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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
Posted by MrsJ
On a side note - my DH's family NEVER sends thank yous and I think it's so rude.
none of my moms side of the family sends TY's
and they are all over the US
not even email TY's
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Re: When you get a
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This is a silly question. Of course. I may call them, or e-mail them- but I thank them - of course. Most people with manners do.
i don't think it is a silly question at all...
which is why i asked it
didn't your teachers tell you....there are no silly question...
Sorry, I think its silly a question. That's my opinion. My teachers taught me there are no stupid questions.
Did you really expect people to say no? Most people know that the RIGHT thing to do, when you receive a gift from anyone, in any way, is to thank them. Some people are insensitive or careless or thoughtless and don't say "thank you" for a gift. But I don't know how many people will admit its the proper thing to do.
i expected answer to my question
not opinions on its nature
if you felt it to be silly...maybe you should have just skipped it 
sorry. I really didn't expect to start any drama. I did answer the question and made an innocent comment (at least I thought it was innocent). What I meant by silly, is that its an answer that (as this has showed) almost everyone answered the same way. OF COURSE you should thank people when you get a gift, for any reason, in any way. I think your point is made.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:00 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Shellyesq
OF COURSE you should thank people when you get a gift, for any reason, in any way. I think your point is made.
i am not trying to make a point.
what i am trying to get at ...which was later int he thread was
are email TY's acceptable these days?
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:01 PM |
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Re: When you get a
But I think the point Red was making is that a lot of people in this world are selfish a holes and DON'T thank for gifts. I myself have already experienced that this year.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to have a reminder thread out there
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:03 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: When you get a
I'm sorry- I misunderstood your question. I thought your question was DO you thank someone when you get a gift in the mail. I didn't realize the question was about the method of the Thank You.
I try to call people with thank yous, but sometimes I am bad and send an e-mail instead.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:03 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Redhead
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I think that if it was a small gift an email thank you is fine.
In fact I think only party gifts (b-day parties, weddings, showers, etc) really require a handwritten thank you. It's nice for larger gifts too.
so you would think badly of the person if they didn't send a handwritten one?
No, not at all. I think it's an extra nice gesture for non-party related gifts to send a handwritten note, but not required. An email or phone call is perfectly fine.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:03 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Shellyesq
I'm sorry- I misunderstood your question. I thought your question was DO you thank someone when you get a gift in the mail. I didn't realize the question was about the method of the Thank You.
I try to call people with thank yous, but sometimes I am bad and send an e-mail instead.
it started out as do you send TY's for the little gifts but ultimately i was wondering if you are sent a gift...
do people consider it poor manners to send an email TY....Even if the gift is small in nature
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:04 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Moehick
But I think the point Red was making is that a lot of people in this world are selfish a holes and DON'T thank for gifts. I myself have already experienced that this year.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to have a reminder thread out there
That's what I thought the thread was about myself. I didn't realize the question was about the method of the thank you.
Your completely right- that people need to be reminded about it. Being appreciative is so important, for gifts people give, for thinks people do, and for the blessings we all have.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:05 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Moehick
But I think the point Red was making is that a lot of people in this world are selfish a holes and DON'T thank for gifts. I myself have already experienced that this year.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to have a reminder thread out there
Good Point Moe
I think that email thank you's are fine. It takes just a few minutes out of someone's day to do so AND at least the gift-giver KNOWS that the gift was received! For little things, I think email is perfectly acceptable
the only time I disagree with email thank yous were as Sandra said.. for weddings, showers, and "big" birthday parties... then they should be handwritten notes
I am anal , and usually try to send out thank you cards for most everything. If I did not get the gift in person and did not thank the person "in person", I usually just send a little card out .. or as stated, at the very least an email or call!!
Message edited 11/29/2005 12:07:10 PM.
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Re: When you get a
I'm not one to send TY cards, but I do atleast call or send an email of thanks.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:06 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Moehick
But I think the point Red was making is that a lot of people in this world are selfish a holes and DON'T thank for gifts. I myself have already experienced that this year.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to have a reminder thread out there
true but now i am curious with the age of computers.....
is it considered poor manners to send an email TY ONLY!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????????
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:06 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Shellyesq
I'm sorry- I misunderstood your question. I thought your question was DO you thank someone when you get a gift in the mail. I didn't realize the question was about the method of the Thank You.
I try to call people with thank yous, but sometimes I am bad and send an e-mail instead.
it started out as do you send TY's for the little gifts but ultimately i was wondering if you are sent a gift...
do people consider it poor manners to send an email TY....Even if the gift is small in nature
I don't think its poor manners. But I do think its better to make a call or thank you in person. I also think written (and mailed) thank you's are best. Its always such a nice thing to receive in the mail, especially for a small gift.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:06 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
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Posted by Moehick
But I think the point Red was making is that a lot of people in this world are selfish a holes and DON'T thank for gifts. I myself have already experienced that this year.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to have a reminder thread out there
true but now i am curious with the age of computers.....
is it considered poor manners to send an email TY ONLY!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????????
ETA...i stress smaller things meaning not weddings and stuff like that
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:07 PM |
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Re: When you get a
I think emails are an acceptable way of saying thank you for the small stuff....of course as Flee pointed out not as a way to say thank you for a wedding, christening, baby gift or anything of that nature.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:08 PM |
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Re: When you get a
OF COURSE you should thank people when you get a gift, for any reason, in any way. I think your point is made.
WOW 
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:09 PM |
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Re: When you get a
I know what you are asking... I think that, like I said, for a shower gift or something like that, it would be bad etiquette to send Email thank yous.
BUT, for mailed christmas gifts, b-day gifts, etc etc, I personally think email thank you's are fine etiquette-wise(as long as the person checks their email!  ). Even if Miss Manners would disagree, I think eventually it they will become acceptable, if not preferred, etiquette.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:09 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Moehick
I think emails are an acceptable way of saying thank you for the small stuff....of course as Flee pointed out not as a way to say thank you for a wedding, christening, baby gift or anything of that nature.
gracias............
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:09 PM |
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Re: When you get a
not always, i know i should. but if i see the person on a regular basis, i say thank you in person. if not, they get an email
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:09 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Posted by nferrandi
I'm not one to send TY cards, but I do atleast call or send an email of thanks.
ME TO
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Re: When you get a
Posted by Redhead
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Posted by Moehick
But I think the point Red was making is that a lot of people in this world are selfish a holes and DON'T thank for gifts. I myself have already experienced that this year.
Sometimes it doesn't hurt to have a reminder thread out there
true but now i am curious with the age of computers.....
is it considered poor manners to send an email TY ONLY!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????????
ETA...i stress smaller things meaning not weddings and stuff like that
Ok then outside of the obvious (weddings and the like) then yes I think its perfectly fine to send an email to thank someone for a gift
most of us spend half our lives on computers, and mailing cards for little things is not necessary (to me).. sooo I would be most appreciative of a thank you by way of email for sure 
Bottom line : ACKNOWLEDGEMENT of a gift in ANY fashion is MOST appreciated!!!
Message edited 11/29/2005 12:12:20 PM.
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Redhead
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Re: When you get a
Posted by BNL2005
not always, i know i should. but if i see the person on a regular basis, i say thank you in person. if not, they get an email
me too i can be bad at sending the TY
but i do send email TY's and call
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:12 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: When you get a
Posted by FeliciaDP
Bottom line : ACKNOWLEDGEMENT of a gift in ANY fashion is MOST appreciated!!!
I agree. Well said.
Message edited 11/29/2005 12:13:15 PM.
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:13 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Honestly - I think it is fine to send an email, especially if it is someone that you do seem to talk to more over emails.
For instance, I speak to 2 of my cousins everyday through email, we may talk once a month over the phone. We send gifts to each other quite often and we always thank each other over emails.
I think if it is someone that you really do not speak to much over email a thank you card (note) should be sent or a call made to that person.
Does that make sense?
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| Posted 11/29/05 12:29 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Yes, always! I can't speak to or see the person without ackowledging it and thanking them. I'm crazy like that.
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| Posted 11/29/05 2:01 PM |
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Re: When you get a
Yes, I do think you should send a thank you. It is polite, but if it is mailed, they will know you got it too.
As for the email part - and I know I might get flamed- I think you should send a hand written thank you. I am not a fan of the email thank you and I feel that if they went out of their way to get or make you something, it is not a lot of effort to drop a short note in the mail. If the choice is email TY or no TY, I would prefer an email to nothing, but I send written ones.
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