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PennyCat
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DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
He has "b" word phobia. 
I am not ready to have a baby tomorrow but if you ask him, it's 4 years..... but if u ask me, it's .. lets wait a year and figure out where to go from there. And the idea of seriously considering this in a year is scary to him.
We need to just agree to disagree  
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Posted 11/19/08 9:19 PM  |
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marriedandttc
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Re: DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
I can't kind of understand where you are coming from. I say kind of because in my case the roles were swiched. DH has wanted to have kids for a very long time and I wanted to wait.
Finally we both agreed to start trying after we got married. We git married in September and here we are trying.
My advice would be to talk to your FH about his reasons for wanting to wait. I think that you both have to be ready because it will effect you both for the rest of your lives. He will come around. I did. You never know in a year he could be like me and be more excited then you are about having a child.
Sorry so long. Fm me if you need to. Good luck
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| Posted 11/19/08 9:50 PM |
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diva7531
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Re: DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
You both definitely need to be on the same page. It wouldn't be fair of you to rush him, just as it wouldn't be fair of him to make you wait. Maybe you can sit and talk about a compromise, like sit and talk about it in a year. Make a life plan. Ex: House in 1 year, try for babies in 2 years.
Also, explain to him that it could happen on the first try or the 40th. Good Luck
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| Posted 11/20/08 7:22 AM |
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sleepie76
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Re: DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
I wouldn't press on it too much.
Revisit it in a year. A lot can change in a year.
If it makes you feel better :
When I married my husband he told me he would probably never want children.
I didn't really care because I had a lot of things I wanted to do in life and that wasn't huge on my list at that time.
A couple years go by and he makes comments like, "let's go make a baby." I assume he's kidding.
I ask him one day and he says I really want to have a baby. 
I almost fell over!!!!
Message edited 11/20/2008 8:41:07 AM.
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jam11308
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Re: DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
Posted by sleepie76
I wouldn't press on it too much.
Revisit it in a year. A lot can change in a year.
ITA with this. My brother swore that he'd never have kids & he was dead serious - he liked them, but didn't want any. He was so serious that he & my SIL almost ended it because of that. She stuck around, though, & they got married - 3 years later they had my niece & he is the proudest father! He's a changed man 
Things can change...the good news is that your dh does want a child at some point. I wouldn't put too much stock in his 4 year plan...I bet he'll let you know that he's ready in less than 1/2 that time. In the meantime, here are some hugs 
Message edited 11/20/2008 9:26:18 AM.
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BlueDiamonds
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Re: DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
Posted by sleepie76
I wouldn't press on it too much.
Revisit it in a year. A lot can change in a year.
ITA! this was my story as well. i was ready but DH wasn't. i understood and respected his feelings on it. you would be very surprised how much things can change in a year.
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| Posted 11/20/08 11:12 AM |
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lucyloo
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| Posted 11/20/08 11:30 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: DH and I can never agree on the baby making thing.....
Posted by diva7531
You both definitely need to be on the same page. It wouldn't be fair of you to rush him, just as it wouldn't be fair of him to make you wait. Maybe you can sit and talk about a compromise, like sit and talk about it in a year. Make a life plan. Ex: House in 1 year, try for babies in 2 years.
Also, explain to him that it could happen on the first try or the 40th. Good Luck
ITA...
i hope everything works out!!
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| Posted 11/20/08 11:33 AM |
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