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karacg
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by monkeybride
I agree. Everyone has different views on when life begins as well as beliefs in quality of life. This is why we live in a country where we are free to make these decisions.
Unless of course you live in South Dakota...
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michele31
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
There is nothing on this Earth that would make me terminate for Downs.
I don't think your poll is correct. Downs does not necessary mean a long road ahead. Tris 18 DOES! But Downs..does not = horrific life.
Scott's cousin has a baby with Downs and he is a happy, healthy child. He did have heart surgeries in the very beginning and yes, it was a scary time but he is just like Molly..talking, walking, playing games, laughing.
Scott and I discussed prior to TTC these issues. I made him fully aware that I would never terminate a pregnancy for 90% of reasons..it would have to be really, really, really bad for me and/or the baby and even then I am not sure. He knew going in how I felt and he agreed that he could live with that decision.
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| Posted 3/16/06 2:25 PM |
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michele31
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Actually in South Dakota, if the governor has HIS way you will NOT be able to terminate for ANY reason other than the mother about to die if the pregnancy continues. Not even if you would go blind or lose kidney function if you continues the pregnancy. Not even if your baby was going to be born deformed and severly medically challeged.
Make sure you let the govenor of south dakota know how you feel if you don't agree! it is VERY important that he knows that women all over the US will not stand for HIM making these decisions for us!!
His Contact Info Here
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| Posted 3/16/06 2:39 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by michele31
There is nothing on this Earth that would make me terminate for Downs.
I don't think your poll is correct. Downs does not necessary mean a long road ahead. Tris 18 DOES! But Downs..does not = horrific life.
I totally understand what you're saying, but the poll said "continue with the pregnancy, even though you know there COULD be a long, tough road ahead." It doesn't say that there WILL be a long, tough road ahead. Of course there are no guarantees either way- it could be a very mild case of DS, or it could be much more severe.
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| Posted 3/16/06 7:01 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by michele31
There is nothing on this Earth that would make me terminate for Downs.
I don't think your poll is correct. Downs does not necessary mean a long road ahead. Tris 18 DOES! But Downs..does not = horrific life.
I totally understand what you're saying, but the poll said "continue with the pregnancy, even though you know there COULD be a long, tough road ahead." It doesn't say that there WILL be a long, tough road ahead. Of course there are no guarantees either way- it could be a very mild case of DS, or it could be much more severe.
Personally for me having a child with Downs would be a long, tough road. Heart surgeries alone would send me over the edge. On top of that worrying about them growing up, caring for themselves, who will care for them as an adult when DH and I die, etc.
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| Posted 3/16/06 7:12 PM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by MrsTC
I don't understand how anyone could say they would terminate. I just don't get it.
Well I don't think that's really fair to say. You may not "get it" in terms of your own personal choice/opinion, but it's not fair to assume all people need to think the way you do.
How is not fair?I did not say "people need to think the way I do"...that was pretty forward of you to say...I said I don't get it....I am entitled to my opinion, aren't I? I personally think it is selfish...God gave you a child...and just because this child may be disabled and therefore more of a burden than a so called "normal" child, someone would terminate the pregnancy...this child wouldnt even have a chance in the world....I could not live with myself knowing that I didn't give this baby a chance. And for me, it hits home even harder because my DH and I are going on just about 18 months TTC....so for us, being able to have a child - any child regardless, would be a gift from God. And I am sure this is my own personal belief, but there is a reason for everything....if I have a disabled child, there is a reason for it and he / she just may be teaching me a lesson I might not realize until I am 90 years old....
Message edited 3/16/2006 8:06:01 PM.
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| Posted 3/16/06 7:59 PM |
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dandr10199
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by MrsTC
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by MrsTC
I don't understand how anyone could say they would terminate. I just don't get it.
Well I don't think that's really fair to say. You may not "get it" in terms of your own personal choice/opinion, but it's not fair to assume all people need to think the way you do.
How is not fair?I did not say "people need to think the way I do"...that was pretty forward of you to say...I said I don't get it....I am entitled to my opinion, aren't I? I personally think it is selfish...God gave you a child...and just because this child may be disabled and therefore more of a burden than a so called "normal" child, someone would terminate the pregnancy...this child wouldnt even have a chance in the world....I could not live with myself knowing that I didn't give this baby a chance. And for me, it hits home even harder because my DH and I are going on just about 18 months TTC....so for us, being able to have a child - any child regardless, would be a gift from God. And I am sure this is my own personal belief, but there is a reason for everything....if I have a disabled child, there is a reason for it and he / she just may be teaching me a lesson I might not realize until I am 90 years old....
Well said.
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| Posted 3/17/06 8:35 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by MrsTC
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by MrsTC
I don't understand how anyone could say they would terminate. I just don't get it.
Well I don't think that's really fair to say. You may not "get it" in terms of your own personal choice/opinion, but it's not fair to assume all people need to think the way you do.
How is not fair?I did not say "people need to think the way I do"...that was pretty forward of you to say...I said I don't get it....I am entitled to my opinion, aren't I? I personally think it is selfish...God gave you a child...and just because this child may be disabled and therefore more of a burden than a so called "normal" child, someone would terminate the pregnancy...this child wouldnt even have a chance in the world....I could not live with myself knowing that I didn't give this baby a chance. And for me, it hits home even harder because my DH and I are going on just about 18 months TTC....so for us, being able to have a child - any child regardless, would be a gift from God. And I am sure this is my own personal belief, but there is a reason for everything....if I have a disabled child, there is a reason for it and he / she just may be teaching me a lesson I might not realize until I am 90 years old....
I think that was very well said. I am hesitant sometimes to post that i don't understand termination as well, because it really is more the minority way of thinking, but you summed it up perfectly. I would never as well tell anyone they need to think the way I do...but my own, personal belief tells me that life is very precious.
I always wonder...for people who say that they couldn't handle a child with special needs, what were to happen, god forbid...if you give birth to a healthy child and something down the road happens to him or her? Can you throw in the towel then? Certainly not. You learn to become stronger b/c of the challenges out in front of you. I hope none of us ever have to deal with that, but its just somethng that crosses my mind.
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| Posted 3/17/06 9:20 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
thank you dina and maybebaby
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| Posted 3/17/06 9:32 AM |
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Claud
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Re: what do you think you would do- with poll
Posted by nferrandi
I haven't even had an ultra screen yet, I will in a few weeks, but I've been giving it some thought. If the test showed, without any doubts, that your child would have downs syndrome, what would you do?
I can kind of see two sides to this. On the one hand, it must be really tough not only for the child, but also for a marriage to deal with such serious health issues. It can a lot more of a financial burden than having a healthy child. But on the other hand, it can be a more mild case and the child can have a fairly normal life.
I'm adding a poll, so feel free to just respond to that if you're more comfortable.
This truly is such a personal decision. No one can say what is the right decision for you and your husband. But, I can tell you (from my own experience) that the Ultra Screen, AFP and Level 2 sonograms are NOT 100% reliable tests for diagnosing Down's Syndrome. These tests only try to "guess-timate" what percentage chance you have of producing a baby with a genetic disorder.
My AFP and Ultra Screen tests both came back normal during my second pregnancy. My Level II sono showed two "markers" for DS, and I was a wreck for weeks! I agonized over having the amnio. I was afraid that something bad would happen during such an invasive test - although it is very rare. The amnio really is the ONLY diagnostic prenatal test for genetic birth defects. In the end, I opted not to have the amnio, and just put my faith in God that my baby would be healthy. Thank God, she is! I will say that my husband and I did opt to do a fetal echocardiogram during the pregnancy, just so we were aware of any possible heart defects prior to the birth.
As scary and emotionally painful as my experience was, terminating was never an option for us. But, I would never judge someone who felt it was the right decision for them. Good luck to you - I hope you don't have to make these decisions at all!
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