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On 12/23, my aunt called me to say one of her Friends was having a family emergency but had tickets to a Christmas show that she didn't want to see go to waste and she thought of me. I initially declined because i had like 5000 things to do but then thought why not and took her up on the offer. I offered to pay her for the tickets but she refused and said she was just thrilled they weren't going to waste. When I picked up the tickets, I again asked her if I could give her money and she again refused. The show was at a local theater so I just assumed the tickets were cheap and she didn't care.

When we sat down at the show, I actually looked at the ticket. They were $60 and she gave me 5! To me, that's not really chump change.

After the show I called my aunt to say I wanted to give her friend money. My aunt shut me down, told me i was ridiculous, her friend was so happy i used the tickets and said that sending money would be insulting to her.

I'm writing her friend a thank you card right now. Should i send a GC or something? If you think so, how much would you send? I don't know what to do. I feel very awkward about it. I am sure she genuinely does not want money for the tickets but it was just a lot of money and I feel funny about it.

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I’d write a heartfelt thank you (I’m sure you were going to do that anyway!) and send a GC to a local restaurant or a nice bottle of wine. You could also make some cookies or cake. I wouldn’t spend the amount that the tickets cost, but rather a little thank you of some sort.

If it were me, I’d send a thank you and a bottle of wine, but I’m lazy like that.

Message edited 1/9/2018 6:12:04 PM.

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I'd send a thank you note and wine or a really nice box of chocolates.

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I would send the thank you card and leave it at that. Yes it's a lot of money, but she couldn't use use the tickets. She said she doesn't want compensation, so I would follow her wishes.

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Message edited 1/9/2018 10:36:01 PM.

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I think a Heartfelt Thank you in a Beautiful card can mean more than you think.

I don't think any GC or wine is necessary to be honest. If you really want to give her something, include a few lotto tickets or scratch offs. Anyone likes those. LOL

But I wouldn't go beyond that.

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I personally would give her a gift card to a restaurant that she can enjoy with her family. They missed an experience together, you benefited, and it would be thoughtful to return the gesture. The amount doesn't have to be for $300. I think $100 or $150 would be perfectly appropriate.

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I have been in the situation when I had to give away very expensive tickets due to an illness. I was just happy to see them get used and would not have wanted to be reimbursed at all.

I thank you note is plenty.

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Thank you everyone for your input. Now I feel less awkward.

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Posted by FirstMate

Thank you everyone for your input. Now I feel less awkward.

And to add another thought.. if you sent her $$, you'll then be making HER feel awkward because she specifically said many times that she didn't want it. So while you might be making yourself feel better, you won't be making her feel better.

As others said, let it go and send a lovely card

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I was just in a similar situation where we got tickets to a Broadway show that someone could not use. I sent a thank you card and a bottle of wine as a thank you.