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Shorty
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What do you do when DH/FH
says or does something that you reallllllly don't like/agree with?
He's trying to tell me that last night, he told me that he was going to drive to bumblefeck to play cards and drink beer and do stupid guy stuff, oh and P.S. - there's going to be a stripper there, and other girls are going but I wasn't invited.
I told him that out of respect for me, he should NOT GO. (1, because I wasn't invited and other girls were. 2, because it's farrrr away, and there's no designated driver. and 3, because there's a FRIGGEN STRIPPER!)
He claims that it has nothing to do with the stripper, 'cause that doesn't interest him at all. He "just wants to go and play cards." What, the 12 hours in atlantic city poker rooms on TUESDAY AND WEDNESDAY weren't enough?!
I know I'll be flamed for the stripper thing, and "controlling" him, but I just haven't ever agreed with the concept of strippers.
And what's so bad about me, that OTHER girls can be there, but I CAN'T?!?! 
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Redhead
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
well to be honest ...thinking about that scenario...i would be LIVID.....LIVID
Is this some bachelor party?
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:37 PM |
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NS1976
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Ohhh I had problems like this in the past with this one group of dh's friends. The other girls were always invited and I wasnt. It caused major fights between us but then he started to see my point of view. I reversed the situation and he didnt like it one bit. I agree with all of your points and I would be angry too. ((hugs))
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:38 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by Redhead
well to be honest ...thinking about that scenario...i would be LIVID.....LIVID
Is this some bachelor party?
I AM LIVID!!!
No bachelor party. Just a friend of ours' co-workers, and Rich. Randomly.
I can't believe this - he never pulls this. I am highly emotional lately, and he knows that this would make my blood boil... I don't get it. 
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:39 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Well i think the best thing for you to TRY to do (although i can't see myself doing this cause i would be spitting nails) is to calmly sit him down and tell him how hurtful this is for you.
IMO that is really men and wrong. WHY wouldn'tyou be going if other girls are? OR t least give you that option to say yes or no to going.
This kinda gathering really annoys me. WHY is it necessary to play cards that you have strippers and girls there? I don't get that...and would be BEYOND ****** at the mention of something so stupid going on.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:42 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
The only scenario that situation would be acceptable to me would be a bachelor party otherwise NO WAY!!
Poker and beer are fine but not a stripper and also not having a DD does not sit well with me either.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:43 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Just to be a little more clear - Rich wasn't in charge of the inviting....our mutual friend was. BUT I'm mad that Rich didn't stick up for me. He knows how hard the past few weeks have been, I think he'd be trying extra hard to make things more comfortable. 
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:44 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by Shorty
Just to be a little more clear - Rich wasn't in charge of the inviting....our mutual friend was. BUT I'm mad that Rich didn't stick up for me. He knows how hard the past few weeks have been, I think he'd be trying extra hard to make things more comfortable.
didn't stick up for you?
Do you mena that he was told you weren't to come?
That is BS! And why anyone would expect him to go along with that is a jerk...
Oh we are having this party with strippers, cards, beer, friends and girls all coming....oh and you SO can't come...
that is the situation?
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:46 PM |
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dooodles
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Have you asked why other girls were invited and NOT YOU???? And I think I'd be furious about that too. I don't think I'd mind the stripper being there, but it obviously is something you are not comfortable with and your DH should have rationally discussed with you after you expressed your feelings.
I know if my DH had gone there would be some major problems!
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:48 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Spitting nails isn't even enough...I was spitting out syllables that don't even make WORDS, I am so mad.
He left. Gone. Went.
He'll "be back at 4". Explain to me how that's possible, BECAUSE IT TAKES AN HOUR TO GET THERE!?!?!? Liarrrrrrrrrrrr.
On the other hand, HE has had to deal with a lot lately, too. Something he never asked for, and something that he didn't know how to help me with. Maybe he just needs to get out? But there are other places to go.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:49 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by Redhead
didn't stick up for you?
Do you mena that he was told you weren't to come?
That is BS! And why anyone would expect him to go along with that is a jerk...
Oh we are having this party with strippers, cards, beer, friends and girls all coming....oh and you SO can't come...
that is the situation?
EXACTLY the situation.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:50 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Well ithink that is very mean and hurtful and i would just tell you DH that.
Like you said...he can't control how this party is going on or who is invited to it....
But i would think out of respect for you, REGARDLESS of what you have been going through lately, he wouldn't go to something like that. He isn't to blame imo for how the inviting went down. But i also don't think he should go either...
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:52 PM |
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msma88
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Sounds like there is an underlying situation to the story. Did you guys have a fight? Maybe he needed alone time. But I don't get the stripper part, who has poker parties with strippers.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:53 PM |
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Posted by msma88
Sounds like there is an underlying situation to the story. Did you guys have a fight? Maybe he needed alone time. But I don't get the stripper part, who has poker parties with strippers.
Yeah, that seems really strange
I'm with you though, I'd be pretty pi$$ed!!!
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:55 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by msma88
Sounds like there is an underlying situation to the story. Did you guys have a fight? Maybe he needed alone time. But I don't get the stripper part, who has poker parties with strippers.
regardless of what their current situations is regardless of whether strippers are going to be there or not...
The actualy going out of this party throwers way to invite people...girls non the less and say to one of the inviteees that their SO can't come.....
that is WRONG.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:57 PM |
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msma88
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
I agree it is wrong, maybe he lied and wanted to go by himself.
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| Posted 10/9/05 1:59 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by msma88
Sounds like there is an underlying situation to the story. Did you guys have a fight? Maybe he needed alone time. But I don't get the stripper part, who has poker parties with strippers.
There was no fight...quite the opposite, actually.
And I was present when the "inviter" said SORRY NICOLE, YOU CAN'T COME, so I KNOW Rich isn't lying to me. (Not like he would anyway. )
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btrflygrl
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
I'd be upset too if he decided to go....but on a personal level-DH has no interest in strippers, doesn't drink more than 2 beers, nor does he play cards (that I know of)----for him it'd be video games.
I agree that he shouldn't go strictly because YOU Weren't invited, but other girls were....W T H is that about???
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by monkeybride
The only scenario that situation would be acceptable to me would be a bachelor party otherwise NO WAY!!
Poker and beer are fine but not a stripper and also not having a DD does not sit well with me either.
i agree. i can deal with the stripper thing for bachelor parties (and even thats a sore topic  )... but jsut randomly to strip while theyre playing cards? No. not having it.
Im not sure what youre going through, but just to give more
if he needs guy time- thats fine. we all need that break sometimes, especially when we have alot going on. BUT you cant do that at the expense of your SOs feelings 
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by neeniebean86
if he needs guy time- thats fine. we all need that break sometimes, especially when we have alot going on. BUT you cant do that at the expense of your SOs feelings
my point, EXACTLY!!! Thank you.
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| Posted 10/9/05 2:05 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
ggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaarrrrUGH!
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CowgirlChick97
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
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beachgirl13
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
sorry you are so upset!! Can you go out with a girlfriend- shopping, out to eat, anything to get your mind off of it for a while and get out of the house?
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Shorty
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by Syliblond81106
i know EXACTLY what you are goin thro Nicole....these f'in men don't understand and comprehend sh!t.......
YEAH!
And I'm sorry you man $ucks today, too.
Thank you everyone
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| Posted 10/9/05 2:31 PM |
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CowgirlChick97
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Re: What do you do when DH/FH
Posted by Shorty
Posted by Syliblond81106
i know EXACTLY what you are goin thro Nicole....these f'in men don't understand and comprehend sh!t.......
YEAH!
And I'm sorry you man $ucks today, too.
Thank you everyone
thank you!!!! i'm sorry too.........
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