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blustar214
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Ugh, I'm so sorry this happened. I don't understand how they would allow that. Why couldn't one of the teachers take her while the other teacher stayed with the kids?? Also, like all the pp mentioned, what is the overall bathroom plan there?
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dlj97
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Posted by lynnd126
Posted by LSP2005
So what are they to do when one teacher is outside helping the kids get into the room at drop off, the other teacher is in the room with the kids. If one of the kids that are already in the room needs to go to the bathroom, what do you think happens? I would not be thrilled for a strange parent to change a baby, but to stand in a room making sure the kids are ok is totally fine with me. It is not as if they are roaming around. The bathroom at my DDs preschool is completely visible too. I am asking in all seriousness, what should the teacher do when a kid needs to go at an off scheduled time. Do your preschools have 3 people in a room with 3 kids?
But what if there's no random person to ask? That mom just happened to be there. IMO there HAS TO be a plan, an extra hand- someone that actually works there and has been vetted.
Also, in your specific example, one teacher imo is capable of handling entering children and watching children already inside. In the op's scenario I think there's just one person period on the five kids, no? To me,that's lack of any preparation.
Eta I re-read and I'm not sure if there were one or two teachers. I'm reading two different posts from the op that address that question, but I think they say different things. Maybe only one was present at that moment?
There are 2 teachers. I assume they were both in the room.
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| Posted 9/11/13 6:43 AM |
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dlj97
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Posted by blustar214
Ugh, I'm so sorry this happened. I don't understand how they would allow that. Why couldn't one of the teachers take her while the other teacher stayed with the kids?? Also, like all the pp mentioned, what is the overall bathroom plan there?
I need to call the director and find out. Also bothersome was that the teacher asked me if DD needed anything special to go to the bathroom since the first time she said she had to go she didn't go (and the teacher said she took her the first time). I asked if they have a small toilet and she said no, so I asked about the ring on the toilet and she said she will use it next time. DD is only 2 - a nursery school teacher shouldn't have to ask that! DD will use the regular toilet is she doesn't have the ring, but it is obviously easier with it!
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| Posted 9/11/13 6:47 AM |
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Leahbink
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
I would speak with the teacher and insist that someone who works at the school take your DD to the bathroom. I would also mention to the director what happened.
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| Posted 9/11/13 7:01 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
I am a very laid back mom but I would lose my cool over that. Inappropriate. I would not take him out of the school but I would have a very candid discussion with the teacher and the school director as to what my expectations are in terms of who handles taking my son to the bathroom.
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| Posted 9/11/13 7:14 AM |
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blustar214
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Posted by dlj97
Posted by blustar214
Ugh, I'm so sorry this happened. I don't understand how they would allow that. Why couldn't one of the teachers take her while the other teacher stayed with the kids?? Also, like all the pp mentioned, what is the overall bathroom plan there?
I need to call the director and find out. Also bothersome was that the teacher asked me if DD needed anything special to go to the bathroom since the first time she said she had to go she didn't go (and the teacher said she took her the first time). I asked if they have a small toilet and she said no, so I asked about the ring on the toilet and she said she will use it next time. DD is only 2 - a nursery school teacher shouldn't have to ask that! DD will use the regular toilet is she doesn't have the ring, but it is obviously easier with it!
Is this the teacher's first year at this nursery school? I don't understand how someone in charge of kids this age doesn't seem to understand typical toddler behavior.
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| Posted 9/11/13 8:59 AM |
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Cacarina
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WWYD - Nursery School
I guess I am alone in thinking this was really no big deal. I mean, she wasn't a total stranger...she was the mother of another child in the class.
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| Posted 9/11/13 9:30 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Posted by Cacarina
I guess I am alone in thinking this was really no big deal. I mean, she wasn't a total stranger...she was the mother of another child in the class.
It's the complete lack of professional discretion imo. To me it's like what other ideas will the teacher think are good?
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| Posted 9/11/13 9:35 AM |
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SecretTTCer
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Posted by Cacarina
I guess I am alone in thinking this was really no big deal. I mean, she wasn't a total stranger...she was the mother of another child in the class.
But the person is a complete stranger to the child and the child's mother. In fact, I would argue that the woman was a stranger to the teacher given it was the first day of class. Just because you are a mother doesn't mean that it is appropriate.
Imagine if you were in the hospital and needed to use the bathroom. The nurse was busy so she sent in another patient's mother to help! That is what happened. Children deserve the same respect, dignity, and professionalism!
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| Posted 9/11/13 9:49 AM |
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
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I would not pull my child over this, but I would ask about their bathroom plan. Today I was dropping of my DD at preschool. One of the other children needed to use the bathroom and only one teacher was in the room at that moment. She took the child to the bathroom while I stayed with the rest of the kids -there were only 2 there at that moment. Mine and a third child. I know them, I know their parents. It was all of 2 minutes and they were 100% fine. I know other parents have done the same thing.
Almost as inappropriate imo. There should be a protocol and that's that, outside of some kind of extenuating circumstance.
Totally agree, but what is the solution??
Honestly if a child needs to go to the potty during drop out, the parents need to deal with it. I think it's slightly ridiculous that 5 minutes after you drop them off they have to use the potty already?? DD's nursery school had a strict policy about using the potty down the hall before the child entered the classroom and now I can totally see why.
Years ago when I worked in daycare, if one child needed to use the bathroom but there was no other teacher in the room to watch the other kids, we would bring the children with us to the bathroom as a group. That is the solution.
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| Posted 9/11/13 9:57 AM |
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Katareen
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
Posted by FirstMate
I am a very laid back mom but I would lose my cool over that. Inappropriate. I would not take him out of the school but I would have a very candid discussion with the teacher and the school director as to what my expectations are in terms of who handles taking my son to the bathroom.
This was my exact answer!
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| Posted 9/11/13 10:33 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident"
unaccpetable - I wouldn't pull my kid out BECAUSE of it - but I'd absolutely address it with the director and let them know it was inappropriate.
Even if I DID know the other parent, and was comfortable with her taking my child to the bathroom, the TEACHER wouldn't have known that. Totally inappropriate!
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| Posted 9/11/13 10:52 AM |
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ali120206
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WWYD - Nursery School
This would bother me. I wouldn't pull my kid out but, would definitely address it.
I picked up older DS one day at daycare and one of his classmates had to go potty - the teacher clearly stated that she needed to wait for the other teacher to return before she could take her (which was unfortunate since the other teacher was off chatting but, still)...
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| Posted 9/11/13 1:06 PM |
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dlj97
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident" UPDATE
Update in original post.
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| Posted 9/11/13 1:33 PM |
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Sash
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WWYD - Nursery School
I am also laid back and this would upset. I dont think I would pull her out but I would stress that this should never happen again. I don't care who knows who and whether my child asked.
I also find it a little strange that the mother took her. Im sorry but as a parent, I would not take someone's child to the bathroom regardless if the teacher said it was ok. And Im not insinuating that the mom taking her was doing it out of Malice. I just wouldn't take on the responsibility and be liable for anything.
Now if the mom was there and said ok, that would be a different story.
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Janice
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Re: WWYD - Nursery School "incident" UPDATE
I guess it is different because it is kindergarten...but during K field trips, as a mom, I took kids tot he restroom all the time.
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