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MarathonKnitter
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A different Tipping question
You're invited to a milestone birthday party at a private home. When you get there, there's a hired bartender.
How do you feel about there being a tip jar?
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Posted 5/12/17 5:04 PM  |
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Re: A different Tipping question
I don't think it's a big deal.
ETA: I don't think it is something I would do, but I wouldn't think twice if I saw it done.
Message edited 5/13/2017 9:30:30 AM.
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LSP2005
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Re: A different Tipping question
Tacky
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| Posted 5/12/17 6:23 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: A different Tipping question
Posted by LSP2005
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I agree. If i had a party in my home, I would tip the bartender. I wouldn't expect my guests to.
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| Posted 5/12/17 6:31 PM |
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RainyDay
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A different Tipping question
Host should tip them
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| Posted 5/12/17 7:27 PM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: A different Tipping question
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by LSP2005
Tacky
I agree. If i had a party in my home, I would tip the bartender. I wouldn't expect my guests to.
Yepp
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| Posted 5/12/17 7:51 PM |
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Sweet
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A different Tipping question
I agree with it being tacky, just like I think its tacky when a this happens at weddings lol
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| Posted 5/12/17 8:48 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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A different Tipping question
THANK YOU. 
i didn't want to be a "prude" and put my opinion out there before reading replies.
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jlm2008
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Re: A different Tipping question
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by LSP2005
Tacky
I agree. If i had a party in my home, I would tip the bartender. I wouldn't expect my guests to.
ITA! Who does that???
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: A different Tipping question
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by StaceyWill
Posted by LSP2005
Tacky
I agree. If i had a party in my home, I would tip the bartender. I wouldn't expect my guests to.
ITA! Who does that???
i'm gathering quotes from vendors for SO's surprise 50th, next year.
all of the bartenders include a tip jar in their quotes, either as an option (with or without and their different prices) or as part of the service. reading that left a bad taste in my mouth. i don't invite people to my house to pay my vendors for me. if i wanted/needed to do that, i wouldn't have the party.
was just wondering what other people thought about it.
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| Posted 5/13/17 11:47 AM |
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JME78
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A different Tipping question
I would pay the tip, I would never pass that onto my guests.
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| Posted 5/13/17 2:07 PM |
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jamnmore
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A different Tipping question
Is that any different from going to a wedding and there being a tip jar on the bar. I went to a wedding, at a well known NY location, and that was the exact circumstance.
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| Posted 5/15/17 1:02 PM |
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Tulips915
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Re: A different Tipping question
The host tips the bartenders, NOT the guests.
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| Posted 5/15/17 1:10 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: A different Tipping question
Posted by MarathonKnitter
You're invited to a milestone birthday party at a private home. When you get there, there's a hired bartender.
How do you feel about there being a tip jar?
As a party hostess...I would be pissed if the hired bartender put out a tip jar.
As a guest, I would be peeved but probably would not think that much about it.
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| Posted 5/15/17 1:39 PM |
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Peainapod
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Re: A different Tipping question
OMG..my sister in law got married at a winery in upstate NY and everything was catered in. The bar staff that my sister in law paid and tipped separately so they wouldt put out a jar, and they did anyway. She went over there and made them remove it...she was PISSED!!!
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| Posted 5/15/17 9:12 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: A different Tipping question
It's often the case that the bartender IS tipped by the host. However, some people also tip themselves, and I think that's ok. Guests shouldn't feel obligated, but if they choose to leave an extra tip, then the bartender deserves it!
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| Posted 5/16/17 8:44 AM |
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Paramount
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A different Tipping question
A tip jar at ANY event is Tacky. ESPECIALLY a wedding/barmitzvah...anywhere that the host is paying them a tip to be there.
TACKY all around.
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| Posted 5/16/17 10:01 AM |
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Re: A different Tipping question
If it's in the contract, doesn't that give the host/ess the opportunity to pay the gratuity themselves?
If that is the case, and the host/ess chooses not to then it is them that is the tacky one if anyone, not the person who is bartending.
JMHO
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| Posted 5/16/17 11:49 AM |
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A different Tipping question
I am clearly in the minority here but I wouldn't give the tip jar a second thought.
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