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sleepie76
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
Posted by QueSeraSera
Posted by StressedNoMore
I know some of you here have been trying for a long time with no luck and some get BFP with in a 1 or 2 or trying... And yes it hurts to see some of us getting that BFP month after month and for us nothing... For those who have no luck and that have been trying for months dont get upset of mad at those who have luck...
The way I look at it is I am here on this earth healthy and if god wanted me to have children he will give them to me and if he gives me no children well then there is a reason for it...
I have to say that I don't agree with this statement. God also gave me and many others crappy eyesight- but I don't think that's b/c he wants us walking around blind, does it?
I think it's more just the luck of the draw....as someone who is currently going through my second mc, I can't imagine that God is doing this on purpose- I think it's either rotten luck, or something is a bit wonky in my body that needs to be fixed.
For the record, I do not feel negatively at all towards those who get quick BFPs and go on to carry full term. I am actually very happy for you. But to insinuate that God wants you to have kids of your own and others not to seems kind of insensitive to me.
I completely agree.
I am not taking my miscarriages as a sign that god does not want me to have children. I was rather bothered by that comment & find it insensitive.
There are plenty of people that have kids and abuse them...So God chose them to have children but not me ??
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
Some comments be actually be negative and some may actually be just construed as negative.
I wish I could have the innocence and excitement of TTC naturally, of getting that BFP all on my own and going through a pregnancy without all of the anxiety and strife that will come with it. It will never happen for me that way. So, I restrain myself quite a bit, I don't want to come off negative or a downer. But at the same time, sometimes I want to tell people that are just TTC for 2 or 3 months that are making themselves crazy over testing and overanalyzing every little twinge that you have to relax, and not relax to get a BFP. You need to relax b/c it may not happen the way you planned, and if it doesn't all the stress you place on yourself is going to drive you insane. and your DH. The relaxing is all easier said than done, but making yourself crazy and getting depressed when AF comes when you've only been trying for 3 months is not good for you, mentally physically or emotionally. It's no good for you no matter how long you've been trying, but if you just started, you may end up, like me, with a long road ahead of you.
So when someone posts something that you think is negative, maybe it is, but maybe they are trying to help you from the experiences they have had. It's hard to convey how you feel in a post, there is no emotion, there is no inflection or tone that can be interpreted in a post.
Message edited 9/29/2008 8:57:49 AM.
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StressedNoMore
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
The way I look at it is I am here on this earth healthy and if god wanted me to have children he will give them to me and if he gives me no children well then there is a reason for it...
ok so since everyone thinks this is negative.. Let me explain it... The reason I say this is because My sis-in-law had a miscarriage and right after she found out that she has MS... So in our eyes this was gods way of telling her that having a baby will put her life in danger... When she had this miscarriage we were all upset, but when we found out she had MS as upsetting as everything was, the dr told her that carrying a child is not advisable due to the MS that it would progress her condition... As of right now she is doing great with her MS and it has not progressed... So when I stated this I should have told the whole story... \
So in the end god was protecting her from a life of pain and bed bound at the age for 34...
that is why i stat that god always has a plan for you...
Sorry if I upset anyone
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ready2ttc
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
Posted by StressedNoMore
The way I look at it is I am here on this earth healthy and if god wanted me to have children he will give them to me and if he gives me no children well then there is a reason for it...
ok so since everyone thinks this is negative.. Let me explain it... The reason I say this is because My sis-in-law had a miscarriage and right after she found out that she has MS... So in our eyes this was gods way of telling her that having a baby will put her life in danger... When she had this miscarriage we were all upset, but when we found out she had MS as upsetting as everything was, the dr told her that carrying a child is not advisable due to the MS that it would progress her condition... As of right now she is doing great with her MS and it has not progressed... So when I stated this I should have told the whole story... \
So in the end god was protecting her from a life of pain and bed bound at the age for 34...
that is why i stat that god always has a plan for you...
Sorry if I upset anyone
Well I guess if God wanted to be entirely in charge, he wouldn't have made infertility treatments? Or is that just God's way of allowing people with the money to afford these treatments to get PG while poorer infertile people cannot?
There are people on here who I know would make amazing mothers, and want nothing more than to have a child. Please do not think that God does not want that for you. Keep trying.
Message edited 9/29/2008 9:50:11 AM.
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BellaRock
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
I know I am coming into this late in the thread and it's already been edited BUT I had to say
That I have spent almost 2 years posting on this board and NEVER had I EVER felt negativity from any of these women on here and never felt discriminated against because I am trying for DC #2.
These women offer support. Support isn't just rainbows and butterflies. We are here to provide information as truthful as we know it or have experienced it, love, understanding, babydust, hugs and shoulders to cry on.
I don't post on here anymore because of my taking a TTC break. It was hard for me to take this break BUT when I did post about it these women all offered support, hugs and well wishes. I don't think I would have even made it as far as I had without this board or made it through this break without the constant support.
I understand that you had a bad day and who doesn't but I think that saying this board is negative was really far from the truth. I also hope that the 6 women who FM give this board a second chance. I have made the greatest friends on here.
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BABYMAMA13
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
Posted by BellaRock
I know I am coming into this late in the thread and it's already been edited BUT I had to say
That I have spent almost 2 years posting on this board and NEVER had I EVER felt negativity from any of these women on here and never felt discriminated against because I am trying for DC #2.
These women offer support. Support isn't just rainbows and butterflies. We are here to provide information as truthful as we know it or have experienced it, love, understanding, babydust, hugs and shoulders to cry on.
I don't post on here anymore because of my taking a TTC break. It was hard for me to take this break BUT when I did post about it these women all offered support, hugs and well wishes. I don't think I would have even made it as far as I had without this board or made it through this break without the constant support.
I understand that you had a bad day and who doesn't but I think that saying this board is negative was really far from the truth. I also hope that the 6 women who FM give this board a second chance. I have made the greatest friends on here.
If u read carefully, i apologized for what a wrote, and took everyones comment into consideration, and i have been on this board a long time, and under a fake name b/c i have lurkers, and You may have experienced something different, but like all of you have said, and i agree everyone has a right to there own opinion, and this one was mine. And i still stand by some of the things i said, i deleted my post b/c #1 I might have taken out some extra frustation on the board, and #2 I value alot of opinions on this board, and i didnt want them to think they were the reason.
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pinkandblue
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
Posted by StressedNoMore
Sorry if I upset anyone
I think you have every right to feel the way you feel - even if people disagree with you 
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BABYMAMA13
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Re: We need to be more Positive. UPDATE!
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by StressedNoMore
Sorry if I upset anyone
I think you have every right to feel the way you feel - even if people disagree with you
i agree.
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