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EricaAlt
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Teen party gift question

Thanks all! I'll give a check similar to what he got. Just wasn't sure if GC was appropriate too in same amount, but everyone said money.

Thanks!

Message edited 11/22/2022 12:09:21 PM.

Posted 11/21/22 1:36 PM
 
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ali120206
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Teen party gift question

Id give back what you got since your party was recently - maybe $75 though.

Posted 11/21/22 2:00 PM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by ali120206

Id give back what you got since your party was recently - maybe $75 though.


I agree

Posted 11/21/22 2:07 PM
 

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Teen party gift question

My daughter just had her Sweet 16 and the average gift was $50 unless it was a very close friend or family.

Posted 11/21/22 3:02 PM
 

lululu
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Re: Teen party gift question

$75

Posted 11/21/22 3:18 PM
 

Budjeg11
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Teen party gift question

I agree, $75

Posted 11/21/22 6:32 PM
 

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Teen party gift question

I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75

Posted 11/21/22 9:23 PM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by Katareen

I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75



I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.

Posted 11/22/22 7:35 AM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Katareen

I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75



I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.



So is it a Sweet 16 or is it just a random big birthday party? Or some kind of religious event?

Posted 11/22/22 7:55 AM
 

windyweather21
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Re: Teen party gift question

Sweet Sixteen, maybe $50.

Posted 11/22/22 8:01 AM
 

LuckyStar
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Teen party gift question

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.

Posted 11/22/22 8:02 AM
 

lululu
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Katareen

I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75



I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.



I don't think that most guests at a bar mitvah care that the kid had to study and prepare for it with regards to how much they give as a gift. That is something that your son chose to do as part of his religious upbringing. I would say the same for a confirmation gift. A lot of work goes into getting confirmed. Years of religious education and volunteer work etc. But if you have a party people are going to give whatever they are comfortable giving.

Posted 11/22/22 8:09 AM
 

lpg21
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Re: Teen party gift question

I would do $75

Posted 11/22/22 8:32 AM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by Katareen

I don’t see why this is any different than the other parties.
Just match the gift closely…$70 or $75



I wouldn't compare it to a bar mitzvah, but I guess more of a Sweet 16 type party. My son studied his torah for 6 months.



So is it a Sweet 16 or is it just a random big birthday party? Or some kind of religious event?



It's a 13th birthday party. I'm guessing like a sweet 16. It's at a fire house and I believe they have a DJ and all. SO I will give $70 or $75

Posted 11/22/22 12:03 PM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean

Posted 11/22/22 12:05 PM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by lpg21

I would do $75



Thanks

Posted 11/22/22 12:05 PM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean



Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.

Posted 11/22/22 12:51 PM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by windyweather21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean



Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.



Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.

Posted 11/22/22 1:03 PM
 

nycbuslady
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by windyweather21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean



Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.



Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.



In that case, I think $75 is a bit much. I think something in the $50 range is better. It's just a birthday party.

Posted 11/22/22 1:11 PM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by windyweather21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean



Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.



Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.



Ok I change my answer then. I was thinking it was a sweet 16. If it's a random 13 year old party then I think it would be OK to do less. Maybe $50 then if they are having a big thing with a DJ.

Posted 11/22/22 1:14 PM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by lpg21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by windyweather21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean



Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.



Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.



Ok I change my answer then. I was thinking it was a sweet 16. If it's a random 13 year old party then I think it would be OK to do less. Maybe $50 then if they are having a big thing with a DJ.



I have literally never heard of a big 13th birthday party at a hall.
To be honest it seems like she is jealous of her friends who are having bar and bat mitzvahs at this age and wanted a big party of her own.
I hear something new every day, I swear.

Posted 11/22/22 1:18 PM
 

windyweather21
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by lpg21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by windyweather21

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by LuckyStar

I would give back what they gave you, just as you did for the other bar mitzvahs. I don’t see why it being a girl or not a religious event would have any bearing on a gift. So either $72 or $75.



Had nothing to do with it being a girl or religious thing. Was just trying to see if people compare it to a sweet 16 or bar mitzvah type since that's where the kids are at. It's his first just big bday party that's not a boy where they are going to Top Golf or a fancy bar mitzvah he's invited to. It sounds like just a fancy 13th birthday party I mean



Wow for a 13th birthday? Honestly I would give like $30 then.



Thanks! This is why I was confused. I do think she's having a DJ and it's 4 hours. They rented the hall at a Fire House and it's all just kids. I heard she invited about 75 kids.
I will do more. SHe was at my son's bar mitzvah in May and they gave $72. He's either been at bar/bat mitzvahs or goes to a friend's 13th party at a place or sleepover. It was just different.



Ok I change my answer then. I was thinking it was a sweet 16. If it's a random 13 year old party then I think it would be OK to do less. Maybe $50 then if they are having a big thing with a DJ.



I have literally never heard of a big 13th birthday party at a hall.
To be honest it seems like she is jealous of her friends who are having bar and bat mitzvahs at this age and wanted a big party of her own.
I hear something new every day, I swear.



Exactly and makes no sense. Any place out of NY would probably give $20 but because we think if you have something outside of the house, you need to give more. Not really OUR problem how much they choose to spend. Maybe I am cheap but $50 seems a lot too for a 13 yr old party. I spend that much on a 50 year olds party.

Posted 11/22/22 2:08 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Teen party gift question

Several kids in my DH’s family had 13th birthday parties like this. Basically a bar/bar mitzvah without the temple part. Not sure if this is what’s going on here, but from what I understand it’s fairly common in very reform circles.

If the party is equivalent to a bar/bat mitzvah minus the religious aspect, I’d still reciprocate the same gift she gave your son.

Posted 11/22/22 2:08 PM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by LuckyStar

Several kids in my DH’s family had 13th birthday parties like this. Basically a bar/bar mitzvah without the temple part. Not sure if this is what’s going on here, but from what I understand it’s fairly common in very reform circles.

If the party is equivalent to a bar/bat mitzvah minus the religious aspect, I’d still reciprocate the same gift she gave your son.



Thanks!

Posted 11/22/22 2:12 PM
 

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Re: Teen party gift question

Posted by LuckyStar

Several kids in my DH’s family had 13th birthday parties like this. Basically a bar/bar mitzvah without the temple part. Not sure if this is what’s going on here, but from what I understand it’s fairly common in very reform circles.
.



Wow, that's interesting I never knew that.
I went to a lot of bar and bat mitzvahs of my friends growing up but never a 13th bday party like that.

Posted 11/22/22 3:45 PM
 
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