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WWYD???? With Poll.....Updated with my response I hope it was right....
Update: So after talking to DH last night and reading the note again. I realize she sent it from The girls, and herself. DH said this was the point in which I chose which path to take, address it simply to the girls, or to my mother as well. Also I am trying to teach my sisters some sorts of manners, since they too often take after my mother in this light. So I sent a thank you note to the girls that simply said.
:Hey Girls,
Thanks for the thoughts of Teddy & Andrew (someone might want to inform YOUR mom that this is in fact his name. He was named after her grandfather and our great grandfather after all.) Also inform her that any further gifts from this point on that have her name on it will be returned. I am not trying to hurt your guys' feelings. I really do appreciate it but I asked her for space, and I would like that to be respected. Love you Girls.
Sincerely
The ******* Family
So for those of you that have read on here I am not exactly on speaking terms with my mother. I blocked her from texting and calling my cell. I changed my email address, deleted my baby site, and youtube accounts, and sure enough she still finds a way. I got home today to a package on the porch I open it and it is The Elf On The Shelf. Inside is a card that says
Tiffany,
Thought the Teddy and Andre (YES ANDRE AGAIN) would like this. Miss you little girl.
Love,
MOM
I have never called her mom, mother, or anything in a special manner just her first name. So what do I do?? I would usually send a thank you card but I am up the creek here and could really use a paddle.
Message edited 12/1/2010 10:18:50 AM.
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nicrae
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
I would send it back and say ANDREW is scared of Elves.
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| Posted 11/30/10 8:15 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
I would keep it and send a very generic Thank You... Dear FIRST NAME: Thank you for the gift. From Teddy and ANDREW - and I'd probably underline the W 10 times for emphasis.
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| Posted 11/30/10 8:18 PM |
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Metsmomma
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
i would just keep it and say nothing. sorry you are going through this!!!
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| Posted 11/30/10 8:18 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
Posted by rojerono
I would keep it and send a very generic Thank You... Dear FIRST NAME: Thank you for the gift. From ANDREW - and I'd probably underline the W 10 times for emphasis.
I would do the same. Hasn't she forgotten birthdays? My dad pulled that one year, and I wrote him an email that said "I know it's difficult for you to remember the birthdays of your two children, so I am sending you a calendar with the days circled."
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| Posted 11/30/10 8:19 PM |
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peabody
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Posted by nov04libride
Posted by rojerono
I would keep it and send a very generic Thank You... Dear FIRST NAME: Thank you for the gift. From ANDREW - and I'd probably underline the W 10 times for emphasis.
I would do the same. Hasn't she forgotten birthdays? My dad pulled that one year, and I wrote him an email that said "I know it's difficult for you to remember the birthdays of your two children, so I am sending you a calendar with the days circled."
Beth, that was great! I hope he felt bad and made up for it.
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| Posted 11/30/10 11:27 PM |
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MamaB17
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
I would bury it in the yard. Oh wait that isn't an option on the poll.  Let me know if you need me to come over w/ my shovel.
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| Posted 11/30/10 11:30 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
If you truly want to cut ties, RETURN TO SENDER with no explanation needed. Return every single thing she sends.
If you want a relationship, this is the way of her opening that door - even if it's by stalking & with a crowbar.
She reminds me of an ex boyfriend I had that used to follow me around & talk to me - even though I made it clear it was over. I would tell him to leave me alone, yell, etc. It wasn't until I would walk down the path & not answer, not react that he finally stopped. He wanted reactions from me good or bad.
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| Posted 12/1/10 6:48 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
Posted by nicrae
I would send it back and say ANDREW is scared of Elves.
This!
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| Posted 12/1/10 7:18 AM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
If you keep it, it sends her the message that there is hope for reconsiliation in the future. I know there isnt, but in her mind, this is what it means.
Send it back. NO explanation needed. Stick it in a box, and mail it back to her.
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| Posted 12/1/10 7:56 AM |
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A3CM
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i would just return to sender with NO NOTE.
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| Posted 12/1/10 8:06 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
Posted by nrthshgrl
If you truly want to cut ties, RETURN TO SENDER with no explanation needed. Return every single thing she sends.
If you want a relationship, this is the way of her opening that door - even if it's by stalking & with a crowbar.
I agree. This is an opportunity to send a clear message one way or the other.
Either send it back with no note (cut ties) or send her a thank you/acknowledge (baby steps to building a relationship.
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| Posted 12/1/10 8:35 AM |
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nbc188
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by nrthshgrl
If you truly want to cut ties, RETURN TO SENDER with no explanation needed. Return every single thing she sends.
If you want a relationship, this is the way of her opening that door - even if it's by stalking & with a crowbar.
I agree. This is an opportunity to send a clear message one way or the other.
Either send it back with no note (cut ties) or send her a thank you/acknowledge (baby steps to building a relationship.
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| Posted 12/1/10 8:39 AM |
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Re: WWYD???? With Poll.....Updated with my response I hope it was right....
Bump for update at top. And for those who asked No I don't want to travel the relationship road anymore. It always goes the same way. And I don't want to be the one left picking up the pieces anymore. I am lucky enough that my sisters are making an effort to make this work between us despite the problems with my mother, and between us this year. But they really are trying and to me this is vital. Relationships are a two way street in my book. If you aren't trying neither am I. Thanks for all the recs ladies.
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