Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

What scares you the most about getting PG again - I mean, right away?

For me, I really, really want to enjoy Cailen's time as a baby. I really want to get PG when he is out of the baby stage - even 2 yrs old.

When my AF was late, I kept thinking that if I was PG, I'd have the baby before his 1st bday, and it made me want to cry. It broke my heart thinking that I would be occupied with a new baby while he was still a baby

Also, and I know this sounds awful, but the thought of my body going to even more crap from the crappy shape its in now devastated me. I just added 30-40 pounds to the weight I am now and a lump came to my throat

I know one is never really "ready" for a baby. I wouldnt mind it being an accident again because that way I just have to hit the floor running, but just not when Cailen is still so young.

Finacially as well - DH just got a raise and we are finally seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. Another baby right now would make that tunnel a hell of a lot longer.


So- what are your reasons for being terrified and praying a little longer after that pull?

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

I wanted another one immed..my kids are a year apart to the day.
I loved it. I guess its not for everyone..Did the test come up neg?
Im assuming it did..just pray--and then run to the gyno for bc! u dont need that stress every month.
I know someone who got prego from the pull and pray method..only takes one sperm.


oh! edited to add...
I looked better then ever after #2--running around after #1-only gained 19 pounds--went to a bio-chemist after that and went down to a size zero..I was hot!

Message edited 7/17/2007 9:58:32 AM.

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

Even though Lily is only 7 weeks...I would love to have another one now ...I already miss her being really really little! My husband is not as enthusiastic about it though!
I grew up really close in age to my siblings (4 kids in 4 1/2 years ) so I've always wanted that for my children as well....
But, the one thing holding me back is the weight issue. I'd like to lose the baby weight, and maybe a bit more, before trying again!

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I am not physically and mentally ready. Unless it's an accident I would like to wait 1.5-2 years.

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#1 reason is money unfortunately (my il's watch mikayla but they could not handle watching 2 small babies)

#2 - I need to lose this baby weight before I get pregnant again

#3 - I want to enjoy dd as much as I can now.

We want to have another when dd is 2 or 2 1/2 so once her first b-day is past us, we will think about trying for #2

Message edited 7/17/2007 10:24:51 AM.

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I agree that I am not physically or mentally ready. I always thought I wanted two children. I also have two step sons. My DH only wanted one more. I thought this would be a big issue between us - me wanting two, he wanted one. Now that I have my son, I can't imagine ever being ready for another!! I'm sure this eventually might change, but as for now, I am perfectly happy with having my beautiful son and his two half-brothers!

If I got pg right away, I would feel sad for not being able to fully enjoy DS's baby stage, but I know moms do it all the time and you find a way to enjoy all children, no matter there spacing.

I would also feel tremendous anxiety about having another healthy baby. I feel so blessed to have had a healthy baby and I worry (obssesively) about something being wrong with him, and if I got pg again, I would feel that I was jinxing myself (especially because DH doesn't want anymore) that I might not have another healthy baby. I'm a sicko!!

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I have a 4 month old right now and I am currentlyl TTC. I want my kids close in age.

Although I got pregnant right away with Tyler, it may not be that easy the second time around.

My only concern is that I have 10 pounds to go to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. If I get pregnant right away, I am going to start my 2nd pregnancy with that extra weight.

I guess it will just take more work when baby # 2 is born.

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waiting? what's that?

i wanted mine back to back. I don't regret it and so far its been really great.

i gained 80 lbs with my first and didnt want to go through the trouble of losing all of it to gain weight again.

With my second I only gain 15 which was exactly what I was after giving birth to my first.

So with 2 back to back's I only gained 80 and am now working on losing it all.

We are done and using P and P for the next few weeks. Condoms aren't an option due to allergies.

god forbid something happened, i would be very scared. 3 under 2? that is something I don't even want to think about, although I would make the best out of it.

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Well... lets see. I SO want to be pregnant again!!! I miss it so much. But for me, I want this time with Bella. I dont want to be anywhere else but with her and I'm just not ready to split my time with another baby. Selfish, yes, but...I want to REALLY get to know her and I wouldn't be able to do that with another newborn.

Plus, I'm just not physically or emotionally ready yet. I just got through the "newborn" phase and we all know how hard that was.

Financially, we weren't ready for Bella, so I don't think we'll ever be monetarily ready for #2.

And lastly... we have to put the addition on to the house before #2 arrives and that will be starting in March... so...

But I really want to have another one sooner than later, just not this soon

(but it wouldn't be the worst thing that could happen)

Message edited 7/17/2007 12:04:26 PM.

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Aside from the obvious one, money.

I don't think I would be TOO scared. I say that now though! If money were not an issue.

We actually had this talk last night, after we um, did the deed. The "What if./.." talk. I said "We'd have to move in with your mother"

I'd be afraid of losing my sanity. I can see it now, they be pooping simultaniously and couldnt change them fast enough!!

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I had the pregnancy from Hell......Hospital visits, infusion pump, 30 plus weeks of throwing up and nausea, bi weekly dr visits, bed rest and I DO NOT want to do that again.

I would seriously have a nervous breakdown.

Second would be finacially we cant afford it

And third the newborn period , sleepless nights AGAIN...SOON?
No way!

p.s I was JUST reaquainted with my friend the wine bottle, I dont want him to leave too soon

Message edited 7/17/2007 12:13:58 PM.

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Aside from a zillion other things, the most frigthening aspect would be the financial. There's no way we can afford two kids in daycare and if I was a SAHM, we couldnt' afford our mortgage. We'd have to sell the house and move into an apartment. I grew up in an apartment and I never want to go back!!! That's scariest for me!!!

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

Getting preclampsia again. ETA: Morning sickness!! I had it bad!

Gaining weight again, but thats really it.

I'm looking foward to another baby!

Message edited 7/17/2007 10:27:23 PM.

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

so if people are truly scared, not ready (financially or mentally), then why not look into another form of BC?
I never understood this...
I understand if it happens it happens blah blah, but not being ready financially and mentally see like really HUGE reasons to use BC...

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

my son is only 2 1/2 months old, but what would scare me most is omg I didnt lose this weight yet, now I have to gain again and then Id feel like i'd be this size forever if not larger...thats enuff reason, but i really want to enjoy him, I dont think i want to try again till hes 1 1/2 at least

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Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

Posted by dm24angel

I had the pregnancy from Hell......Hospital visits, infusion pump, 30 plus weeks of throwing up and nausea, bi weekly dr visits, bed rest and I DO NOT want to do that again.

I would seriously have a nervous breakdown.

Second would be finacially we cant afford it

And third the newborn period , sleepless nights AGAIN...SOON?
No way!

p.s I was JUST reaquainted with my friend the wine bottle, I dont want him to leave too soon

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

Add me to the list of people who also wanted mine really close in age. I got PG with #2 when #1 was 11 months old. I am now PG with #3 and am totally bummed that she will be a whole 27 months younger than my son who just turned 2 in May.

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

I am surprised no one said it ...
MORNING SICKNESS!
That was the absolute worst thing I have ever experienced...I am totally terrified of having it again.
I also think $$$ is a factor but I think its doable...I guess....
Oh and also...I am waiting for charly (jodi) and babycote2000 (katie)

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

I really want to aim for bfing the whole first year. I was so sick my last pregnancy that I could never eat enough to keep up my milk supply and grow a baby.

That's really the only thing stopping me.

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Posted by PrincessP

I am surprised no one said it ...
MORNING SICKNESS!
That was the absolute worst thing I have ever experienced...I am totally terrified of having it again.
I also think $$$ is a factor but I think its doable...I guess....
Oh and also...I am waiting for charly (jodi) and babycote2000 (katie)

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

While I was PG, I didn't care if I got PG right away. I really had a wonderful pregnancy and enjoyed being PG. However, now that I am PP, I have changed my mind and would like to wait a little longer.

#1- I had a c-section. I would really like to attempt a VBAC next time. My Dr said I need to wait at least 6 months to TTC for that.

#2- I really want to BF for at least a year and being PG can possibly affect your milk supply.

#3- My weight. I feel more uncomfortable PP than I did PG. I feel like everything has shifted since I gave birth and I want to feel like myself again.

Now, if it was up to DH, we would be TTCing now. He is completely ready for another one.

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Posted by oops123

Posted by PrincessP

I am surprised no one said it ...
MORNING SICKNESS!
That was the absolute worst thing I have ever experienced...I am totally terrified of having it again.
I also think $$$ is a factor but I think its doable...I guess....
Oh and also...I am waiting for charly (jodi) and babycote2000 (katie)

OMG-having mine so close together(10 1/2 months)
This had to be the ABSOLUTE worst thing for me, I wouldnt wish it on anyone....
Imagine holding a 2 month old while youre head is in the toilet non stop from morning till night!

Re: Spin off to Pull and Pray - especially a question for moms of newborns

P and P is not an option for us, I have the IUD.

The chances of me becoming pregnant are slim, but if it happened I would be scared about another heart surgery, a heart transplant, or something worse. DH & I want another child and I do miss being preggo but I simply cannot risk my health. I have to be here for Gracie and DH, so we might adopt.

However, if it did happen I feel that I would not have it in me to abort the baby. I feel that I could not live with myself if I did.

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I just love being able to give Alyssa all my attention all the time. I don't think I am ready to stop doing that yet.