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nferrandi
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what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
I've been thinkjng about this recently and I have to say that I don't agree with there not being a winner, or scores not being kept. Competition is a part of life. I don't see anything wrong with kids learning that from an early age. I don't want to coddle DS through his life and I feel like that's kind of what it teaches. What do you think?
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2BEANS
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
The age they do it at I dont see anything wrong with it. I dont feel they even understand winning and loosing anyway. I say let them enjoy the fun at taht time, theyll have plenty of time in the future for worrying about winning and loosing.
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| Posted 4/3/09 2:26 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Posted by 2BEANS
The age they do it at I dont see anything wrong with it. I dont feel they even understand winning and loosing anyway. I say let them enjoy the fun at taht time, theyll have plenty of time in the future for worrying about winning and loosing.
So what do you feel is the appropriate age to start "real" competition?
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| Posted 4/3/09 2:27 PM |
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2BEANS
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by 2BEANS
The age they do it at I dont see anything wrong with it. I dont feel they even understand winning and loosing anyway. I say let them enjoy the fun at taht time, theyll have plenty of time in the future for worrying about winning and loosing.
So what do you feel is the appropriate age to start "real" competition?
I say about 2nd grade. My neice is in 2nd grade now and I see a huge difference in her perception on things from when she was in 1st grade. Now shes in competitive dance and sports and understands the concept of whats going on, while in 1st grade it was all about running around.
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| Posted 4/3/09 2:29 PM |
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Completely agree with you. Sports by its very definition is 'competitive' right? Great lessons are taught by winning-hard work, team spirit, self esteem, self-improvement, etc. And great lessons can be learned by LOSING too-dealing with disappointment and frustration, a sense of fairness, goal setting and achievement, etc. Remove those lessons and a sport becomes "gym".
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GoldenRod
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
DS is almost 6 and in Kindergarten..... most of his soccer teammates know all about scores and winning/losing.
I've never let DC win all the time, even with CandyLand or Chutes and Ladders. Only by losing will you learn to do your best.
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Well, what age are we talking about?
I think to try to have competitive sports at 2-3-4 is just silly, they just don't get it.
But once kids get older, then yes, kids need to learn what it is like to win and lose.
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| Posted 4/3/09 2:58 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Either way-I have been training my DD since birth and she will dominate the field, score or no score.
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| Posted 4/3/09 3:01 PM |
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Posted by CrankyPants
Either way-I have been training my DD since birth and she will dominate the field, score or no score.
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CrankyPants
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by CrankyPants
Either way-I have been training my DD since birth and she will dominate the field, score or no score.
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neener1211
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
I keep score in my head so I know who wins. Bothers me when they don't count runs in baseball, and no body won.
I think it is needed to let kids win and lose in games, teaches them that you can't always win, and you won't always lose.
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
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nrthshgrl
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
I think there is nothing wrong with playing to hone your skills - and the lack of "in your face mentality" refreshing. If the teams is winning by an excess of goals, the refs handles it. If a team wins year after year, they get broken up.
Everyone gets trophies for participating & the largest trophy is sportmanship - which everyone tries to get.
I like that our league emphasizes sportsmanship above all but the competition is there.
No not at the pres-school or kindergarten level. In 1st grade is when I saw the kids with older brothers & sisters playing sports really get upset if they lost a game. Now in 2nd grade, (7 yo) everyone knows there is a score & wants to win.
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BeachMom
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
They did that at my daughter's school for field day. Everyones a winner. It kind of took the fun out the competition. Sure all of the kids want a ribbon, so they get a participation ribbon but you still need to have a winner somewhere.
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| Posted 4/3/09 3:20 PM |
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I think that I would have really enjoyed sports a lot better if they weren't so competitive and if we weren't always picking teams in gym class. I don't really know yet how non-competitive the sports really are and how much the non-competitiveness takes away from the game. As the kid who was picked on in gym class, I will tell you that after a while I purposely did not try because I was not going to make the effort to please kids who were mean to me. When I went to summer camp, the kids there didn't pick on me and I actually enjoyed sports! One of my funniest memories from grade school was when the kids had to pick sides for a spelling bee. The same kids who had picked me last in gym class wanted me on their spelling bee team so I went on their team and purposely spelled something wrong. I was not normally that vindictive but I am sorry to say that felt great!!! Nowadays, parents push their kids to be so good at everything and it appears to me that toning down the competition can't hurt.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
It bothers me that today every kid gets a trophy, win or lose. That's why I think these kids are growing up thinking they can do no wrong and their always right, etc. There is nothing wrong with losing as long as you tried your hardest. It's a part of life. Not everything in life is going to go the way you want it and you need to be prepared to deal with some disappointments.
I also feel like having an actual winner makes kids work harder to achieve their goals and in the long run teaches an invaluable lesson for later in life.
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rojerono
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I think there is nothing wrong with playing to hone your skills - and the lack of "in your face mentality" refreshing. If the teams is winning by an excess of goals, the refs handles it. If a team wins year after year, they get broken up.
Everyone gets trophies for participating & the largest trophy is sportmanship - which everyone tries to get.
I like that our league emphasizes sportsmanship above all but the competition is there.
No not at the pres-school or kindergarten level. In 1st grade is when I saw the kids with older brothers & sisters playing sports really get upset if they lost a game. Now in 2nd grade, (7 yo) everyone knows there is a score & wants to win.
I love you Barb. You always say what I want to say and you say it better.
Some people are naturally competitive and you don't need special rewards or incentives to bring out the 'best' in them. My younger son is always looking to be faster, stronger, better than his brother. My older son is happy just to play.
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Kelly9904
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
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It bothers me that today every kid gets a trophy, win or lose. That's why I think these kids are growing up thinking they can do no wrong and their always right, etc. There is nothing wrong with losing as long as you tried your hardest. It's a part of life. Not everything in life is going to go the way you want it and you need to be prepared to deal with some disappointments.
I also feel like having an actual winner makes kids work harder to achieve their goals and in the long run teaches an invaluable lesson for later in life.
I agree. I think it also doesn’t do a kid any justice by not teaching them to be a good loser. Because honestly in life you aren’t always going to get the job, or promotion, or whatever it is. You need to learn to work hard to be good at what you do and be proud of that hard work and effort. My DS wont always win or lose, he wont be the best at everything he does, that’s just life and I feel its my job to teach him how to react and handle that with pride and dignity. I feel like today we coddle so much that we miss out on teaching our kids such valuable lessons that we were taught.
I think at an early age preschool, kindergarten its best to be less competitive just because the kids don’t get it at that point. But as they get older it’s a valuable lesson for us to teach.
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ddunne2
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
Posted by Kelly9904
Posted by jellybean1420
It bothers me that today every kid gets a trophy, win or lose. That's why I think these kids are growing up thinking they can do no wrong and their always right, etc. There is nothing wrong with losing as long as you tried your hardest. It's a part of life. Not everything in life is going to go the way you want it and you need to be prepared to deal with some disappointments.
I also feel like having an actual winner makes kids work harder to achieve their goals and in the long run teaches an invaluable lesson for later in life.
I agree. I think it also doesn’t do a kid any justice by not teaching them to be a good loser. Because honestly in life you aren’t always going to get the job, or promotion, or whatever it is. You need to learn to work hard to be good at what you do and be proud of that hard work and effort. My DS wont always win or lose, he wont be the best at everything he does, that’s just life and I feel its my job to teach him how to react and handle that with pride and dignity. I feel like today we coddle so much that we miss out on teaching our kids such valuable lessons that we were taught.
I think at an early age preschool, kindergarten its best to be less competitive just because the kids don’t get it at that point. But as they get older it’s a valuable lesson for us to teach.
A agree! At every point in our kids lives, they will be good at things, and there will be things that others are better out. While competing in a sportsman-like manner is also necessary, the everybody wins mentality is not the best. I agree that I think it just enables kids these days to expect everything their way and have what they want when they want it. The whole point of sports is two teams competing for the same thing...more points, more goals, etc. Winning and losing both have good lessons to be taught and I think it is imperative that kids experience both. I think it is good to see both sides of it. Plus, if you win all the time, what is your motivation to be your best?
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nferrandi
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
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[ Plus, if you win all the time, what is your motivation to be your best?
Exactly! 
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| Posted 4/3/09 4:52 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
i think it's very important, especially in the younger years. many kids aren't coordinated when they are very young and need years of practice. if everything is competitive early on, some will dominate and others won't have a chance.
that being said, i think it's ridiculous if everything is non-competitive. competition is important--but 6 year olds need to learn the rules of the game and can start competition a little later.
if things weren't so competitive when i was little maybe i could have had a chance to get good at a sport. instead, kids were on travel teams at like 7 years old, while i had no idea of how to play the game
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| Posted 4/3/09 5:18 PM |
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Re: what's your opinion about non-competitive sports?
I know that we all have/need a competitive side in all of us. It's part of society.
I don't care for competitive sports too much. Too much emphasize is put on winning. I feel the joy of the game is sometimes lost in favor of winning.
We need some balance. Sometimes it's not just about winning that will teach you lessons in life. But having fun, friendships, team work are also very important.
I don't think not doing any competitive sport will be harmful to anyone. I hated sports at a child. I fight the battles I need to fight as an adult. But I don't have to be 1st to prove myself.
I do feel some adults feel like losers if they don't win at everything. I think selfconfidence is more important. And you don't need to "win" to have it.
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