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Otherme
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work dilemma - update
eta: just thought i'd let you guys know i decided to take the project. Talked to DH about it and he's cool with it. Thanks for all your input! 
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I work in advertising - its usually a 'do whatever it takes to get things done' kind of job. I've been doing this for 15+ years
I've been offered the chance to work on a project that is very cool - something a little different than my usual work. However, it will definitely require me to not only work late most nights for about a month straight, but to work on weekends as well.
As it is, i see DS now for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening when i get home.
I'm really torn - part of me wants to do the project. But my boss gave me the option of passing it to someone else (single girl who lives closer to the office) to do if i don't want to do it.
I talked candidly with my boss about it and if there would be any negative ramifications for me if i didn't take it - will i be thought of as less of a team player, will i be passed over for these projects in the future etc.. and she said no. She knows the type of person i am, and the kind of dedication i have to my job and this would not affect me negatively.
I need to give her an answer tomorrow on what i want to do. I'm really torn because i want to work on the project, but I can't stand the idea of not seeing DS for most nights and then not seeing him on the weekends either (not to mention, it would take a lot out of me to travel back into the city on the weekend as well when most other people on the project live in the city). The entire thing would be 2-3 weeks, with 2 weekends worth of work.
Do i suck it up and do the project and not see DS (or DH for that matter) for the few weeks? Or do i not take the project and feel guilty about letting my boss down? Even though she says she won't hold it against me, i'm the type of person who has always dedicated myself to doing whatever is needed for work, so i almost feel like i'm letting myself down too. 
Any suggestions? thoughts on what i should do or how i can approach a decision?
Message edited 2/9/2012 10:16:04 AM.
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neener1211
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Re: work dilemma
What does your DH think about it? Will you be getting paid anything additional for the extra work?
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| Posted 2/8/12 3:18 PM |
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Re: work dilemma
Is there anyway you could share the project w/ the other girl?
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| Posted 2/8/12 3:19 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by FreeButterfly
Is there anyway you could share the project w/ the other girl?
No, its the type of project that will be pretty intense so would be too confusing to share with someone.
I'm talking to my DH about it tonight to see what his thoughts are as well.
No i won't get paid any extra - we're salary and stay for as long as it takes to do our work.
If i worked on the weekends, i could probably take a few days off after the project is over though
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jam11308
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Re: work dilemma
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
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| Posted 2/8/12 3:22 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree.
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robynfs
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Re: work dilemma
If your family can function ok without you for the 2-3 weeks I would personally do it. This is with the understanding that this is something you really want to do and is a great project that would be difficult to turn down.
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EricaAlt
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by neener1211
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree.
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as you said... take some needed vacation time after the project. Maybe a week... go away or just stay home and do family stuff.
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NervousNell
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Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree- it's not permanent.
If DH can help out for a while- I'd go for it!
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Bearcat
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Re: work dilemma
I personally would do it. It is not long-term. You need to still be YOU and do the things you enjoy (aside from spending time with DS and DH obviously). This is something that you would enjoy - so go for it.
As long as it doesn't require you missing out on friday night. Of course.
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Dulcinea
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Personally, I would not do it. I used to work in advertising and know exactly what you're going through. Since having a family, I never want to work in that industry again....
Ask yourself, what guarantee is there that this project will end on time?
And why do you really want this assignment? Will it advance your position within your company or even give you a promotion? If you don't see yourself there long term, does it matter?
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bluekat16
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by neener1211
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree.
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as you said... take some needed vacation time after the project. Maybe a week... go away or just stay home and do family stuff.
Totally agree with both. But defintiely make sure your DH is on board.
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Posted by NervousNell
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree- it's not permanent.
If DH can help out for a while- I'd go for it!
I agree. I'd do it.
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Otherme
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by Bearcat
As long as it doesn't require you missing out on friday night. Of course.
nope, i'll be there.. this doesn't start for a few weeks!
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| Posted 2/8/12 4:22 PM |
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Otherme
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Posted by Dulcinea
Personally, I would not do it. I used to work in advertising and know exactly what you're going through. Since having a family, I never want to work in that industry again....
Ask yourself, what guarantee is there that this project will end on time?
And why do you really want this assignment? Will it advance your position within your company or even give you a promotion? If you don't see yourself there long term, does it matter?
yea.. i figured someone else who works in advertising would know what i mean. i hate to say it.. but it really is different from a lot of other jobs.
i do know the project will end on time because of the deadline - the files are due to the printer on max extension on a certain date. It's the push to get everything done to meet that date that will be intense.
It doesn't advance me in my job in anyway, as its something that is really part of my everyday responsibilities.. but it can't hurt.
Argh.. i'm still torn. But i'll talk to DH tonight (thankfully he's in the same industry so he'll know what im up against as well).
I really am having a hard time thinking of being away from my 4 month old son who i get so little time with as it is.. that's my main problem.
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by Otherme
Posted by Bearcat
As long as it doesn't require you missing out on friday night. Of course.
nope, i'll be there.. this doesn't start for a few weeks!
Ok, then I think you should do it.
In all seriousness, this is perfect:
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
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LotsaLuv
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Re: work dilemma
If it was forever, no, but 2-3 weeks, yes
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I worked for an advertising vendor bf I became a SAHM so I can imagine what you are talking about. I would do it bc it sounds like you really want to and will possibly regret if you don't. Then take an extra few days afterward to spend with your DS.
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I say go for it, sometimes we just need to challenge ourselves, I am sure you will feel accomplished once its all over. Maybe take a day off after the project is over and spend the whole day with DS.
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Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
yeah. I'd totally do it. its only a few weeks.
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Posted by neener1211
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree.
I agree as well...
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Posted by Dulcinea
Personally, I would not do it. I used to work in advertising and know exactly what you're going through. Since having a family, I never want to work in that industry again....
Ask yourself, what guarantee is there that this project will end on time?
And why do you really want this assignment? Will it advance your position within your company or even give you a promotion? If you don't see yourself there long term, does it matter?
Ita
Especially since you are not getting paid any extra, I would say no thanks!
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KNic19
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Re: work dilemma
It sounds like you really want to do this. Since it is just 2-3 weeks, I would go for it. It will be over before you know it. And since you think you can get a few days off after it is over, then I would definitely do it. You'll be happier all around...since you get to do the project at work that you want, and then you can get extra time with DC.
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Re: work dilemma
Posted by jam11308
Hmmm...If your dh is totally on board & it's only for 2-3 weeks (and 2 weekends), I'd probably do it if I were you. It sounds like something that you'd really like to do & 2-3 weeks isn't so bad compared to maybe a 2-3 month long project.
I agree. If it was 2-3 months then I would say no but 2-3 weeks is not that long of a time for something that sounds like you really want to do .
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Posted by KNic19
It sounds like you really want to do this. Since it is just 2-3 weeks, I would go for it. It will be over before you know it. And since you think you can get a few days off after it is over, then I would definitely do it. You'll be happier all around...since you get to do the project at work that you want, and then you can get extra time with DC.
I agree with this!
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