How do you handle disappointment?

I am coming to the realization that this IUI did not work. I am trying SO hard to remain optimistic until AF shows up, but I already feel myself falling into a funk.

How do you handle the disappointment? What are some coping strategies? I'm having such a hard time and I need to know I can get through this and move on.

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I think the best thing to do is accept it and stay positive. Wallowing in it doesn't help...don't get me wrong, I TOTALLY hear you - but I'm just speaking from personal experience as to what's help me get past things. I hope you feel better soon and that you get your BFP SOON!

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I don't cope with disappointment very well, but as time goes on, I've developed a hard shell around me, if that makes sense.

When it comes to disappointment though, I allow myself to grieve it. I cry and isolate myself for a couple of days. I need to be alone. Usually by my CD3 testing I've recovered enough to brush myself off and focus on a new and fresh cycle.

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I usually have my cry and get it out. And of course its when AF arrives that you are most emotional. So, I wallow in it. Then something clicks inside and I'm going forward again. Sometimes I don't believe how I do it. But, you will, because deep down you know something is going to work out eventually. You just dont' know when and what it will actually be. And hope moves you through it.

And always have a backup plan to fall back on when you start each cycle. I have found that having a plan keeps it rolling forward also.

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i cried it all out as well as eat, eat, EAT! like many, i'm an emotional eater. i was majorly depressed. but with the support of my fam and friends - esp my husband, i was able to be persistent. keep on keeping on.

jsut take things step by step. keep yourself busy. surround yourself with positive things and positive ppl. talk to us if you're in another one of those funks.

also.. if i get really depressed, i take it out on my DH. he's my punching bag.. i scream at him when i am all confused and 'woe is me.' i sometimes apologize. and sometimes i don't. but he understands why i do it. LOL - we're still together if you're asking. ;P

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After 5 failed IUI's, I am in therapy to try to cope with things. I am also starting accupuncture for relaxation and improved fertility.

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For us it was important to allow ourselves to be disappointed but we tried not to let it consume us. There were times that with each step in our process, that we were hit with something else that got in our way. So after a while, we tried to start taking things one step at a time and realized that WHEN it was going to happen was less important than if it was going to happen at all. That being said, when an IUI didn't work, we just moved on to the next cycle - looking ahead was important and easier on us than dwelling on things we couldn't control from the past.

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First, and foremost, I let myself feel sad, with no feelings of guilt. I soak myself up in it for about a day.

After that, I try to focus on all the wonderful things I have in my life. You DO have a choice about what your thoughts focus on, so if you find yourself dwelling in the negative, recognize that, and shift your thoughts to something that brings you happiness in your life.

Last, I started therapy. It really... REALLLY... helps

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I take it one thing at a time. When something fails, I let myself break down but then I pick myself up again and start looking towards to the next thing.

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I am sad for about a day, sometimes cry a little and then pick myself up and move forward to the next month. I guess after 17 cycles I am "used" to the disappointment but I just try to look at all the good I have in my life and be positive about this happening for us.

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In general...Vodka