Spinoff: Why are so many people ashamed of their body?

OK, I always find it disturbing when I see woman who are so ashamed of their bodies.

Ladies who are ashamed, why are you?

Yes, I know I can afford to loose a few lbs, and yes there are times where I will make comments about myself. But, generally, I love my body. It is the only body I have. So, I have some extra cushion, so what. I won't let it ruin my good time.

It's just that I always see people post and even in everyday life where they are always so down on themselves and it makes me upset. I have noticed that my post baby extra lbs have been messing with my head a little, which I have to work on.

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My body is a MESS.

I am ashamed because my body is a reflection of how I treat myself. I don't honor myself. I overeat. I don't exercise enough - and it is evident when you look at me.

I used to love my body. Now I don't.

I am trying to love myself more. I am starting to take care of myself better... and hopefully I can be happier with myself!

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For me, it's more anger that I "let myself go" I used to be toned and I kinda just let it go, ate what I wanted, etc. So I am ashamed. HOWEVER - I have always been curvy and I accept that. So I may never be a size 2 but I will be happy with an 8!

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I have always been self consious of my body - and I really don't know why. I guess I have this pre-concieved notion of what I think it should look like and I can't allow myself to appreciate what I look like now

I am always on a diet.

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I think a lot of it has to do with the media and how society has become.
Unrealistically skinny women are put on a pedestal on TV, Movies, magazinies, you name it.
You start comparing yourself and you never measure up- (because you aren't airbrushed, plastic suregeried out, etc)

I can say that I am considered skinny and I still sometimes look at my thighs and get disgusted because they are bigger than the rest of me or I see some celluite.

It's crazy I know- but sometimes you can't help it.

I also have to say that everyone is their own worst critic. Others never see you quite as badly as you see yourself!

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I agree that it is terrible, and I wish it wasn't the case, but I hate my body. I have always been so critical of myself (physically) and it is unhealthy. Even when i look at pics of when I was thin, I hated the way i looked then and always thought I looked fat. It is really a mental thing. I mean of course I have good days and bad, but honestly the thought of being in a bathing suit in front of people scares the crap out of me. It's something i need to work on. DH thinks I'm nuts.

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We are told that this is the pefect body...



Heidi Klum may be in the minority of body types in this country, but she's plastered everywhere, my size 10 azz isn't.

Clothes are being cut smaller and smaller so when I reach for my usual size 10 jeans and they won't button so I have to go for the next size up that's when I start to feel like a heffer.

I realize that I have a very normal figure and I look like the average American woman and I have to remind myself every single day that there are better and there are worse.

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I have my moments though I definitely would not say I am "ashamed"

I mean, I wear a bikini to the beach and stuff but I don't show my cooch in public or to strangers. we were raised to be more private about our private parts.

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because society put so much emphasis on being a size 4...it is really sad, actually

I have meet "heavier" people who are more happy and content than "thin" people....

I could stand to lose a few pounds as well but I am definitely not "ashamed" of my body......

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Posted by Tracey

I have always been self consious of my body - and I really don't know why. I guess I have this pre-concieved notion of what I think it should look like and I can't allow myself to appreciate what I look like now

I am always on a diet.

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Cause there are major twiggys running around, sporting their middrifts constantly and well I cant do that,

I dont think anyone is ever entirely happy with their body.
Society makes us that way though.

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I can tell you why I was-

I was raised by a very looks-conscious family. And no one in my family is a super model, but the only way that my family could feel better about themselves was by putting someone else down. Since I was young, impressionable, and pudgy, that person wound up being me, and my young cousins. All before the age of 10.

After going through an eating disorder through my teenage years, being very over weight towards the end of my teen years and early 20's, I finally made peace with myself and my body, and took great care of it. But, I still get self conscious because of all that baggage that my family put on me. I fought thru it and began wearing clothes that showed off my body and realized I was attractive, which was another struggle for me.


I became very comfortable and proud of my body. even pregnant, I loved my body.

But, the issues are coming back now post pregnancy. My body is larger again. I can't fit into my clothes. All the flaws I was able to get rid of with exercise are there again, and although I'm eating very little, I dont have the same time to exrecise, so its all coming off very slowly.

that being said, I am forced to deal with these issues that I was able to chase away with exercise. I am more accepting and loving of my body than i have been because I realize it was able to carry a healthy child, and I am ever grateful for that. But, I still have my moments where I feel fat and ugly, even though I'm only a size 8-10 post pregnancy.

Its worse when I am with my thin friends.

But, its something I acknowledge as my own insanity, and I'm working on it.

Message edited 6/29/2007 3:16:15 PM.

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i think my self body image changes depending on my hormones. if i'm PMS'ing and look in the mirror, sometimes i wanna cry. but other times i'll look in the mirror and i'll be very happy about how i look.

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i hate it. i hate it. i hate it.

ive gained alot of weight the past year and it makes me so sad when i see old pictures, i tear up.

i just hate my body, i cant help it.

am i ashamed of it? yes.

i show it to no one.

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I'm a total spaz today - I keep hitting quote instead of edit on my posts!!!

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I am very hard on myself because as a dancer, I had an eating disorder. I would see my chest bones and think I looked good. When I got my period again after months of not getting it, I was so sick that I thought: Wow. I really am fat now that I get it again.

I am never totally over it. I am 5'4", 120 pounds. I used to be 95 pounds. At my wedding I had gotten ill (the week before) and was 115...in some photos I seriously look like a bobblehead. This is a good, healthy weight for me now, but sometimes, I still feel....fat. I hate to admit that, but it's true.

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I don't know but its sad...and I'm not even ashamed of my weight or anything I can change...I'm ashamed of things I can't change unless I had plastic surgery!!! SAD! I think its due to society/pictures plastered everywhere.

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It's a little different for me. My weight actually doesn't have much to do with my self esteem, but my shape and body type do. I'm short, with broad shoulders and thick arms. That is what frustrates me, because even at my thinnest, those things don't change.

ETA: I don't constantly loathe my body, but it gets me down once in a while.

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...because fat is not considered cute unless you are under 3 years old. That's the American way.

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Posted by Jessee

Posted by Lanabean
I am never totally over it. I am 5'4", 120 pounds. I used to be 95 pounds. At my wedding I had gotten ill (the week before) and was 115...in some photos I seriously look like a bobblehead. This is a good, healthy weight for me now, but sometimes, I still feel....fat. I hate to admit that, but it's true.

I know I'm not "fat" but I was 108lbs on my wedding day (at 5'5) and actually am mad that I'm SO far from that now. I know there are a million factors that lead to it - but I don't like feeling like I let myself go once I got married (but I think I kinda have )