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evenedan
Need a little sunshine
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
We like having things just us right now. We go out a lot and take trips etc. and we're just not ready to change our lifestyle or do that stuff with a child yet. I know the clock is ticking and it will be time to move into the next phase of life eventually, but I'm not ready for it yet. Such a drastic and permanent change!
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Shanti
True love
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
We enjoy our life as it is
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| Posted 7/30/07 12:44 PM |
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JodiBabe
Married for 9 yrs!!!!!!
Member since 5/05 6672 total posts
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Jodi
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
DH never wanted kids & I already have a 25 year old so we (DH & I) are not having any kids together.
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| Posted 7/30/07 12:51 PM |
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preciouslove
I love my DS!!!
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
I have two kids...A 1 year old and a 37 year old. The 37 year old being my DH... Men do act like kids sometimes!
But seriously noone should ever question anyone's decision on when they are going to have kids. DH and I were married 3 1/2 years before our son was born. He was born in June and our 4 year anniversary was in July. Anyways I hated hearing "when are you going to have children" and yes I got the "you are not getting any younger" crap too... I was 32 when I had DS. Having children is a personal and very important decision and no jackass should ever question you as to why you haven't had kids yet.
WARNING: The stupid comments don't end when you have the baby because when I was pregnant people were asking me if I am going to have another baby after this one. I used to say.."do you mind if I give birth first'... Jesus Christ I hadn't even given birth to my first one and they were already asking if I am going to have more than one. Then after my son was born all i've heard is "so are you ready for #2" They would ask me this during the newborn months. I still get asked when is number 2 coming because number 1 needs a playmate. Uggggh it never ends! We haven't decided on #2 and financially I don't think we can have a #2. We are doing fine with the one we have. We are enjoying him so much but at the same time it is a lot of hard work.
Babies are a lot of work!
Message edited 7/30/2007 1:07:51 PM.
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:05 PM |
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MrsS2005
Mom of 3
Member since 11/05 13118 total posts
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
For a while, I wasn't ready to start a family. I knew I wanted kids eventually, but I didn't have the baby bug. Now, I'm starting to think about it more. We're waiting at least until we buy a house, which will hopefully be in the next 6 months.
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:12 PM |
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Kara
Now Zagat Rated!
Member since 3/07 13217 total posts
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They call me "Tater Salad"
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by KittyTheStray
We're not having any. When people ask I flat out tell them DH got 'fixed' so they stop saying "Oh, you'll change your mind..." DH is 43, I'm 34. Trust me, we've thought it out 
Neither one of us has ever wanted children. I'm SO FRICKIN' SICK of people telling us we'll change our minds. 
No, we are not baby-eating martians. We like kids - we just don't want our own. We don't tell anyone they'll change your mind about wanting them!
The whole "When are you having kids" thing baffles me. I do NOT understand why it's ANYONE'S business to ask when someone is having kids or to comment on or question their decision. I don't at all mind it for discussion purposes here, but to be approached about this is really aggravating to me. I tell people it's none of their business.
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:14 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by maybebaby
I think it's very very important to have lived together long enough to know the other person in and out...it takes a strong marriage to have a strong family!
I completely agree with this! We had lived together for just under 2 years when we first got married, and knew even then that we still wanted a few more years to build that foundation before we added anything else onto it. Looking back, and seeing how much we've grown as a couple, i think that it really one of the best decisions we could have made.
then we went back and forth about whether or not we even wanted to have kids. But, then i went back to school, so that gave us an excuse to put it on the back burner for a couple of years. Now, we definitely feel like we want kids... just figuring out When is the issue 
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:19 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by KittyTheStray
We're not having any. When people ask I flat out tell them DH got 'fixed' so they stop saying "Oh, you'll change your mind..." DH is 43, I'm 34. Trust me, we've thought it out
I'm not easily offended by this question, i think its usually good hearted... BUT... the whole 'you'll change your mind thing' is a little is definitely out of place. I would never say to a PG lady "are you sure you want that kid? you might change your mind!" so i think its kind of ballsy for them to say it to you!
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:21 PM |
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Superkat
More a stranger than a friend
Member since 5/06 9730 total posts
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Before we started TTC, our reasoning was about "other" things in our life. His mom had a stroke, my mom had multiple heart attacks, I just started a new job etc. Now things have calmed down a little and we are now TTC.
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:24 PM |
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itslaurie
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/06 509 total posts
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Laurie
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Message edited 8/1/2007 2:21:11 PM.
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:32 PM |
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melbalalala
Little Lady
Member since 5/07 5015 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
We have ALOT of traveling we want to do before we take on the responsibility of parenthood.
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| Posted 7/30/07 1:42 PM |
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anonttcer
BOOOO for fall!
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Meaning a NON ttcer!
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by Kara
Posted by KittyTheStray
We're not having any. When people ask I flat out tell them DH got 'fixed' so they stop saying "Oh, you'll change your mind..." DH is 43, I'm 34. Trust me, we've thought it out
Neither one of us has ever wanted children. I'm SO FRICKIN' SICK of people telling us we'll change our minds.
No, we are not baby-eating martians. We like kids - we just don't want our own. We don't tell anyone they'll change your mind about wanting them!
The whole "When are you having kids" thing baffles me. I do NOT understand why it's ANYONE'S business to ask when someone is having kids or to comment on or question their decision. I don't at all mind it for discussion purposes here, but to be approached about this is really aggravating to me. I tell people it's none of their business.
 I totally agree with you!
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| Posted 7/30/07 2:36 PM |
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Beth
The Key to your new home....
Member since 2/06 24849 total posts
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Beth
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by ejm1219
I want to enjoy my life with my husband before kids complicate it!
this is the main reason for us- and we want to buy a house first- which means deciding on staying in NY or not-
and we are flat out NOT ready!
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| Posted 7/30/07 2:39 PM |
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Whamtastic
LIF Adult
Member since 1/07 997 total posts
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Big Fat Baby with a Blackberry
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
We just don't want kids yet. I'm 25, he's 31... we're both young and enjoy not having a ton of responsibilities. We love our life the way it is and realize that if/when we have children, our lifestyle will have to change drastically. So... other, I guess.
I, too, hate when people ask us when we're having a baby. Why should I have a baby? Because I'm married? That's lame. I was asked this a few weeks ago by an unmarried relative in her early 30s. I asked her when she was having a baby. She didn't seem to like it either.
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| Posted 7/30/07 2:56 PM |
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Ltdentway99
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
The last choice should be "still having fun as a free newly married couple, but would love kids at a later date"
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| Posted 7/30/07 2:59 PM |
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Waste06
Waste not, want not
Member since 6/06 7219 total posts
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Lois Mom Mommy Mama Ma
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Where's the choice for "all of the above"?
All of your reasons, and then some.
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| Posted 7/30/07 3:03 PM |
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wp
5 years!!!!
Member since 6/05 1932 total posts
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
We just feel that since we have gotten engaged (almost 4 years ago  ) and then married its always something. First engaged, then the wedding, then an apartment, then buying a house, then construction on the house ect............It feels like it is non stop!!!! Now that things have finally slowed down in the past few months we are not ready for another "big project" yet. We are just enjoying being the two of us, spending time together, traveling, going out with friends and relaxing! I just enjoy spending time just the two of us!
Message edited 7/30/2007 3:06:57 PM.
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| Posted 7/30/07 3:05 PM |
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Arieschick29
aries+cancer= pisces&gemini
Member since 3/06 4268 total posts
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Jen
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Even though we have been together 10 years this Feb we agreed that we wanted at least 2 years to just enjoy being married, to travel some more and enjoy time together before a baby ruins all that
I also would like to have a house and settle down in it for a bit before getting PG
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| Posted 7/30/07 3:06 PM |
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mikeswife06
Drama Momma
Member since 9/06 9947 total posts
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Anne
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by Whamtastic
I was asked this a few weeks ago by an unmarried relative in her early 30s. I asked her when she was having a baby. She didn't seem to like it either.
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| Posted 7/30/07 4:44 PM |
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baghag
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by Whamtastic
I was asked this a few weeks ago by an unmarried relative in her early 30s. I asked her when she was having a baby. She didn't seem to like it either.
Good answer!
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| Posted 7/30/07 5:55 PM |
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
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The cure IS worse!
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Now that I had one...I am starting to get the "so when's the next one" question! 
People always have SOMETHING to say
My answer...umm health reasons. You can always use that one, people don't seem to ask further questions after that.
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| Posted 7/30/07 6:14 PM |
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
Member since 5/05 18602 total posts
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The cure IS worse!
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by DebG
Now that I had one...I am starting to get the "so when's the next one" question!
People always have SOMETHING to say
My answer...umm health reasons. You can always use that one, people don't seem to ask further questions after that.
ETA- Yes a baby changes things but I saw words like "ruin" on t his thread...if you feel that a baby will ruin things, why even consider having one?
the real eta- ooops hit quote instead of edit, my apologies.
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| Posted 7/30/07 6:17 PM |
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MrsCJK
Thankful!
Member since 11/06 1773 total posts
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Cal
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
With us its that we will be married one year in October
we are enjoying being selfish, treating ourselves great, being able to do whatever we want whenever we want
we both love kids and definately want them but will probably wait 2+ yrs before we start a family
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| Posted 7/30/07 6:50 PM |
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angnick
Life is So Wonderful!
Member since 8/06 6663 total posts
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Angela
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
we have a lot we want to do before we have a baby. travel a little bit more, enjoy living together and having it only be him and in our house.
we'll get there, maybe we'll start trying next year.
i know what it is like to raise a baby- my sisters were born when i was 11.. PERFECT birth control!!!
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| Posted 7/30/07 9:41 PM |
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nov04libride
big brother <3
Member since 5/05 14672 total posts
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Me
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Re: Those who are NOT TTC....
Posted by DebG
Posted by DebG
Now that I had one...I am starting to get the "so when's the next one" question!
People always have SOMETHING to say
My answer...umm health reasons. You can always use that one, people don't seem to ask further questions after that.
ETA- Yes a baby changes things but I saw words like "ruin" on t his thread...if you feel that a baby will ruin things, why even consider having one?
the real eta- ooops hit quote instead of edit, my apologies.
i didn't say ruin myself, but i don't see how anyone could disagree that a child complicates married life by adding in so much more responsibility. but yes, anyone that thinks a baby will ruin the marriage probably shouldn't have one! for now we are enjoying being a bit more selfish...going to the gym after work without having to worry about not picking up a baby from daycare, or meeting each other out for drinks without having to worry about bringing a baby or finding a sitter. there will be a point when we are willing to give those things up for the obvious joy of having a baby, but for now we're enjoying our family of two.
Message edited 7/30/2007 9:55:14 PM.
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