When did you tell....

extended family? (we've already told our parents and siblings)

friends?

boss/co-workers?

My DH wants to tell everyone yesterday. I'll be 5 weeks tomorrow and we're going to see the Dr. on 4/1. I keep saying "lets wait to see what the doctor says" but I really don't want to tell the world until I'm ready which I don't think is next week! Am I being selfish? I'm just really scared that something may go wrong and I don't want to deal with having to tell a zillion people if it does.

TIA!

Message edited 3/26/2008 11:12:22 AM.

Re: When did you tell....

We told our parents when I was about 5 weeks.

We told friends when I was 8 weeks

I told my manager and immediate Supervisor when I was 9 weeks

My coworkers when I was about 11 weeks

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1st baby, told at 9 weeks

This baby, told parents and only aunts and uncles at 4 weeks. Right after we found out.

Told work/friends at almost 9 weeks.

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We told our parents after our first sono at 8 weeks and just told our immediate family (Aunts, Uncles, cousins) this past weekend at almost 12 weeks. I'm waiting to tell work until after my ultrascreen results come back. Only one of my friends knows, but I plan to tell the rest sometime next week. It's really a personal decision. If you are not ready yet, then talk to your DH about your concerns and do what you think is best. Good luck!

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Each person does this differently. The first time I was pregnant I didn't wait and blabbed to everyone right away before I even saw a doctor. Once I had my doctor's appointment at 5 and a half weeks, they didn't see anything and it turned out to be a chemical preganancy. I can't tell you how horrible it was for me to have to tell everyone the bad news.

This time I didn't tell coworkers, friends etc. until I finished my first trimester (I told my parents at 6 weeks once we saw the heartbeat) to be safe and to be honest with you I think that is the best bet, because you never know what can happen.

Message edited 3/26/2008 11:14:56 AM.

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my DH would have waited to tell people until i was 20 weeks if i let him

we told our parents right away

sisters and grandparents (and one aunt by mistake ) at 5 1/2 weeks

my boss knew right away

we started telling friends at 8 weeks and co-workers around 9 weeks, everyone knew by 11 weeks.

ETA: i really couldn't wait much longer to tell friends because we hang out at bars often and i am a know big wine drinker, it would have been too obvious.

Message edited 3/26/2008 11:16:07 AM.

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We told our parents right away.

I told my job around 8 weeks, after we heard the heartbeats.

We told extended family around 11 weeks.

With our history of miscarriage we wanted to make sure everything was ok before we told the extended family.

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Close family:
My parents at 10 weeks
His parents at 11 weeks
(This ended up around 4 days from each other due to the mail)

Co-workers at 13 weeks (after ultrasound)
For both of us.

Friends most of them at 13 weeks
Some really close friends knew about 8-10weeks.
Still have a few friends we haven’t told yet, plan to ‘announce’ this next weekend so really at 16-17 weeks the world knows.

Extended family:
His mom & step-father told the world as soon as they knew
My father had been holding off for the end of this month.

I felt strange saying “Hey guess what?” when I don’t look preggos and wasn’t really ‘suffering’ and I was so afraid I’d jinx myself and something bad would happen.

I felt SOOOOOO much better after 12 weeks when it actually looks like a baby and we were out of most of the murky water.

I still don’t feel right just telling random people because I feel it’s presumptuous to think they care. In a way it feels selfish and egotistical. So until I actually show (and I’ve already popped a little), I just take it on a case by case basis.

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we told our parents and siblings when we found out...

extended family and friends we just told a week ago.. i was 10W.

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We just told our extended family at 11.5 weeks.

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We told our parents, families friends, etc. at 5 weeks.

Told bosses, co-workers, etc. at 12 weeks.

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Parents and Siblings - Right away (as soon as we got our BFP)

Close Friends - Right Away

Extended Family - at almost 9 weeks

Co-Workers - at just about 13 weeks

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We told our parents and close friends right away (since I was already 8 weeks when we found out). Plus I went to the doctor within a day of getting my BFP. We told extended family right after my doctor appt.

I told co-workers that I'm extremely close with a few days after my first doctor appt (so 8.5 weeks).

Since week 12, I started very gradually telling more co-workers, but most will know after this weekend since my department is going on a retreat and it will be very obvious that I won't be drinking. I'll be 14 weeks.

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I told my whole family as soon as I got my +, including extended. I cant hold secrets in

Co workers I told around 11 weeks

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We told our parents the day we got our BFP (I was 4 weeks). We told our siblings and a couple of very close friends shortly thereafter. Doing my best to hold out telling anyone else for awhile (probably at least until we go to the doc on 4/14) but it is so hard!

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We told our parents and immediate families at 8 weeks...and we told everyone else around 12-14 weeeks.

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Told the future grandmas at 10 weeks and the rest of the family at 11 weeks. Told my immediate supervisor at 11 weeks and the rest of my co-workers at 12 weeks. Everyone else found out via word of mouth.

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extended family and friends we told just last week.... week 12. We wanted to wait until we got the ultrascreen results back, and knew we were almost out of the first trimester.....

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Immediate family- immediately 4 weeks
more family and close friends- 10 weeks
extended family and work- 12+ weeks

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We told our parents and families the week after the bfp. Dh was soo excited and was blabbing to everyone so basically everyone knew in the beginning..

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My mom and my BFF - knew probably 20 minutes after I POAS - 4 weeks.

My Dad - 5 weeks (parents are divorced)

MIL/BIL/My sister - 6.5 weeks after we saw the heartbeat.

A very few close friends know, people who I have talked to about IF. I am waiting until 12 or 13 weeks to make the general announcement.

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extended family - 9 weeks
work - 12 weeks

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I just miscarried a few weeks ago and it really surprised me how I felt about telling people.

We told my parents at about 5 weeks, DH's brother and SIL at about 8 weeks and then the rest of my family at 10 weeks. I miscarried at 11 weeks and am now feeling like we should've told his parents.

We were waiting for the magic 12 week mark in case something went wrong, but when something did we suddenly felt like we were dealing with this huge thing and having to keep it a secret because no knew we were pregnant in the first place. Had they known it would've explained a lot about our behavior over Easter weekend (we didn't see anyone and I didn't even manage to send any cards) and now I just feel slightly awkward about it. We've decided we're going to tell them eventually, but it would've been so much nicer to tell them when it was good news. Just my two cents...

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Immediately family and close friends ,right away. Extended family, I was almost 9 weeks.

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