Spinoff about clothing size

Why are some women so caught up in numbers (weight, age, clothing size etc). I really hurts me to see that women get so hung up on this I really feel everyone is beautiful in their own way and being a size 2 or a 22 really doesn't matter, it's the way you carry yourself that does.

Thoughts?

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I used to be super caught up.

and still am to a certain extent....but my obssession is now my body measurements.

I know if I go above a certain number on my waist/hips/thighs that I've but on too much excess FAT...not muscle, which is unhealthy.

I try not to pay too much mind to the number on the scale.

sheer vanity makes me care a bit about the size of my clothes. I will not go above a 10.

it's all shame and vanity.

and sadly, I think we women have done that to ourselves.

as a means of topping each other.

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low self esteem
how they were brought up


those 2 explain the cause for my painful self image and daily struggle

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get pregnant.....the obsession worsened in the beginning, then you learn to let go.....now it's back


I am admittedly very vain.....but not in the typical way.......more in the 'hide my flaws' kinda way

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I was never one for numbers. I'm not a small girl. I never will be. I accepted it a long time ago.

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I agree with the PP, also I think it is society that does it too. Look at how everyone ripped Jennifer Love Hewitt apart for her bathing suit pics. She has a "normal" womans body and all she was called was fat. It is sad that you just cant be you and have to worry about what others are going to say and think. We all do it to ourselves. I would kill to have my 21 yr old body back and be able to bounce quarters off my toochy again, but sadly its not going to happen. It would be nice but who am I kidding.

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When I was younger I was very thin.....very. I was an athlete and put on a very strict diet. I was probably about 15 - 20 lbs less than what I should have been for my height. I stayed that way until I was almost 30 & began to have a slew of medical problems. Now my goal is to be fit - regardless of size. I want to be muscular and lean, rather than thin. I just don't want my skin flabbing all over, KWIM?

BUT I will say that the Barbie phenomenon is alive and well. I see it everyday. Its sad really, and so unhealthy.

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Posted by azoodie

Posted by Jessica

low self esteem
how they were brought up

Ophelia - I totally get the whole fat versus muscle thing. Of course everyone wants to be healthy first and foremost. I wish more people were thinking about health!

I just don't understand why someone like Jessica whos is SO incredibly beautiful has low self esteem. It's just not right.

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i also think its bc women tend to obsess and overanalyze

i was walking down the hall in seventh grade when a student told me i had "thunder thighs"
i was 5'3" and 115 lbs!!!! since then, i rarely, rarely, EVER wear flats bc i think wearing heels elongate my legs and make my thighs appear slimmer

Sick, i know!

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I was happier with myself when I was bigger. Sad, but true. I was so busy with my life that I didn't even realize how big I was. Now I'm 5 sizes smaller and more self-conscious about myself than ever. I constantly think about it; what I'm eating, how I look, etc and I hate it. I wish I could switch to the mentality I had when I was plus-sized.

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I was raised in a very body conscious family... Ironically, the 1st person to point out my body weight is my overweight step mother...

I'll be the 1st one to admit that it matters way too much to me. I don't see it as competition - I see women bigger than me who I think look amazing, and wonder would I be as happy if that were my size.

I was miserable with my body after I had my baby - even though he brought me more joy than I can imagine - because I couldn't fit into my smaller clothes.
and now, I am almost the same size I was pre-pregnancy - and there is one pair of jeans that I used to wear all the time that I still can't close, so, to me, I am still not happy with my body.

Its a sickness I'd be more than happy to get rid of. I battled body issues and eating disorders my whole life. I conquered the eating disorder, but not all the mental stuff that goes with it - I'm like a dry alcoholic, if that makes sense...

I was telling DH the other day that I know when there is somehting that is bothering me - something not related to my body - because the 1st thing I do is obsess about my weight and my body...

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Ophelia!!!!!!

I was the "smart one"
my younger sis, 2 years younger, was the "pretty one"


I will NEVER do that to my kids

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Posted by Jessica

Ophelia!!!!!!

I was the "smart one"
my younger sis, 2 years younger, was the "pretty one"


I will NEVER do that to my kids

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I never felt good about myself growing up... and will always take that with me. I can still stand and look in the mirror and say UGH!

I think it's a combination of society, and parents pushing you to be the picture perfect daughter.

I have good days and bad days. Some days I feel amazing. I am obsessed with numbers- I cannot help it-- it's how I gauge success or defeat. As for age-- well, that's another story all together.

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I was fat all my life, up until 2 years ago when I lost 85 lbs......I can finally wear a size 10, rather than 24......But I still look in the mirror and see the fat girl. I think I always will.

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The sad thing is, when everyone in my family was calling me fat - relentlessly - I was about a size 12....

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For me, I have come to terms that I am what I am. No matter how much I diet or do a workout, I always end up back at the same number. I feel that it is my body's way of telling me "Welcome to being an adult"

Numbers don't bother me much bc on a good day, no one can ever guess my weight. I have a lot of muscle so my weight reflects it on the scale but not in person. I am more inclined to look at sizes. For me personally, I will NOT go over a certain number (always been this way). Once I get to that point, I feel that I am not doing my best to look good.

My DH is my motivation too. He makes it a point to always look good & not put on the weight! He worked too hard to get himself to where he is. So I try to remain where I am bc of myself but also bc of him. I feel that if he can do it for me, I can do it for him (even though that is not the main point we do it)

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I am obsessed with my weight...I hate it but it's the truth. I am not obsessed with my clothing size...Im obsessed with how i look in the clothing I already own. A few lbs make a big difference on me...so I fight this constant battle to stay within a certain area.

My dad tellng me that if I got fat, people would call me fat _____ and roll me out the door...didn't help either. He would watch what I ate because people don't like overweight people. My dad had an obvious problem too. He was a runner too...and it's a constant struggle. My whole family is that way...after not seeing them for weeks they will say ohhh you look thin, or you look good ( you gained a few)

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low self-esteem, society, other people

I remembered when I lost the first 30lbs I made a post in my excitement on myspace about how I am so excited a shirt that hasn't fit finally did fit. Some A-hole that I forgot I was friends with on myspace asked me if the circus lost their tent Talk about a punch to the stomach.

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I agree it's low-self esteem, and for some poor body image, when people are obsessing about it.

I know friends that obsess with their size "0" clothes. I think it makes them feel better about themselves to focus on weight because it makes them feel like they "win". Silly them. I know firsthand clothing manufacturers have changed their sizes so the 2008 size 0 is actually a 2000 size 4.

I believe everyone values parts of themselves that are "better" than others so they can feel better about themselves (probably not making sense here). For example, the smart person feels better that they are smarter than another person. Another person feels that they are morally superior than others because they haven't done x or y.

In the long run, it's sad. I think if everyone focused on the whole package & improving the parts of themselves that aren't up to par (thinking along the lines of personality flaws more than clothing size), we'd all be a lot better off.