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Spin-off: living in fear
What side of the spectrum would you say you fall?
Generally I am pretty laid back.
The "what ifs" do come into my mind every once in awhile, but overall I've always been the if something bad is going to happen, like a random act of violence, it's going to happen.
And when my number is up, it's up.
With that said though, I do try to be smart about a lot of situations I may choose to put myself into, especially when it comes to work.
Not a lot scares me, but with our broken mental health system and people on drugs, you can never be too careful.
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
i think i'm too lazy to live in fear.
i know people who live their lives with the "what ifs" and it takes a lot of work and energy to keep that up in every aspect of their life.
i also try not to do things that are stupid. i don't walk through parking lots staring at my phone, when i get into my car i close the door as quickly as i can, if i won't be home for a few days a neighbor picks up my mail... stuff like that.
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| Posted 6/5/14 6:49 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by MarathonKnitter
i think i'm too lazy to live in fear.
i know people who live their lives with the "what ifs" and it takes a lot of work and energy to keep that up in every aspect of their life.
i also try not to do things that are stupid. i don't walk through parking lots staring at my phone, when i get into my car i close the door as quickly as i can, if i won't be home for a few days a neighbor picks up my mail... stuff like that.
I like that. That's pretty much me, too. It takes way too much energy to live in fear. I'm rationally cautious.
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
I don't live in fear of things happening to me, but I've alife-threatening ercised caution when I'm out - especially if I'm out alone.
Its just ingrained in me though; I took a public bus to junior high starting at 11 years old and by the time I was 12, I was taking the subway all over the place. Once I made it to high school, I was on the subway every day, from central Queens to Hell's Kitchen. I was taught back then, by my parents, what to look out for and how to behave when you're on the subway alone and walking around on the street alone. Also, how to get help quickly if needed and how to take a person down if I find myself in such a predicament. I'm a fairly small girl but I do have a lot of strength.
Anything can happen - there are always, always, always going to be random acts of violence thst you hear about in the paper/on the news....but you also don't hear about the other couple of million people that commuted to work and everything was perfectly fine.
I can't live in fear. I mean, I already conquered a huge, life-threatening fear of mine over the past ten months when I got a cancer diagnosis. That was enough scary shit to last me a lifetime.
But by exercising some basic skills that I've had in me forever, I can make sure that I'm in the best position to keep myself safe if some jackoff tries to hurt me.
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| Posted 6/5/14 7:21 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
I like that perspective too.
With that said though, while I know there are generally anxious people out there, the few people I know IRL who are like this to the extreme, it's generally for good reason (i.e. Cops or they have had a really bad thing happen to them).
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| Posted 6/5/14 7:22 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by MarathonKnitter
i think i'm too lazy to live in fear.
i know people who live their lives with the "what ifs" and it takes a lot of work and energy to keep that up in every aspect of their life.
i also try not to do things that are stupid. i don't walk through parking lots staring at my phone, when i get into my car i close the door as quickly as i can, if i won't be home for a few days a neighbor picks up my mail... stuff like that.
Perfectly said.
I commute into the city every day with public transportation. I can't dwell on the what if - what if there is a bomb on the bus, in the tunnel, in the city trash cans.
What if I get into an accident whille driving/riding in a car/walking across the street.
What if the plane crashes...
Like previously said, I am careful in certain situations, try to be aware of my surroundings.
I have to live my life, share it with all the wonderful people that are a part of my life.
I cannot and refuse to be paralyzed by fear of the unknown.
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
I use to be more laid back and never stressed about the "what-if's" but since having kids, I think overall I'm a little more worrisome about things.
I'm NOT freaking out all the time and stressing over every little thing but I do find myself being a little extra cautious nowadays and worrying a little more about all the crazy things you hear about in the world today. I never gave those things much thought before I was a mom but it's hard to not worry now because the thought of anything happening to my babies scares the shit out of me.
I knowing worrying about things doesn't change the outcome of anything but it's hard to not think about those "what-if's" sometimes.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
I never did, until DD was born, now all sorts of crazy things pop into my head.
Not that i live in fear, i dont not do things.
But its part of the reason that im going to stay home with her starting in July.
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| Posted 6/5/14 9:01 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by Hofstra26
I use to be more laid back and never stressed about the "what-if's" but since having kids, I think overall I'm a little more worrisome about things.
I'm NOT freaking out all the time and stressing over every little thing but I do find myself being a little extra cautious nowadays and worrying a little more about all the crazy things you hear about in the world today. I never gave those things much thought before I was a mom but it's hard to not worry now because the thought of anything happening to my babies scares the shit out of me.
I knowing worrying about things doesn't change the outcome of anything but it's hard to not think about those "what-if's" sometimes.
Def this...esp since kids and my husband works late hours.
Since i had kids i dont think i have many chances anymore-i dont go to the stores when its dark out, i have extra locks on my doors but thats to keep my one son in who LOVES to be outside
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| Posted 6/5/14 9:01 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
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Posted by MarathonKnitter
i think i'm too lazy to live in fear.
i know people who live their lives with the "what ifs" and it takes a lot of work and energy to keep that up in every aspect of their life.
i also try not to do things that are stupid. i don't walk through parking lots staring at my phone, when i get into my car i close the door as quickly as i can, if i won't be home for a few days a neighbor picks up my mail... stuff like that.
I like that. That's pretty much me, too. It takes way too much energy to live in fear. I'm rationally cautious.
Same
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Spin-off: living in fear
I don't live in fear of much. I can't worry about it. if something happens it is probably going to happen no matter what so why waste all the time and energy that it takes to worry all the time.
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| Posted 6/5/14 9:04 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
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| Posted 6/5/14 9:12 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
I have a bit of anxiety so it's very easy for me to get overcome with fear.
I have to consciously force myself to stop.
But it doesn't come easily for me.
Worrying comes SUPER easy for me.
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by Hofstra26
I use to be more laid back and never stressed about the "what-if's" but since having kids, I think overall I'm a little more worrisome about things.
I'm NOT freaking out all the time and stressing over every little thing but I do find myself being a little extra cautious nowadays and worrying a little more about all the crazy things you hear about in the world today. I never gave those things much thought before I was a mom but it's hard to not worry now because the thought of anything happening to my babies scares the shit out of me.
I knowing worrying about things doesn't change the outcome of anything but it's hard to not think about those "what-if's" sometimes.
Same here
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by AngnShaun
I never did, until DD was born, now all sorts of crazy things pop into my head.
Not that i live in fear, i dont not do things.
But its part of the reason that im going to stay home with her starting in July.
Yes, having my DD definitely increased my anxiety and fear. I worry about her way more than I ever worried about myself.
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Spin-off: living in fear
I'm a worrier, just the type of person I am. I overthink everything - but I don't let it stop me from doing things. I do try to be cautious, and again maybe I overthink but when I'm out I'm always aware of what's around me, exits close by, etc. I do worry a lot about my kids, they are young now but I know as they get older I will have a really hard time when I need to start giving them more freedom.
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| Posted 6/5/14 9:19 AM |
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by Mushesgirl
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
I went to Israel and was so worried before I went - after going and seeing it though it has to be one of the safest places in the world. The security there is intense, even going into a mall they check cars for bombs, you walk through metal detectors....and there's young army kids everywhere walking around with rifles.
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| Posted 6/5/14 9:20 AM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by blue11
Posted by Mushesgirl
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
I went to Israel and was so worried before I went - after going and seeing it though it has to be one of the safest places in the world. The security there is intense, even going into a mall they check cars for bombs, you walk through metal detectors....and there's young army kids everywhere walking around with rifles.
That's what I hear, but he's not budging. I'll have to keep working on him 
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AngnShaun
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by blue11
Posted by Mushesgirl
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
I went to Israel and was so worried before I went - after going and seeing it though it has to be one of the safest places in the world. The security there is intense, even going into a mall they check cars for bombs, you walk through metal detectors....and there's young army kids everywhere walking around with rifles.
That sounds scarier to me. I worked on wall street during 9/11... there were military on every corner... and theres nothing more frightening than seeing military walking around with gigantic guns.
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by blue11
Posted by Mushesgirl
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
I went to Israel and was so worried before I went - after going and seeing it though it has to be one of the safest places in the world. The security there is intense, even going into a mall they check cars for bombs, you walk through metal detectors....and there's young army kids everywhere walking around with rifles.
That sounds scarier to me. I worked on wall street during 9/11... there were military on every corner... and theres nothing more frightening than seeing military walking around with gigantic guns.
Yeah it was unsettling and took awhile to get used to - especially because these were mostly 18 year old kids. But its the way of life there and doesn't phase the locals.
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Spin-off: living in fear
I am a survivor.
Every single day since that has been a bonus. Extra innings. Overtime. Borrowed time.
I try not to put myself in harms way but you can die of a random brain aneurysm so what can you do.
You can't PREVENT your death, it will happen. It is inevitable. I just live my life to its fullest. Why waste my time worrying about how I can die when I can spend it living instead?
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by blue11
Posted by Mushesgirl
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
I went to Israel and was so worried before I went - after going and seeing it though it has to be one of the safest places in the world. The security there is intense, even going into a mall they check cars for bombs, you walk through metal detectors....and there's young army kids everywhere walking around with rifles.
That sounds scarier to me. I worked on wall street during 9/11... there were military on every corner... and theres nothing more frightening than seeing military walking around with gigantic guns.
I have to say, I find that comforting actually. I feel safer with more show of force. Maybe because I was raised in a cop family 
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AngnShaun
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by blue11
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Posted by blue11
Posted by Mushesgirl
meh, I sleep (really sleep, like drooling zzzzzz) on the A train to/from work, and i've seen plenty of bad shit on that train, but i'm not the type to sit there cowering in fear. In a way, some criminals can smell fear. When you walk, walk with a purpose.
Walk like 'if you try and mess with me i'll fight back'.
Interestingly, dh refuses to go to Israel because he's afraid to be blown up. I'm not.
I went to Israel and was so worried before I went - after going and seeing it though it has to be one of the safest places in the world. The security there is intense, even going into a mall they check cars for bombs, you walk through metal detectors....and there's young army kids everywhere walking around with rifles.
That sounds scarier to me. I worked on wall street during 9/11... there were military on every corner... and theres nothing more frightening than seeing military walking around with gigantic guns.
Yeah it was unsettling and took awhile to get used to - especially because these were mostly 18 year old kids. But its the way of life there and doesn't phase the locals.
So true
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Before I had kids I would say I lived moderately - didn't put myself in harms way but definitely took chances and lived my life. Since having kids though I am definitely more fearful.
I feel like if I am at the reins I am not so fearful - if I am driving the kids, watching the kids etc then I relax a little but if they are out of my sight and in someone elses care then my fear radar is up and I honestly dont fully relax until they are home. Unfortunately since Newtown CT. each school day strikes some fear in me and I do worry.
So for me Kids upped the ante on my fear level. Oh and I worry about my own mortality now whereas before kids this never entered my head.
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Re: Spin-off: living in fear
Posted by beachgirl
So for me Kids upped the ante on my fear level. Oh and I worry about my own mortality now whereas before kids this never entered my head.
thats exactly it on top of HER mortality.
I definitely have a better understanding of how people can get consumed by fear.
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