Sex on schedule sux

HI ladies, since we started TTC 2 months ago, I feel that sex is only about BD and is now more mechanical than it used to be. This month is shaping to be a disappointment as well ( today is CD 12), since my DH works a lot, crazy busy and stressed at work and is not in the mood to BD in the evening. I tried to pressure him into it, but then I feel bad myself, since I do not want to feel "used" after sex. Am I making sense? How do ppl manage to keep romance going while TTC? Ugh.. I am not even sure if we get to BD around O time this month. DH is saying we will BD when we are rested, but this is NEVER the case. Thanks for listening..

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YES! It's very hard! Before TTC we would "do it" all the time . But now that we're TTC we both feel like it's become more regimented and timed out. Which sux!! We were actually just talking about this the other day and saying how we need to do something to spice it up so it was like how it was before there were schedules!

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we do it every other day all month long except when I have AF....we've actually had fun with it this month bc we figure it we don't get knocked up this way I dunno what the heck is gonna work....just have to try and have fun with it...try different things, cute outfits, different rooms....

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ugh i totally know what you mean!!! i had to wake DH from sound sleep last night just to BD. he wasn't too happy with me and it didn't make it all that fun. oh the joys of TTC!!! it is good though that his friend just had a baby and they conceived using OPK's and he was just telling my DH how it was the last thing they wanted to do but KNEW they had to so you just DO IT!!! DH will see that it was all worth it once he sees that BFP with you!!!

What i have been trying this time around is changing up the positions. sorry if it's TMI but the first night we BD'd we did mssionary (since that is the best way, so they sayy...) the next night we BD'd we did the "spoon" lol!! (love to see the BD spoon position emoticon!!! hahahaha) ANYWAYS, i figure if nothing else, this will keep BDing from getting boring.

This will all be worth it SOON!!!!

edited because im a dummy

Message edited 4/2/2010 10:05:39 AM.

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BumpinBean10,
Did you mean "missionary" or "military"?
What the heck is "military"? On the ceiling???

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Posted by babylove628

we do it every other day all month long except when I have AF....we've actually had fun with it this month bc we figure it we don't get knocked up this way I dunno what the heck is gonna work....just have to try and have fun with it...try different things, cute outfits, different rooms....

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I know exactly what you mean....I'm embarassed to say that I've gone through quite a few arguments with DH because of him being tired when I'm ovulating TTC is no fun at all..... We've tried for 19 months natural and this month we will be doing our first IUI. When we had sex 2 days ago it was great - just like when we were dating and that is because now the pressure is off. Now it's up to our RE to determine the best time for inseminations It's amazing what all this TCC pressure can do to your love life
Hang in there

Message edited 4/1/2010 7:06:45 PM.

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The best advice I have is to keep a good sense of humor!! We are under the care of an RE who basically tells us when to BD!! Even with the IUI cycle, are are still told to BD at certain points... We just try to have a good time and consider it following the doctor's orders. It's so much more stressful at first than when you just get into the groove hmm no pun intended there!

Last time my DH totally shocked me when the RE told us we had to BD that night and when the time came that evening my DH says "Lets go make a baby!" .. I used to be the ones saying things like that and DH would get mad at me for spoiling the mood .. but now HE is the one all into the whole BD baby making thing With the IUI put in the mix, he gets excited when we're told when to BD because he likes to think that those are the times we are actually conceiving- which I can totally understand!!!!!

So yea, back to my original advice before my ramble- just try to have a sense of humor, it's the only way to get through like 90% of this!!

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It really does take all the romance out of the relationship. My doc had a talk with me about it last week. I try different things like lighting candles, putting on lingerie or DHs shirts, surprising him with stuff like that, talking dirty over text...anything to make it feel normal again and not like it has a purpose.

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hahahahahhahahaha yes missionary!! omg so embarrassing hahahaha!!!!

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