for a 10 am meeting, then you leave the hotel super early and get a train back, while your DH and the kids can sleep in and drive back as planned.
I agree.
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