How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I normally tell people who ask me how much weight I've gained that I don't know because I do not ask the nurse & I usually don't care if they believe me or not. But yesterday, I was feeling especially well & in a great mood & when MIL asked me in front of 12 people btw, I actually answered. Today I am ****** at myself & ****** that she seriously asked me this in front of all of her guests at thanksgiving.

What can I reply next time without being rude? What do you guys do?

Message edited 11/27/2009 10:33:55 AM.

Re: If you don't like the question about how much weight you've gained, what do you say to people?

I would just say that i dont know, that i dont really pay attention to how much weight i have gained

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I usually say that I don't pay attention either, since I got tired of the looks I was getting. I only gained 14 total at my 28 week appt....and everyone kept saying I wasn't eating enough. But, according to my doc I'm doing fine....

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

ugh that is so annoying. this happened to me yesterday as well on Thanksgiving from someone i don't know that well but I was kind of expecting it as soon as the how-much-weight-they gained in all of their pregnancies conversation started. I just said "more than 20 lbs" but I was annoyed that I felt obligated to answer. My mom asks me this constantly and I just tell her an average amount and what does it really matter and then she'll try to get it out of me the next day anyway. I find it really insulting, especially when you've made it clear you don't want to answer and you keep getting pressed about it. I was also asked this at work in front of all my coworkers! And, of course, I answered because I am so polite. But we should probably just say "a healthy amount" and that pretty much says it all. arg.

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

How about.... "none of your business!"

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

ugh i hate this. MIL yesterday said to me, youre so small; are you eating? she always says this because im not really showing that much yet and im 21 weeks. i mean i have a belly but not that huge yet. i have been sick since day one and i think this has to do with it and not having an appetite but i know baby is healthy; the told me so im not worried; why is she? ugh! sorry ranting

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I'm at 15 lbs over 26 weeks

If they say I look big/small I generally snip back the doctors said I'm right where I should be

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

what i would like to say: "the perfect amount for a perfectly healthy baby"

but i will probably just say the amount b/c i am bad in situations like that

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

Next time, I would joke and say, "Geez, do you want to know my underwear size, too?"
Or, "Oh great, are we taking a survey? How much do YOU weigh?" Haha, but I'm a sarcastic beyotch, so that might not work for you.
Maybe try, "Hmm, I actually don't know!" and play dumb. That usually works. Or lie and just say, "Actually, I've managed to lose weight! Pregnancy does wonders for me!"

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Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I usually answer but, only b/c the people who have asked me have been other preggos lookin for their own comparison KWIM. I think it is an EXTREMELY inappropriate question for someone to ask for no reason at all. I would probably answer just b/c I know I have gained a completely normal amount of weight and wouldn't want to imply otherwise but, would probably respond something to the effect of "Why? How much do you weigh?" to show them how rude it was to ask in the first place!

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MIL likes to asks me too. At least she hasn't done it in front over anyone besides DH. I just respond with the amount I gained so far. I am only 11 weeks 4 days so I don't mind sharing for now.

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No one ever asks me this. Probably bc I am already overweight, but I really wish they would so I can say ZERO so far! But I can see how it can get REALLY annoying so I guess I am pretty lucky.

Can you say something snappy like 10 lbs...how much have you gained?

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I don't know why people think this question is appropriate. It is so rude.

My response during this pregnancy will be the same one I gave throughout my first one to the annoying twits who ask: "My doctor and I are very happy because my weight is in the healthy range for a woman at___weeks of pregnancy" (insert whatever week I am in at that point).

What I really wanted to say was "Hey at least pregnancy gives me an excuse to gain some weight" (while looking the person up and down)

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I usually just say enough for me and the baby to be health.

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I usually just told them, because I didn't care and knew I would lose the weight after the baby. Sure I got ridiculous comments, but I shut them up when I fit into my pre-preggo clothes quite quickly!

Some people are just stupid, and usually the ones who ask these questions will never be satisfied with what you tell them, so don't sweat it hun!

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I ask them how much weight they have gained!!!! I hate when people ask me that...If i wasn't pregnant they wouldn't ask and I sure wouldn't ask them.

I usually will respond with "a good amount...I am enjoying my pregnancy thank you"

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I just tell people, it doesnt bother me when they ask that question

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

"My doctor is so pleased with the growth of baby, I'm probably gaining what I need to. The health of my baby is so important to me."

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

IVE LOST 5 POUND AND PPL TELL ME ALL THE TIME THT IS NOT GOOD. WE ARE DAMNED IF WE DO AND DAMENED IF WE DONT.

Re: How do you respond to the question about how much weight you've gained?

I usually say "the amount a pregnant woman gains"... but i also respond to the "how are you feeling" question as "pregnant"

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I simply tell the truth... I know it's a lot and will come off after I give Birth as it did last time

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I hate this!!!