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pnbplus1
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Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
DS is 23 months old and since last night he has started screaming the moment we put him in his crib. He hasn't taken a nap today bc he cried so hard he almost threw up Last night was horrendous, I barely slept. I sat in our glider for hours while DS slept in my arms bc the moment I tried to transfer him, he'd scream. Not normal crying but heart-wrenching screams. This is NOT like him at all.
What in the world could be going on????
He screams like he's scared or something. He's never had issues with his crib, if anything he loves it.
Here's something else and I'm not sure if it could be related. My DS is used to seeing both of my parents every.single.day. They are both currently gone on vacation. My mom has been away 3 weeks and my dad has been away 1.5 weeks. Not coming back yet either.
When they each left I told DS grandma/grandpa went bye bye on the airplane. I thought he was fine with it. I haven't mentioned them again bc I thought out of sight out of mind. But maybe I was really wrong on this. He hasn't really spoken to them on the phone either.
Do you think that it's just gotten to the point that he is missing them too much. He appeared fine before but I don't know, maybe now it's been too long.
Just looking for some insight on either or both of these things. I'm really concerned about my DS. I'm at a loss.
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
I'm no expert and it could be possible it has to do with him missing your parents, but in my experience as a mom of three, this is a phase many toddlers go through. I remember being pregnant with #2 and #1 was like 22 months old and would not sleep for anything. I remember freaking out thinking how the heck am I going to deal with a newborn when my toddler wont sleep. And eventually it works itself out. Just keep to your routine as best you can. My 15 month old has been waking thoughout the night also lately and she is normally a 11 hour through the night sleeper.
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| Posted 9/19/11 4:09 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
I'm going through something similar with Ian...so it can be the age, but he can also miss your parents. My problem is getting him to sleep, but once he's sleeping he's fine. GL! 
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| Posted 9/19/11 4:15 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
Could he be sick? My son always acted like that when he had an ear infection. It took me about 7 months to figure out because he was fine during he day and if I got him out of his crib. At 10 months he got tubes and everything got so much better!
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| Posted 9/19/11 4:51 PM |
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Domino
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
For my DS it was/is a phase. He is 23 months and for the past three months he has been SCREAMING everytime I put him down. Actually the mere mention of "night night" elicites head shakes and screaming. At first I thought there was something wrong. I brought him to ped thinking it could be ears...he was fine. It might be the first step in asserting his independence. Whatever it is, I have been very strict about CIO and after three months (and with the screaming times becoming less and less) he is back to falling asleep within a minute of putting him in the crib.
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| Posted 9/19/11 6:51 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
Posted by Domino
For my DS it was/is a phase. He is 23 months and for the past three months he has been SCREAMING everytime I put him down. Actually the mere mention of "night night" elicites head shakes and screaming. At first I thought there was something wrong. I brought him to ped thinking it could be ears...he was fine. It might be the first step in asserting his independence. Whatever it is, I have been very strict about CIO and after three months (and with the screaming times becoming less and less) he is back to falling asleep within a minute of putting him in the crib.
So it seems from what everyone is saying that it's the age and a phase. But 3 months!! I don't think I can make it that long. Our routine is out the window in the sense that I can no longer just put him down after prayers and some singing. I have to hold him until he's asleep. He's crying so hard, I can't CIO, I never really had to. There's another way isn't there??
What am I going to do?
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| Posted 9/19/11 8:15 PM |
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itsbabytime
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| Posted 9/19/11 9:41 PM |
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
I think it could have to do with missing your parents. Absolutely! I would play it by ear and see what happens when they return.
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| Posted 9/19/11 9:43 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
Posted by itsbabytime
I think its a phase many toddlers go through. My first went through it and now I am dealing with this with my 19 mo old. Just one tip - DO NOT bring him into your bed! I did this after 4 nights of no sleep b/c like you every time I lowered her into the crib she would freak out and, now, she is waking up every night screaming "I WANT MOMMY'S BED" Last night - she peed in the bed - the icing on the cake. I'm so done
Last night DH was so desperate that he brought DS into our bed and much to our dismay (at that moment as we were soooo sleepy) DS wants NOTHING to do with being in our bed. I sometimes wish he'd fall asleep with us but no. I guess I should be glad.
Crossing my fingers he doens't wake up screaming tonight.
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| Posted 9/19/11 10:53 PM |
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LJSMommy
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Re: Toddler moms please come in - sleep and possible abandonment issues
It could TOTALLY be related to Grandma & Grandpa being gone.
DS & his sitter are SUPER close His normal schedule was always 3 full days with her. No other kids. She is like having an extra Grandma only better for him
She goes to Ireland for 6 weeks each summer. He cried MANY times for her over the summer. DS is over 3 & so he is very verbal & expressive with his emotions and would TELL us how sad he was & how much he missed her.
Is it possible this is just your DS's way of expressing himself? How verbal is he?
Can they do skype with him maybe? He is probably having separation anxiety and it might reallly help him to see them!
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| Posted 9/19/11 11:01 PM |
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