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blu6385
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was this rude or is it just us?
I went to FL for my cousins wedding. we rented a beautiful mulit level beach house balcony on each level.
when the time came to have everyone dressed and have the brides mom and bridesmaid (all sisters) get her dress and for the photographer to take pictures I went into "drill sergeant" mode because no one was ready.
I assumed which I guess I shouldn't have that the photographer would want to take pictures of the bridal party at the house. so I kept asking all the girls to get ready and be upstairs while I kept asking photographer if you need them. the man refused to answer me all he kept telling me was just have them get dressed. He finally kind of answered me and he wasn't taking any pictures of them at the house. I was really annoyed cause he could have just said that from the beginning.
The makeup/hair artist that was there said he is full of himself has the same routine and does not take any suggestions and this because quite evident.
The brides grandmother came to the house and my mom was like this is the brides grandmother you should take pic with them he flat out told her no. My mom and everyone purposely the whole night made sure to stay out of his way while they were taking their own pictures. he made a comment to my mom that he will take pictures not to worry about it and my mom told him that's ok I will take my own pictures because I never get them but I will stay out of your way.
you should note the man got not one picture of her extend family, I mean aunts, cousins nothing, one group picture with her grandma that's it. ETA: when I say group picture with her grandma, its her grandma and all the bridesmaid, and mom of the bride that's it.
So he posted a blog of the wedding and posted his favorite pictures. one his fav. is of my mom taking a picture of a program fan that my cousin made and under it; it says "oh my ..." another one is of the brides step dad taking pictures in a chair not in any ones way at all and under it say "sure looks like he enjoying the party .... folks let us handle this. Be PART of the party instead" me, my mom, brides sister and aunt all found this to be rude and only took the picture and posted just so he can stay that and why that had to be on the blog as one of this favorites baffles us all, I really believe its because he is a dickk. and if it wasn't for the step dad taking pictures they would be no family pictures from the wedding. Oh I should also say at the wedding he said in front of other people those NY guest have attitudes ... granted we may  but what professional says that to other people at a wedding!
so is this guy rude with the pictures on the blog with the statements written under it or are we crazy and it really wasn't rude.?
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Mags1227
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
extremely rude, but then again i'm one of those NY'ers with an attitude 
if i were the bride, i would be very upset. I have pictures form my wedding of all the extended family, posing, dancing, candids. I treasure all of those.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:02 AM |
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Rosie0613
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
I think its rude too. If i was the bride, I would be upset. I also have pictures of extended family at my wedding and treasure those pictures. Who knows when we will all get together again to capture a memory with everyone?
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:03 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
I also have posed, candid, etc picutres of every family member at my wedding.
I called him out on FB and the man blocked me but I guess he couldn't remove my review.
he claims he took all the pictures the couple wanted granted even if he did fine still if someone asks you to take a picture why you are standing next to the bride no idea what the big deal is our biggest issue was the comment under the step dads picture I told him it was rude and unprofessional to assume anyone wasn't having a good time and if it wasn't for the step dad taking pictures there would be none of the family.
his comment back to me was even more rude and unprofessional trying to claim that the wedding wasn't about me and I was trying to make it about me... little did he know I had no desire to be in any pictures actually and after the encounter in the house and what the makeup/hair artist I stood very far away from him and did not request/suggest any pictures for the rest of the wedding
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:14 AM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
i would be SO PISSED! i think its time for a bad review of his services AFTER the bride and groom get everything they need from him. Do NOT say anything to him beforehand
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:17 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Posted by luvbuffet
i would be SO PISSED! i think its time for a bad review of his services AFTER the bride and groom get everything they need from him. Do NOT say anything to him beforehand
I did already and my mom messaged him and told him she cant believe that was one of his favorites of the step dad and to remove what he wrote underneath the picture and he did finally. he already posted all the pictures in a gallery and she gets the CD I cant see him doing anything to prevent that. Plus my review is only on Facebook and its not easy to find he linked review from another site and you cant post reviews to it unless you have a contract. so his review is in tact there
Plus he is so full of himself I am 99% sure he doesn't care what I have to say
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:21 AM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
well hes def hurting himself talking about his clients. he's a complete idiot.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:24 AM |
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Chai77
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
I do think the photographer posting comments online and making statements about guests to other guests is unprofessional and rude.
That said, I am confused why you are getting so involved and got so take-charge with your cousin's photographer. The bride and/or groom hired him, I would assume this is what they wanted. And if they were not happy, they could have and can address it with the photographer themselves IMO.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:24 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Posted by Chai77
I do think the photographer posting comments online and making statements about guests to other guests is unprofessional and rude.
That said, I am confused why you are getting so involved and got so take-charge with your cousin's photographer. The bride and/or groom hired him, I would assume this is what they wanted. And if they were not happy, they could have and can address it with the photographer themselves IMO.
I wasn't taking so in charge of the photographer, I was just making sure the girls were ready so he could take pictures at the house cause I assumed he was and he didn't say otherwise till after a while and I was just trying to be helpful after that I stood out of his way
I said something to him about the comments and left a bad review because he was unprofessional even if I wasn't a paying client I feel I have a right to tell people my experience with him and how he treated guests at a wedding. I also warned my cousin I would be leaving a bad review on his page and I was debating about even doing it but then when I saw the blog I decided to follow through with it.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:29 AM |
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Blazesyth
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was this rude or is it just us?
I think you may have crossed an invisible line by trying to get everyone in order, if the bride did not ask you too. I think as a guest you need to assume that everything is under control, unless the person asking you to throw the party to help. Or, if you think there is an issue, then take the bride to the side and say "It seems that everyone is lagging a bit today, do you want me to get them together for pictures?" Which at that point she would probably tell you its not a big deal because they aren't doing those type of pictures. As Chai said, they choose this photographer, etc so they must have been OK with this. If you put yourself in his position, taking orders from the wedding guests would be difficult. If he had 10 different people trying to 'control the situation' with him, who is he supposed to listen to? Every last 10 of them? No, he should answer to the bride and groom and not every wedding guest.
That being said, the photographer should not have posted those pictures or made those comments.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:40 AM |
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Is there ANY chance that the couple happens to like this approach? Maybe they saw his style of captioning and found it humorous. Maybe they told him specifically not to take requests from anyone, not to take certain shots, and not to budge if asked.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:47 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Posted by Blazesyth
I think you may have crossed an invisible line by trying to get everyone in order, if the bride did not ask you too. I think as a guest you need to assume that everything is under control, unless the person asking you to throw the party to help. Or, if you think there is an issue, then take the bride to the side and say "It seems that everyone is lagging a bit today, do you want me to get them together for pictures?" Which at that point she would probably tell you its not a big deal because they aren't doing those type of pictures. As Chai said, they choose this photographer, etc so they must have been OK with this. If you put yourself in his position, taking orders from the wedding guests would be difficult. If he had 10 different people trying to 'control the situation' with him, who is he supposed to listen to? Every last 10 of them? No, he should answer to the bride and groom and not every wedding guest.
That being said, the photographer should not have posted those pictures or made those comments.
i agree but no one was trying to take charge of the photographer I didn't suggest anything to him I just assumed and someone had to take charge of the bridesmaid to get ready again all of them were sisters because some of them we suppose to be helping the bride get ready plus all of them were running late and they would have been late if someone wasn't pushing them. and for the record the bride was very grateful I did take charge and got everyone ready in time. And the man didn't once tell me no he wasn't taking pictures of them till I asked several times. also I think if someone asked for a quick picture with the bride I don't think that's taking orders from guests it just requesting a picture and the man straight out said no. Also again after the whole incident at the house where he told the grandmother of the bride no he wont take the picture everyone left him alone didn't bother asking or going by him cause it was clear he was a dickk ...
so I am not sure what line was crossed the whole house incident was all with a half hour actually now that I think of it he was the one who continued the interaction when we were at the ceremony no where by him or interfering with pictures and him telling my mom she doesn't have to take pictures. its not like the bride and groom said no one could take pictures. Also the bride was stressed enough we weren't about to go to her and complain to her that the photographer was being rude its was her day so we all just dealt with it and left him alone.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:49 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
I think it's EXTREMELY rude. ALL of it. I would be upset, especially the blog where he's basically making fun of your family. He doesn't sound very professional to me.
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:50 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Posted by oldtimerocknroll
Is there ANY chance that the couple happens to like this approach? Maybe they saw his style of captioning and found it humorous. Maybe they told him specifically not to take requests from anyone, not to take certain shots, and not to budge if asked.
it could be possible though the bride claimed she wish we told her but she could be just saying that to us who knows. but honestly while I found it unnecessary to not take a quick picture if it was requested, and it was not interfering with anything he was doing (basically just standing there) fine it is what it is what I find uncalled for was the comments under the pictures in the blog and that he was talking about guests to other guests at the wedding. and to tell people not take picture because he is taking care of them yet he didn't take any family shots. at least we have pictures together even if the bride and groom aren't in them
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| Posted 6/26/15 9:54 AM |
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SusiBee
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
If he wasn't going to take pictures at the house, then why the fluck was he there ?
Hope the bride is happy with her pictures.
I forgot to tell my photographer to take pictures of DH and me with my BIL"s mom, aunt and uncle. They have been part of my family for over 25 years, and I so regret that.
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| Posted 6/26/15 10:05 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
I think your heart was absolutely in the right place, but people outside of this area do weddings so different from us. I can understand both pov. In the future, I would have said to the bride, do you want me to wrangle everyone up for photos or for family photos? As for the photographer, yes he was rude, and he absolutely should not have made comments on the photos, but at the same time you did not hire him. His contact was with the bride. She should be the one running the show or if she hire a coordinator, that person should be the one to run the show.
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| Posted 6/26/15 10:30 AM |
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JennCo
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
I bet he's the same photographer that my cousin used for her wedding in FL a month ago! He was such a JERK and didn't take any pictures. The bride was so so upset and we were trying to urge him to get the shots!
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| Posted 6/26/15 10:41 AM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Posted by Mags1227
extremely rude, but then again i'm one of those NY'ers with an attitude
if i were the bride, i would be very upset. I have pictures form my wedding of all the extended family, posing, dancing, candids. I treasure all of those.
That would never fly up here. My photog and my brothers photogs were both incredible, worked with the family and friends, never belittled them.
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| Posted 6/26/15 10:41 AM |
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MrsSpring
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
totally unprofessional and rude.
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| Posted 6/26/15 11:12 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Posted by JennCo
I bet he's the same photographer that my cousin used for her wedding in FL a month ago! He was such a JERK and didn't take any pictures. The bride was so so upset and we were trying to urge him to get the shots!
If his name was brad then it's the same guy
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| Posted 6/27/15 12:01 AM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
please let us know if it's the same d!ck! As pp said why was he at the house if he was taking pictures of NO ONE?
I would've done the same thing you did, in an effort to support the couple having beautiful pictures of their family and friends!
My father and many aunts and uncles are now deceased. If I didn't have my pics of them id be p!ssed
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| Posted 6/27/15 7:26 AM |
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Strawberry2468
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Re: was this rude or is it just us?
Totally rude. I've seen photogs post pics of shots ruined or guests with iPads at weddings but in private photo forums. Never their blog. That's just insane and makes him look bad.
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| Posted 6/27/15 11:51 AM |
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