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jcbrownie
LIF Adolescent
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jennifer
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Would you go?
I was recently invited to a bridal shower for DH cousin. We are not invited to the wedding, just the shower. In the 13 years I have been married to DH, this family has not come to one event that we have hosted. They are too busy and rarely acknowledge us when we are at other family events.
I don't want to go nor do I feel the need to go. But my DH tends to make comments about how I "hate" his family (I don't just feel as though they are never there for him). So what would you do?? would you go?
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Posted 3/23/17 1:32 PM  |
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JME78
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Would you go?
No, sounds like a gift grab.
I would never invite someone to a shower and not to the wedding - its very rude.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:37 PM |
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Eunyboo
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Re: Would you go?
Who invites to a shower and not the wedding? Are you sure the wedding invites just haven't gone out yet? If so, I would decline.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:38 PM |
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Pumpkin1
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Would you go?
No, I wouldn't go. If she gave you something for your shower/wedding, then I would send a token gift. If not, decline and don't think about it again.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:38 PM |
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mommy2B3
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Re: Would you go?
Why are you only invited to the shower? I wouldn't go bc I find that extremely rude. However, my DH says the same thing, and I do hate his family lol, but I understand how annoying it is to hear that when you have tried over the years to never have it reciprocated. So I have been guilted into attending crap for his family over the years.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:40 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Would you go?
You're positive you're not invited to the wedding?
No way would I go to the shower knowing I wasn't invited to the wedding.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:40 PM |
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mrsdukes
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Re: Would you go?
Strange to be invited to the shower and not the wedding, although it happened to me once when the wedding was very small.. In this case, I understand your not wanting to go. I would probably go (because I usually go, even though most of the family doesn't reciprocate). I truly think it's ok if you skip it! I would probably still send a token gift.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:53 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Would you go?
Nope. I wouldn't go.
And I wouldn't even entertain a discussion with DH.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:53 PM |
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chilltocam
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Re: Would you go?
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
You're positive you're not invited to the wedding?
No way would I go to the shower knowing I wasn't invited to the wedding.
Exactly. So rude and a total gift grab to only be invited to the shower
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:56 PM |
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KarenK122
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Would you go?
No. If your not invited to the wedding then you should not have been invited to the shower. I would not send a gift either.
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| Posted 3/23/17 1:59 PM |
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SusiBee
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Re: Would you go?
Shower invite but no wedding invite ?
oh hell no.
That's just plain rude - and a gift grab.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:08 PM |
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lightblue
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Re: Would you go?
Nope
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:13 PM |
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Would you go?
Nope
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NervousNell
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Re: Would you go?
Fuckk no
And if my DH dared to say anything about it, too effing bad
Message edited 3/23/2017 2:17:37 PM.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:16 PM |
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MrsT809
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Would you go?
I'm not easily bothered by any of this stuff typically but if I'm not invited to the wedding I wouldn't be attending the shower.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:17 PM |
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MC09
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Re: Would you go?
No, absolutely not. Are you sure you aren't invited to the wedding? Because that is so wrong of her to only invite you to the shower. Gift grab is right. She should start a go fund me page to get houseware donations instead of being so rude to her guests.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:20 PM |
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Paramount
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Re: Would you go?
The ONLY reason not to go is THIS is a gift grab.
Nothing more.
Who invites you to the shower and NOT the wedding?????
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:23 PM |
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beachgirl
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Re: Would you go?
Nope...no way...no how..not a chance.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:31 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Would you go?
Nope. I think it's extremely rude to be invited to a shower and not the wedding, to me that reads as a gift grab. I would absolutely decline.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:37 PM |
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jcbrownie
LIF Adolescent
Member since 8/05 879 total posts
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jennifer
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Re: Would you go?
Thanks for the feedback. We have already been told that we are not invited to the wedding because it will be a small affair.
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:38 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: Would you go?
Posted by NervousNell
Fuckk no
And if my DH dared to say anything about it, too effing bad
 I would not go even if they came to all my events. Its rude and IMO tacky to invite someone to a shower but not the wedding. I am not a huge fan of showers, I got and I have had them, but to just invite someone to the shower and not wedding is basically saying they just want gifts. I did the opposite for my wedding there were people invited to my wedding who I didn't invite to my shower because I felt bad making them feel obligated to give me a gift.
Even if you were invited to the wedding I probably wouldn't go anyway. I made a decision for someone in my family that I refuse to go to any of their events because they have never come once to anything I invited them too. So now I have stopped inviting them and if they invite me to their stuff I decline. Maybe its childish but I refuse to go out of my way for people who will not show the same courtesy
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| Posted 3/23/17 2:57 PM |
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Sunny10
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Re: Would you go?
No way would I go.
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| Posted 3/23/17 3:26 PM |
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beachbabe
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Would you go?
They're just looking for a gift. I would 100% NOT go!
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| Posted 3/23/17 3:53 PM |
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SusiBee
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Re: Would you go?
Posted by jcbrownie
Thanks for the feedback. We have already been told that we are not invited to the wedding because it will be a small affair.
Still no.
It's asking for gifts, and that is just tacky.
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| Posted 3/23/17 3:57 PM |
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Ellsey10
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Would you go?
Did they send gifts even though they don't come to things?
I most definitely wouldn't go.
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