would you invite children to a baby shower?

i got such grief with not inviting kids to mine that i had to open it up and have kids there.. what is your opnion on this? (hehe my shower was in July)

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I dont see anything wrong with it. I've been to a couple of baby showers since having DS and all the hosts asked me to bring him.

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My experience must be the exception to the rule now.

Most of my friends had their kids at least 5 years ago, some a dozen years ago. Despite the fact that several of them had nieces and nephews I don't ever recall (especially if it was at a restaurant) babies being there.

At the baby shower for my brother's daughter my DC's were not invited but to be honest, I never even thought about bringing them.

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Yes, but I had kids at my wedding too.

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I just posted on another thread so I apologize for the repeat but...

In our family we always include the kids so the little girls (including babies) were invited and attended.

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My shower was just last month and yes we had kids there but I love being around children at all events so my mom knew I was ok with it .. there were only 3 and they were well behaved.
I also had kids at my wedding and everyone gave me hell for that.. but that's just how I am

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i would invite them then leave it up to the mother to decide if she wants to bring her kid(s). Baby shower celebrate kids. I don't buy that whole "they'll take away from the mom to be and it's her day nonsense"

ETA: I didn't have kids at my bridal shower or wedding

Message edited 3/27/2008 2:21:16 PM.

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I had kids at both my bridal and baby showers. I see nothing wrong with it.

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I think it should go by the feelings of the person that the shower is for.

I WANTED children at my shower. There were 2 tables dedicated to the under 12 set at my wedding. My best friend told me - while I was planning her shower - that she wanted me to include children.

My sister in law - on the other hand - was ADAMANT about not wanting children at her shower. I think it would have been rude and disrespectful for me to invite children or bring children despite her feelings on the issue.

So yeah.. pay mind to the guest of honor above all others.

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It depends. I am for no children at adult events. However if it's at a house that sure why not for a baby shower. If at a restaurant, no.

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they weren't invited to mine, but one of DH cousins brought her son who was like a year and a half and it was fine with me.
I wouldn't bring my son to one though unless i absolutely had to or he was invited. When i went to my close friends baby shower when he was 4 months old, i didnt bring him and everyone wanted to know where he was and why he wasn't there.

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For both my showers we did nieces only. No friends kids or cousins kids. I didnt care one way or another but at my baby shower my niece and DH's niece decided to have a water fight in the bathroom and flooded out the ladies room. Needless to say, I dont think they will be invited to anything in the future.

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We only had my nieces & the fg's from our wedding who are very close family to DH.

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my vote is no....

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I will be having a baby shower in the sometime near future. I have two younger sisters a 7yo and 2 yo so for me kids are a must. I would also like my one cousin who is 3yo invited. Other than immediate family(incl. 1 cousin) no other kids will be invited.

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I made it clear to those throwing my shower that I wanted an open invite to people's children (within reason) to my baby shower. I feel of any of the events a baby shower is the most appropriate place for kids. I had at least 5 kids under 5.

They all helped me open the gifts!

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Only bc I know your situation/family I say absolutely YES. Reason being is that you had your sisters DD there and I can TOTALLY see how DH's family would go crazy that you invited one side and not the other. That right there is the problem...it was either all kids or no kids. While I understand that your sisters dd is a baby, I still think in some peoples minds that it looks one sided. Even your SIL made a big deal about kids during your wedding so it was likely that she was going to be hurt once again. I think you did the right thing by inviting the kids (even if it didnt feel right). Its Chris' neice and nephew the same way its your neice that you were inviting from the beginning. And thats my truthful advice or opinion my lovely Christine
*PS ...not talking about everyones case...just this case.

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I think it depends where the shower is. My bridal and baby shower were both an easy place to have children, so we did.

Also, I def. think its okay to bring babies. but I know if I am invited and children arent indicated on the invite, I may call and ask if my baby could come. If he can't and I don't have a sitter, then I wont go, no biggie. each to their own ya know.

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hmmm.... i'm going to a cousin's baby shower and i just assumed i can bring my baby (she's not walking etc.) so she won't be in the way or disruptive. now i wonder...

if it were a different event (bridal shower, wedding) i'd assume children are not invited and would ask if i needed to bring her...

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Originally when I had mine, I didn't even think of putting it down. I honestly just assumed people would rather find a babysitter and have a few hours away to relax and have some wine with the girls. Of course, if someone didn't have a babysitter I would have said no problem, bring them.

I guess I would always kinda assume it was no kids unless it said so. Now that I have a baby and have been to other showers where there were kids and have brought my own, I think it's nice. THe kids add a something special about what is to come for the mother. It's also nice for me, who works and hardly sees DS during the week to spend those 4 hours or so with him. But they can also be a handful and it's really up to the parent to make the decision about whether it's appropriate to bring the child or not. Space may also be a concern and it just isn't feesable to have kids with highchairs and strollers and car seats.

That kinda rambled, but those are my thoughts.

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Any opportunity to attend an adult fucntion with out the kiddies is a good thing for me! I also think that parents don't really enjoy themselves as much when they are running around after DC!