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FeliciaDP
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
I am praying for your Dad, you and your entire family..  
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mommy0604
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
Posted by Ang-Rich
I don't even know what to say but I do hope and pray that your Dad doesn't focus soley on the negative. Seven years....I pray that in that time he lives it up - makes all the memories that he hopes to leave behing and in the process I hope that all that happiness buys him even more time.
That's what I am hoping for too. Sometimes a positive attitude can do wonders. You just never know. I'm hoping that my son and my nephew (his only 2 grandsons) will help motivate him into saying " I want to see them grow up".
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:25 AM |
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cgdg61606
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:28 AM |
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tiki03
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Shelly
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
Posted by mommy0604
DH said we gotta act like everything is fine and normal cuz if we act any different like as if my dad were already gone then that's worse and will bring my dad's sprits down. He said we shouldn't be acting as if he's dying. He's alive and we should act the way we normally do and make him feel as comfortable as possible.
I completely agree with this. I know its so scary to face a loved one's mortality, especially when there is an outside date on it. I can't imagine your sadness, but here is another way to look at it which may give you a more positive perspective.
I lost my dad when I was 21. It was very sudden. He never met my DH and certainly not my daughter. He never saw my sister or I graduate from college, get married, have children, he never saw us grow into adults, never saw us flourish in our careers.
But even then, when my dad passed away so young, I knew I was blessed. I had friends with dads who weren't nearly as wonderful as mine. I have friends who never had a good relationship wtih thier parents. So even though I lost my dad too young, for 21 years I had a wonderful father- something many people never have.
Now I am not saying this for people to feel sorry for me. I am seeking no sympathy. I just see you as very lucky and blessed.
it sounds like your father was a good man- something many people don't have. And he is alive and well enough to be in your life. He saw you get married, he IS a part of your sons life and maybe for another 10 years. Even if your father was the picture of perfect health, we never know when it is our time. So I see you as very blessed.  Just make the most of whatever time you have together.
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
I am so sorry
I went through a health care crisis with my dad too, actually before I was married.
It's very difficult to see your parents have a health care crisis. It brings us back to when we were little and thought our moms and dads were invincible only to remind us that they are human too.
FM me if you ever need to talk about this.
Unfortunately, I'm an expert on caring for a parent who can't care for himself
Many for your dad. I hope he defies all of the odds and lives to see his grown grandchildren.
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:41 AM |
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CathyB
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
I'm sorry to hear that. My uncle was diagnosed with cirrhosis 3 years ago. He couldn't get a transplant due to a different medical issue, but he's been healthy ever since his initial treatment in the hospital. Best of luck to your dad.
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:43 AM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
Posted by Shelly
Posted by mommy0604
DH said we gotta act like everything is fine and normal cuz if we act any different like as if my dad were already gone then that's worse and will bring my dad's sprits down. He said we shouldn't be acting as if he's dying. He's alive and we should act the way we normally do and make him feel as comfortable as possible.
I completely agree with this. I know its so scary to face a loved one's mortality, especially when there is an outside date on it. I can't imagine your sadness, but here is another way to look at it which may give you a more positive perspective.
I lost my dad when I was 21. It was very sudden. He never met my DH and certainly not my daughter. He never saw my sister or I graduate from college, get married, have children, he never saw us grow into adults, never saw us flourish in our careers.
But even then, when my dad passed away so young, I knew I was blessed. I had friends with dads who weren't nearly as wonderful as mine. I have friends who never had a good relationship wtih thier parents. So even though I lost my dad too young, for 21 years I had a wonderful father- something many people never have.
Now I am not saying this for people to feel sorry for me. I am seeking no sympathy. I just see you as very lucky and blessed.
it sounds like your father was a good man- something many people don't have. And he is alive and well enough to be in your life. He saw you get married, he IS a part of your sons life and maybe for another 10 years. Even if your father was the picture of perfect health, we never know when it is our time. So I see you as very blessed. Just make the most of whatever time you have together.
I do have to agree with Shelly as well.
My mom was killed when I was 8 (she was killed at the age I am now) and my dad suffered his severe stroke (can't speak conversationally) when I was 27, long before meeting DH and having children.
I'm ok but I'm sad for my DC's as they will never know my parents. My dad was quite the jokester and storyteller in his day and that was all not only taken from him but his loved ones.
I agree, don't mourn him now but be thankful for all of the years you were blessed with him. Unfortunately, there are still so many that do not get to experience 70 years.
Again many prayers for your dad
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| Posted 4/10/08 9:46 AM |
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mommy0604
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH
Posted by Shelly
Posted by mommy0604
DH said we gotta act like everything is fine and normal cuz if we act any different like as if my dad were already gone then that's worse and will bring my dad's sprits down. He said we shouldn't be acting as if he's dying. He's alive and we should act the way we normally do and make him feel as comfortable as possible.
I completely agree with this. I know its so scary to face a loved one's mortality, especially when there is an outside date on it. I can't imagine your sadness, but here is another way to look at it which may give you a more positive perspective.
I lost my dad when I was 21. It was very sudden. He never met my DH and certainly not my daughter. He never saw my sister or I graduate from college, get married, have children, he never saw us grow into adults, never saw us flourish in our careers.
But even then, when my dad passed away so young, I knew I was blessed. I had friends with dads who weren't nearly as wonderful as mine. I have friends who never had a good relationship wtih thier parents. So even though I lost my dad too young, for 21 years I had a wonderful father- something many people never have.
Now I am not saying this for people to feel sorry for me. I am seeking no sympathy. I just see you as very lucky and blessed.
it sounds like your father was a good man- something many people don't have. And he is alive and well enough to be in your life. He saw you get married, he IS a part of your sons life and maybe for another 10 years. Even if your father was the picture of perfect health, we never know when it is our time. So I see you as very blessed. Just make the most of whatever time you have together.
I do have to agree with Shelly as well.
My mom was killed when I was 8 (she was killed at the age I am now) and my dad suffered his severe stroke (can't speak conversationally) when I was 27, long before meeting DH and having children.
I'm ok but I'm sad for my DC's as they will never know my parents. My dad was quite the jokester and storyteller in his day and that was all not only taken from him but his loved ones.
I agree, don't mourn him now but be thankful for all of the years you were blessed with him. Unfortunately, there are still so many that do not get to experience 70 years.
Again many prayers for your dad
I agree with what both of you said. The main thing is not to mourn him now cuz he's still with us. And yes I have been blessed to have him in my life.
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Diane
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nylisa
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
I know what it is like to loss a parent. I lost my mom 2 years ago. She never got to meet Michael. We are all here for you.
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| Posted 4/10/08 10:53 AM |
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mommy0604
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Re: Update on the situation with my Dad...
Posted by CathyB
I'm sorry to hear that. My uncle was diagnosed with cirrhosis 3 years ago. He couldn't get a transplant due to a different medical issue, but he's been healthy ever since his initial treatment in the hospital. Best of luck to your dad.
That's what i'm hoping will happen with my dad. Maybe with the right positive attitude he can beat this and prolong his life.
We were just out in the yard and I brought DS outside to play in the yard and DS got all happy when he saw my Dad outside, granted he was happy cuz he was outside...LOL but he was happy to see my Dad. Maybe little moments like these can give him the motivation to beat this. And Sunday my nephew is coming over and he'll be hanging out with both grandsons so maybe that will give him the motivation too.
My Dad will be 70. It's not young but it's not too too old either. There are still plenty of years left for him, if he fights for it.
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littlejoy06
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