"The one"

Realistically, When you found "the" house..agreed on a deal..& were going to contract..

Did you still question that it was the right one?
Did you worry something better would come on the market and it would be too late?

or

Were you 100% sure and excited to proceed?

Honesty plz

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We questioned it. It's part of "buyer's remorse". You wonder if you made the right decision.

2 years later, I know we made the perfect decision, but that took time.

And this is only a starter home for us, so I am already looking to move within the next year or so.

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We knew that our house was the one before we even saw the inside. We saw a picture of the outside and our realtor told me it was nice on the inside. On the way to see the house we even joked thta we were about to buy a house. We just knew it. The second I walked in I knew we had to have this house.

BUT... we put our offer in in January and I definitely thought about the fact that a lot of houses were about to come on the market for the spring. I definitely questioned our decision to buy without waiting to see what else came on but so far nothing has come on that i think i might like better than what we got. Ultimately if the house meets the criteria that you are looking for, you just have to go for it and try not to second guess yourself!

Good luck!

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I knew the exact streets in my town that I wanted to live on and had been past our house a few times when it first went on the market. I then drove past it with my DH and he didn't like something about it, so we never went to see it with a realtor.

A few months later I saw it on MLSLI and thought the inside looked nice and in particular the kitchen, so I persuaded my DH to view it. Well, let me just say that the pictures did the house ALOT of justice. When we went to see it with the agent we said "no way" and never thought about it again.

Another few months of losing out on houses, going to contract on one house where the owner took a higher offer and being out-bid on houses that went for over asking price. I also had my co-op sold so we were then under pressure to find something. I was working late one night and saw that the price had been dropped on "our house". I told my DH to just go and look at the house again and if he thought it was "workable" to give a b*s* offer and see what would happen.

Well, we got the house for a great price and now love it. So, no, it was far from "the one" but now it is very much the home we wanted.

The twist to it all is that the woman who bought the house we had gone to contract on was actually going to buy the house that we ended up buying.

Message edited 5/4/2006 5:17:40 PM.

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The part I am 2nd guessing is selling my current house. We love our current house so much. And when we just put it on the market I got so sad. It is only 13 yrs old, in a great location & so charming. However, we need more room & I am not up for the renovations. So I hope a great couple buy it, then I will feel so much better. But I love the new house we are in contract with. So I'm not sure if that answers your question

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We didn't question it was the one only because it had everything we were looking for. However, I am a worrywart by nature so all along I've been worried about the financial end of it. It's just going to be an adjustment for awhile. My DH, on the other hand, doesn't worry about these kinds of things and has no doubt whatsoever. I am so envious of that!

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I am beginning to lose faith in the "one"

thinking it is a myth...

if you are lucky to find a house you like...go for it and don't look back

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Having lost out on the one 3 times now, I am just fed up with the whole thing. I am so depressed.

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Thanks everyone.

The financial end definitely scares me.

My family lost our house when we were little (dad left) and its always in the back of my mind.

I think my doubts stem from that and even if we found the PERFECT house I would question buying because of that.

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absolutely, i def questioned but after everything else we saw in our price range, this was "the one" for right now
i dont believe in the perfect house unless you're building it yourself.

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knew it was the one when we pulled up in the driveway.

didn't hesitate to put in an offer, and never second guessed our decision.

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Our first house, in retrospect, was our "Mr. Right Now." We were in such a hurry to get into something as we were getting married that I think we compromised on a lot of things we should not have.

This house, we just felt was "our" house!

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we couldn't afford "the one", so we got the "one for right now".

to this day i still believe we overpaid by 20K, but given the way the housing market was, that was going to be the only way we would get it.

scanning realtor.com and gsmls.com i am happy we snagged what we did because in our area at our price point, i just see blah after blah listed. our place has its drawbacks, but it at least has some charm...

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We loved our house knowing our budget limitations. We were never going to get what we wanted, where we wanted it, when we bought.

There was one house I loved more, but it was on the one crappy street in Kings Park, and it was practically in the parking lot of the train station. I still loved it though, but DH was a voice of reason and anyway, we were outbid.

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We were 100% sure

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We are scheduled to close on a house next Friday and I still second guess myself. I feel as though as soon as I sign those papers, I will find somehting more amazing and more affordable come onto the market. I still check mlsli almost daily, although i have stopped going to open houses.

At this time, we are also not sure if this is the one, or the one for now. I don't like being so far east (coram), however it looks as though as some of my friends settle down, they are/ will be moving east as well. We are both from the city so the distance is a big thing for us. But we knew we could not buy a home, nor have the land we wanted it, for the price we are paying in queens or nassau.

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The house I am in now wasnt the one, it was #5! We had 4 previous deals fall through for various reasons. I was getting so upset and we were living with my mom for almost 10 months and really wanted our own place that we did give up some of the things we were looking for. (A basement and a 2 car garage and not in my home town). It turns out this house was the right house because both my mom and grandma needed us so often that it was great that we were so close to them and now dh and I both only have a 15 minute commute to work. Sometimes things just work out!

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We were nervous right up to the first mortgage payment!

We had a rough couple of months!

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(we bought our home in 1999).

We knew the moment we pulled in the driveway that the house was "the one"; we didn't even have to go inside, when we saw the property/location...we knew.

I told my husband in the car, "GIVE THEM ASKING PRICE....DON'T SCREW THIS UP".



Even today, we both know that this house is still "the one" for us.

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I knew I would live in the house we live in now when i walked through the front door. Interesting enough it was exactly what we were looking for in terms of the # of bedrooms/bathrooms, large backyard, cul-d-sac, location ( 20 miles outside of NYC) but just not the style of house we were looking for. I wanted a center hall colonial but I live in a high ranch.

In the end we love our house and it was a great decision.

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We knew for sure it was "the one" and didn't have any second thoughts about that. What we did worry about was how we'd afford it and if they'd accept our offer. There were two other offers on the house at the time. We didn't even give the realtor an amount, I just said to her do whatever you have to do to get us this house - just a little crazy in hindsight, huh?

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I was 95% sure. Since we moved in I haven't doubted the decision on this house.


ETA: Once you are in contract, stop looking at other houses. Just like when you pick your wedding dress you should get rid of the bridal magazines. You'll drive yourself mad.

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We were in contract with another house and had SO MUCH doubt. It wasn't the one for us and we ended up not being able to get it. We also saw a gazillion houses before finding ours.

With our house, I knew immediately. I fell in love with a tree in the backyard and the inside didn't matter. My DH loved the inside (I did too, but I was in shock at the surroundings) and we said "this is it". Never looked back. We knew and didn't think anything better would come along in our price range. We would see other houses and say "ours is better" even before it was "officially" ours...so I think you just know.

Good luck!!