Re: So Upset

You did what was best for you and your baby. That particular date was not significant. When people are grieving, many times they just assume that everyone should think of them before anyone else. I hope that it is just their grief talking and maybe their therapy can help them see that.

I don't know if anyone ever gets over the loss of a child, and I can understand that it would make them somewhat self-centered for quite a while. I would think they would welcome such wonderful news in the middle of such a difficult time for them. You did nothing wrong - enjoy your new little girl and let them work out their issues in their own time. Don't feel bad or guilty at all.

Re: So Upset

I am so sorry you have to go thru this. Your daughters birth regardless of the day is a true gift from God, and you should always honor it as such! I hope they can one day see how insane of an accusation this is, and that you all will get along again.

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OMG Gina I cannot believe what I am reading I am sorry of your families heart ache but to treat you this way is beyond wrong You did what you felt was right for your daughter and if having her on the 17th was what was to be there is nothing anyone ought to have anything to say about it. I am sorry

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Just thought I'd post an update to my situation. I talked to my Aunt today and that solved nothing. I cried, she cried...it was a mess. I told her as hurt and her children were, we are hurt too and we feel as though this has been taken out on our daughter. I decided to sit and write a letter. It explained everything--from our troubles with a miscarriage, our trying to conceive, my progesterone supplements and the heart scare we had while pregnant. All the induction info and how hurt we are about the situation. I deserve an oscar for this letter haha. I mailed it out to everyone in our family who is involved. I read the letter to my mother and she cried and told me how proud of me she was and how this letter wasn't even necessary. Now they have our situation in black and white and if they choose to still feel the way they do then they are heartless bastards I have to say writing it was theraputic!

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Re: So Upset Updated

I think sometimes it does help to write things down. Sort of like a journal. I hope they realize how wrong they are.

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I'm sorry you are going through this. It should be such a beautiful time for you and your family. I hope that the letter helps resolve things.

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OMG- this is just sooo horrible...

As a mom who lost a baby , I would NEVER EVER judge anyone who happened to have this situation occur.

OMG...Im at a loss for words at THEIR insensitivety...you would think a child would be seen as a blessing.

a date is just a date as rough and emotional as it may be...thats ALL it is...The memory of their loved child is still there, is not tarnished etc....

I feel for you...IF IT were ME..I think I would write them an email or letter, where you can say all you need to...explaining how you feel and asking them to please think about what your saying and understand how very hurt you are by all this.

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I just want to say that I am sorry that your Aunt could not see past her own pain.
Honestly, I can't judge these people since I am not in their situation THANK GOD, but I would hope that I would be able to feel joy again...but that might not be possible yet for these people. Sometimes just writing your thoughts can help you. I hope that it does resolve the situation, but if not, you are NOT the problem. Their pain is their problem.

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Posted by BlessedBMommi

Just thought I'd post an update to my situation. I talked to my Aunt today and that solved nothing. I cried, she cried...it was a mess. I told her as hurt and her children were, we are hurt too and we feel as though this has been taken out on our daughter. I decided to sit and write a letter. It explained everything--from our troubles with a miscarriage, our trying to conceive, my progesterone supplements and the heart scare we had while pregnant. All the induction info and how hurt we are about the situation. I deserve an oscar for this letter haha. I mailed it out to everyone in our family who is involved. I read the letter to my mother and she cried and told me how proud of me she was and how this letter wasn't even necessary. Now they have our situation in black and white and if they choose to still feel the way they do then they are heartless bastards I have to say writing it was theraputic!