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JTK
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so sad tonight
my son makes me so sad sometimes. he is such a good hearted kid and he doesn't deserve to have aspergers. he told me tonight it makes him sad to be in school and see all the other kids with friends when he doesn't have any. he said well i have lots of friends but they never want to play with me. he's all alone on the playground watching the other kids play wanting to be a part of it. please, how can i help him? anyone know?
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beachgirl13
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Re: so sad tonight
I don't have advice, just wanted to give you 
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| Posted 9/24/06 10:53 PM |
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jgm26
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Re: so sad tonight
Thats so sad. I don't have any advice, but I wish kids were nicer/ more inclusive. I hope it gets better for your son. Forgive me, but I am not familiar with aspergers. What is it?
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| Posted 9/24/06 10:55 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: so sad tonight
In my school they have a socialization group for children that are having difficulty with social issues and making friends. They take the kids on trips and having weekly meetings. I know that they become a pretty tight group. I would call and speak to someone at your school and see what programs they might have to offer for him.
I am sorry that he feels like that. I am sure it's very hard to see.
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:04 PM |
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rose825
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Re: so sad tonight
I think being his friend and modeling good social skills is the best thing you can do for him.
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:13 PM |
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JTK
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Re: so sad tonight
Posted by jgm26
Thats so sad. I don't have any advice, but I wish kids were nicer/ more inclusive. I hope it gets better for your son. Forgive me, but I am not familiar with aspergers. What is it?
it is a form of autism but one where their IQ is really high and their ability to socialize is really low.
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:18 PM |
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JTK
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Re: so sad tonight
Posted by Jamie
In my school they have a socialization group for children that are having difficulty with social issues and making friends. They take the kids on trips and having weekly meetings. I know that they become a pretty tight group. I would call and speak to someone at your school and see what programs they might have to offer for him.
I am sorry that he feels like that. I am sure it's very hard to see.
my school district has nothing like that. i fight for stuff like that but its just not in the budget. where is your school?
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:18 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: so sad tonight
Kristi - don't give up on your school district. You could be the mom that gets these services for the kids that need them. Wouldn't your county also offer help?
I don't have any advice. I can't imagine how heartbreaking it is to watch your son go through this. I remember when Joseph came home & told me that so&so won't play with him & it hurt his feelings. I was heartbroken.
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:26 PM |
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JTK
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Re: so sad tonight
i know i just picture him all alone on the playground just looking at the other kids and it makes me so sad. Tonight i am just overemotional about it. it used to be that i thought he didn't notice that he didn't have friends now he says stuff so i know he knows. it breaks my heart
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:30 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: so sad tonight
Posted by JTK
Posted by Jamie
In my school they have a socialization group for children that are having difficulty with social issues and making friends. They take the kids on trips and having weekly meetings. I know that they become a pretty tight group. I would call and speak to someone at your school and see what programs they might have to offer for him.
I am sorry that he feels like that. I am sure it's very hard to see.
my school district has nothing like that. i fight for stuff like that but its just not in the budget. where is your school?
Does your school have a social worker or a school psychologist? If it does then the budget has nothing to do with it. It's just pure laziness. This is done during the school day by our school social worker and usually an intern that she has. It costs the school nothing since it's done during her working hours. The trips the parents pay for. To meet in a classroom once a week and talk costs nothing. If your school has one of these then please call her directly and see if she might start up the program. Usually what ours does it sends out a notice to the teachers asking us for the names of any students that we see havng social issues. The Social worker than calls the parents to get permission for them to be pulled out of classes once a week. The students noted by teachers and students that already have known social issues like Aspergers are placed in there.
Hopefully she will listen and possibly do this for you.
Does your school have any clubs that your son could get involved in?
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cantbelieveit
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JTK
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well he does meet with the social worker once a week. he is also supposed to be followed by an autistic consultant but somehow the district skates around that one. i think i might have to hire a lawyer to fight for me. it's exhausting!
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| Posted 9/24/06 11:40 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Posted by JTK
well he does meet with the social worker once a week. he is also supposed to be followed by an autistic consultant but somehow the district skates around that one. i think i might have to hire a lawyer to fight for me. it's exhausting!
Wait a minute. According to your son's IEP he is supposed to have an autistic consultant follow him around or a TA?? This is not provided? That is ILLEGAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not only could you sue them they can get in HUGE trouble from the state for not being in complaince with your son's IEP! That is a LEGAL document that they MUST MUST MUST grant all of the accomodations that are on there!!!
Call the director of Special Ed ASAP and ask where this is!
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HannahsDaddy
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Re: so sad tonight
Just love him and build up his self esteem.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: so sad tonight
I'm sorry I would be heartbroken too.
I don't know how old he is but what about looking into after school, weekend, or otherwise extra-curricular programs with much smaller groups of children? Like maybe enrolling him in a painting class, a music class or a reading group at the library, something to that effect? This way he might develop friendships outside of school.
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TwinMama
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Re: so sad tonight
What about looking into groups with other kids with this same problem. Maybe you coud find a site of with other mothers. It could be you and your son's thing..maybe they get together once a week you can bring him and he can make friends with other kids just like him. My Nephew has autism very slight..I will ask my SIL if she know of any groups. Good luck!
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Kathy116
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Maathy317
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Re: so sad tonight
Posted by Jamie
Posted by JTK
well he does meet with the social worker once a week. he is also supposed to be followed by an autistic consultant but somehow the district skates around that one. i think i might have to hire a lawyer to fight for me. it's exhausting!
Wait a minute. According to your son's IEP he is supposed to have an autistic consultant follow him around or a TA?? This is not provided? That is ILLEGAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not only could you sue them they can get in HUGE trouble from the state for not being in complaince with your son's IEP! That is a LEGAL document that they MUST MUST MUST grant all of the accomodations that are on there!!!
Call the director of Special Ed ASAP and ask where this is!
This is absolutely correct. I was a parent advocate for some time and I know for a fact that this document must be adhered to. I would, definitely, contact the head of Special Education and the Superintendent and let them know in no uncertain terms that, unless, your child is provided with what he needs immediately, you will seek legal counsel. I guarantee, they will respond in an expeditious manner.
As for your son and his interaction with his classmates, my heart breaks for you. My daughter went through the same thing because of her disabilities. All I could do for her is make sure that when she came home, she felt safe and loved. When she got older, she told me that if it wasn't for her family, she wouldn't have made it through elementary school. You can't make other children interact with your child and, if you bring it to the attention of the school and ask for their help, they couldn't care less. For what's it worth, my daughter is 19 now and one of the most kind, caring, selfless people I know. She is a success on both a social and academic level. I wish I could have changed what she went through, but, I know it helped shape the woman that she is becoming. This is a tough road to hoe, but, with his family's love and support, your son will be just fine.
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TwinMama
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Re: so sad tonight
I asked my SIL they suspect my Nephew to have that as well-- I will FM you her e-mail so you can talk directly to her. This is what she wrote Yes, Stonybrook has the Cody Center, which is dedicated to autism. They provide doctors, workshops, support groups, etc. Their website is http://www.hsc.stonybrook.edu/centers/cody/index.cfm.
Another great site is http://www.ahany.org/. This is a local Long Island group and they offer support groups in Nassau and Suffolk. Also have social programs for older kids, groups for siblings, and organize events like bowling, picnics, etc. Pat Schissel is the president and her email is http://www.ahany.org/.
Other great resources are Autism Society of America at http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer and Autism Speaks at www.autismspeaks.org.
There is a local chapter of the Autism Society of America at http://www.nsasa.org/. They run a group list at Yahoo Groups, which is a great source of information from other parents. I have found many doctors, groups and just great advice on the list. You also find out about local events - for instance there is Autism Awareness night coming up in October at Adventureland in Melville. The park is only open for the autism community.
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betty
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Re: so sad tonight
That breaks my heart . If your sons school is not following his IEP it is completely illegal!! I would definately take some action .
You seem like an amazing mom who loves and supports your son unconditionally.....this is honestly the most important thing for him
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| Posted 9/25/06 10:34 AM |
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JTK
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Re: so sad tonight
thank you everyone for your concern and support. it is appreciated more than you know!
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