Sort of WR - looking back

Do you ever think back to your wedding and say to yourself- we spent how much on that? And was it really worth it?

I thought about this yesterday and even though the memories start to fade I am happy I will always have that day to look back on.
Although sometimes I do think maybe we should have eloped

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I don't regret my wedding one bit, but I do regret signing a rent check every month. I wish we were in a house.

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I look at the money spend as a down payment on a house. But I would NOT have done it any other way. I regret most that I have no memory of the day, and not due to to much to drink, just the craziness of the day I lost my mind. I watch the DVD and Im still shocked at it all. I didnt eat, didnt drink. I missed all of Villa Lombardis food.

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I look at my video and wedding pics and kick myself thinking how much we spent on that.

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Yes, but it was worth it and we were still able to buy a house a year later.

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I'm glad I had a traditional wedding, but mostly for my parents. We had almost a 2 yr. engagement and I put so much energy, money and thought into planning for so long that after the day I was so depressed, like that's it, it's over. It went so quick I feel like I don't even remember some of the details I had thought so much about. Not to say that we didn't have a good time, we did, but I would never do it over again. For me, I feel like it was too much thought & money for a few hours. Looking back I would have much rather done something like a cruise or destination wedding with close friends and family. Lasts longer and can be much less $ than a LI wedding.

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I don't regret how much we spent on the wedding. It was the best day ever and we used the money we made to put a down payment on a house.

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Absolutely. ALL the time. Especially after going to other weddings, I can really see what details are important & which ones weren't.

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I do realize that we spent a lot of money, but I never thought they shouldn't have done it. I wouldn't rade my wedding day for anything!

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i dont regret the day at all...but if i had to do it all over again i would have done it much smaller and took that money and saved it! we would've just gone to an island with our immediate families and gotten married on the beach. that way we would've already been on our HM!

ets: after reading some other girls responses i'd have to agree. i think i would've just cut back on certain things. like i would've shopped around more for my dress to get a better price, i wouldnt have spent so much on flowers, etc.

after reading this thread, i just went through my bridal book and looked at receipts and almost passed out cause i totally didnt realize just how much everything cost!

Message edited 10/8/2007 11:44:12 AM.

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Posted by JennZ

I look at the money spend as a down payment on a house. But I would NOT have done it any other way. I regret most that I have no memory of the day, and not due to to much to drink, just the craziness of the day I lost my mind. I watch the DVD and Im still shocked at it all. I didnt eat, didnt drink. I missed all of Villa Lombardis food.

Message edited 10/8/2007 11:08:26 AM.

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We bought a house before we got married. Our wedding was awesome. we were going for a laid back vibe which we totally had. I got a great deal at my caterer and people raved about the food. I did a lot myuself and will always treasure that experience. Oh! And i also had a party the night before at my house which I probably wouldn't do again....but it was fun at the time

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I feel like everything we spent that day was completely worth it. I worked hard to get the most value for our money and to spend money where it mattered the most.

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I am mostly ok with the amount we spent but in hindsight I would spread it around differently...

Less on the dress and DJ
Smaller wedding album
Hired a 2nd candid style photographer

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I couldnt have done it any other way bc of all the wedding "hype" but now that I see what we could have done with that money, I do think it isnt worth what people make it out to be. The day is special but it can be special without paying over 30k

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We were fortunate in that we had money for our wedding and money for a down payment. However, that doesn't mean that the money we spent on our wedding would not have been helpful towards our down payment.

Even though we spent a lot on our wedding, we also saved SO much money because we planned our wedding in 5 months! I also tried really hard to cut out any "unnecessaries."

Overall, I think it was worth it. To have ALL of our friends and family with us to celebrate our wedding was truly priceless in my mind!

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No. Thankfully we didnt go overboard in terms of $$$ with anything.

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No regrets here. Biggest party we ever threw for ourselves.

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My DH and I didn't want a big wedding. In fact, we wanted something small with immediate family only, no Aunt so-and-so, etc. But our parents wanted a wedding, so that's what we had. If it weren't for my parents support, we wouldn't have been able to afford a wedding.

Looking back, it was a nice day, but there are only two moments of that entire day that mattered to me, and those two things I would have had whether there were 10 ppl there or 120.

Was it a waste of money? No, because it made our families happy.

Would I want to do it again? No, not really.

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Yes it was alot of money, but I wouldn't change it for the world. It was the happiest day of my life, and I am glad that we did it the way we did.

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I do not regret how much we spent. We spent exactly what our budget allowed and got everything we wanted. I am happy we were able to do it within our budget.

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I had always wanted to elope, but my mom and MIL insisited I would regret it. Still look back and wish we'd eloped, just more my style.

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well.. we did well budget-wise. we spent about $14,000 for a saturday night june wedding for about 120 people. i shopped around, got the best deals, and didn't go overboard.. we kept it SIMPLE, laid back, and fun. and even over 2 years alter, we're getting compliments on how ours was the most fun wedding people have been to.
so, personally i don't regret it... but i do think the wedding hype is overrated- people spend way too much on a party that lasts for a couple hours.. its a big life milestone and its important to celebrate, but you can do it without spending $40-$50,000.

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I do not regret one penny!

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Posted by alnem
we would've just gone to an island with our immediate families and gotten married on the beach. that way we would've already been on our HM!