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Oh sweetie I know exactly what you are going through...

Try your best to ignore these insensitive people. The outside is not what makes a person beautiful it's the inside...

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OMG that person sounds so negative, I would try to avoid them, there is nothing wrong with you as long as you are happy, dont let this person make you feel bad, people can be so stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It makes me mad!!!!!

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I would completely cut that person out of my life, those are toxic people and you don't need people to posion you.

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This person is unavoidable so I'll have to find a way to deal with them.

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Omg this is HORRIBLE! I can't believe what i am reading - I think that is borderline abusive! Seriously, what business is it of theirs? Besides - its not like you are a child abuser - big deal, you have a few extra pounds - its not the worst thing in the world and you are not alone AND you had a baby for godsake! Please please try to stay away from this horrible person and if you can't I would put them in their place as best you can - maybe you can find something on them that is not perfect and show them how it feels!

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Posted by iwed2005



stay away from this person, there negative vibes are horrible !!!! you should tell that person that their comments are bothering you or the next time that they say something about your chest, say something smart like "jealous?!" with a smirk. don't let them get you down.

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I can't imagine how that would NOT upset you.

I'm so sorry you are going through this..

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I'm so sorry this person is being so unbelievably insensitive. Even if they were trying to "help", the way in which they are going about it are awful. I too have gained weight since giving birth a year ago and am struggling to lose it. I know it's so hard when we don't like ourselves. Please be strong and do for YOU! Please make it known to this person that what they are doing is hurting your feelings and only making you feel worse.

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SERIOUSLY? ***** is wrong with people. I would tell them off and not see them anymore

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some people are just cruel.

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I'm so sorry that you have to hear someone saying things like that to you. I am the type of person that if someone said something like that to me, it will drive me away from losing the weight. I think you need to tell them to stop with the hurtful comments. Don't they know that you're well aware of your own weight issues?

And try not to let it get to you too much. When you're ready, you'll work on being the weight you are happy at.

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I went through the same thing. Before my second leg surgery a family member said 'Well, you HAVE to lose weight BEFORE the surgery right?' It made me feel like absolute crap. Did they think they were helping me? I hate having my picture taken and my husband knew I was upset over not having many pictures with my son.

But nothing anybody said to me was motivation. One day I decided I needed to do it. I have lost 75 pounds and have another 75 to go. It's a long road, but if you'd ever like to join me, I could always use the help!

What helped me was not looking at the fact of needing to lose 150 pounds. I set small goals. I wanted to lose 20 pounds by this date, once achieved I decided to lose another 30 before my neice's wedding. Doing it in small goals has made it seem achievable.

I am here if you ever want to talk. I know exactly what you are going through. No matter what anybody said to me, I know I did this for myself.

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What gives anyone the right to make comments like that you??

This person is a rude, inconsiderate, moron! Don't listen to them, even though it's hard not too. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.

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Posted by iwed2005



stay away from this person, there negative vibes are horrible !!!! you should tell that person that their comments are bothering you or the next time that they say something about your chest, say something smart like "jealous?!" with a smirk. don't let them get you down.

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Posted by MrsERod

first of all

second -- anyone who would question you about 'planning on getting as big as a cow' -- IS A JERK! There IS a way to give CONSTRUCTIVE criticism - WITHOUT being insulting -- this person completely lacks that ability

i agree with the PP - stay away from this person -- if that is not possible (this person is a family member) - then I would flat out tell them that if they don't have anything nice to say, they should keep their trap shut! IF they are that concerned, they certainly aren't helping with those comments.

there is nothing wrong with you!

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Posted by GaryElla

Why are some people so damn obsessed with pople's weight?? Please don't pay this person any attention.

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Posted by MrsERod

first of all

second -- anyone who would question you about 'planning on getting as big as a cow' -- IS A JERK! There IS a way to give CONSTRUCTIVE criticism - WITHOUT being insulting -- this person completely lacks that ability

i agree with the PP - stay away from this person -- if that is not possible (this person is a family member) - then I would flat out tell them that if they don't have anything nice to say, they should keep their trap shut! IF they are that concerned, they certainly aren't helping with those comments.

there is nothing wrong with you!

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That's just cruel, cold and mean
stay away from that person!

Many of us (including me) know the feeling of wanting to lose some weight, and we know how hard it is.

Yes, good idea, point out a few flaws or two in them also

Im sure you're a wonderful mommy, and that's all that matters.

Message edited 9/24/2008 5:14:35 PM.

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Posted by feelingsad
I have to start holding my head high and start inserting some sarcasm into the comments that people make, like "Yes I know i've gotten bigger, do you want to join weight watchers with me cuz you look like you could benefit from it"...

Do people think that we can just loose weight overnight. When I do plan on loosing weight these people will never know. And if I do loose weight and these same people comment on my loosing weight I'll be like "golly gee do I look normal now"...

But mostly I will be doing it for me and me only!

I know I gotta do this but I do it when I'm ready, not when other people want me to be ready.

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Thank you all for your kind words. I feel so much better.