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newlywedT
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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

DD has a daily folder that she brings home, if there are any notices, etc it is put in the "Stays home" slot.

Last week there was a letter but I didn't get a chance to read it so the next morning when I dropped her off I mentioned to the teacher:
me - "I noticed there was a note yesterday but I didn't get a chance to read it, what was it?"
teacher - "I don't know, they just told us to put it in there"

I was telling this to my coworker and we disagreed on how I should feel, what do you think: A or B

A - The teacher is the captain of the classroom/responsible for everything/head of things. They should know what the letter was about - maybe not every detail, but the general idea - "Oh, it was just a welcome to school letter / oh, it was just a reminder for parent teacher night / oh, there's a mass murderer on the loose".
They might not know the exact contents of the letter, but they should know the topic.

B - There will be so many notices this year that the teacher is not expected to know every single letter. If its important then the teacher will know, otherwise the teacher does not need to know what was put in the folder

What do you think?
A says that the teacher should know at least the topic of the letter (might not know the details)
B says that the teacher doesn't even need to know the topic - "I dont know what was put in the folder" is an acceptable answer then.

Message edited 10/1/2018 11:10:56 AM.

Posted 10/1/18 11:07 AM
 
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MissJones
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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

So many things go home. In my school, some are even flyers for local businesses. Today alone, I'm sending home 8 letters. I read them to get the gist but I know others don't. In some classes, the teacher has a volunteer pout the notes in.

I think it really depends on the teacher. If notes were put in our mailboxes to hand out, they were approved by someone. And sometimes it's another teacher our service provider who will put a note in as folder. Even in sealed envelopes.

Message edited 10/1/2018 11:15:52 AM.

Posted 10/1/18 11:14 AM
 

PitterPatter11
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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

I am a HS teacher and I say B.

I occasionally get things in my mailbox to handout during first period. I literally get them from my mailbox at 7:25 and pass them out at 7:45. It never occurs to me to read them plus I don't have much of an opportunity to look at them.

Posted 10/1/18 11:15 AM
 

Pomegranate5
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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

B.

We get so many notices and flyers home, and some are from the pre-k teacher, some are from the school itself and some are advertisements. But if the notice was meant to go home, it would still be in the folder the next afternoon. The teacher does not clean out DC's folder.

Posted 10/1/18 11:24 AM
 

MarathonKnitter
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i don't think it's unreasonable to expect a teacher to glance at the letter/note.

but, i can honestly understand all the variables that would go into the teacher not doing so.

i'm on the fence.

Posted 10/1/18 11:31 AM
 

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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

B

Posted 10/1/18 11:46 AM
 

Straightarrow
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100% B

The amount of paper that goes home is crazy. And you saying there was 'a note' in the there doesn't clarify as to which note, maybe there were multiple, etc, etc. I feel their responsibility ends at when they put it in the folder. Yours is from then on (since it is pre-k, older kids, it would be the kid's)

I take everything out, quickly look and see if anything is due back yet and then I will go through it all later on.

Posted 10/1/18 11:51 AM
 

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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

B.

Posted 10/1/18 11:54 AM
 

Tulip9
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A would be in an ideal world- but I think considering the amount of Mail we get from school B is realistic

Posted 10/1/18 12:10 PM
 

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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

B. If it is not a letter from the teacher, then I don't expect her to know the contents of it.

Posted 10/1/18 12:19 PM
 

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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

B
The teacher has enough to do, especially with such young kids that she has to watch constantly. Theres a good chance she had an aide in the class whose job it is to stuff the folders anyway. So she likely never sees the notes home from the school. Think of it this way, if you didnt have time to look at the note and you had since the previous afternoon, dont fault her for not getting a chance to read it before sending it home.

Posted 10/1/18 12:25 PM
 

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B. The teacher has enough going on with a class full of preschoolers, they shouldn’t have to read all the papers that are intended for the parent to read. I currently have a Prek kiddo, and I think it’s my responsibility to go through her book bag, and sure I’ll miss a day here and there, but I don’t ask her teacher, I wait till the end of that day and read it myself.

Posted 10/1/18 12:44 PM
 

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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

B. And as the teacher I would probably think you were a little strange that you saw this notice in there but didn’t take 10 seconds to read it.

Posted 10/1/18 1:36 PM
 

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B, even if the note is not from the teacher. Sometimes, confidential mail is sent home from the school. If the teacher was asked to send it home I would not want him/her to open it. Schools send home tons of mail. I would not expect them to know what each item that is sent home.

Posted 10/1/18 1:47 PM
 

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If it was pertaining to something going on in the class I would expect the teacher to know. If it was just a general note from the school, I would still have asked, but if the teacher didn't know I would just wait until I had a chance to read it myself. There are a lot of things going on with the PTA etc. that the teachers aren't involved in.

Posted 10/1/18 2:07 PM
 

loveus
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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

You didn’t give this option but it is also your responsibility. I find it hard to believe that you don’t have a few seconds to glance at the note especially since you saw there was a note.

Posted 10/1/18 2:29 PM
 

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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

I think.. you should have read the letter lol

Posted 10/1/18 2:31 PM
 

newlywedT
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Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

I'll address the reading the letter first....I actually did read the letter, I changed the details on WHY I asked her about it a bit to remove identifying info (in case the teacher is on here/murphys law).
But the conversation was the same, I asked about the letter and was told that they had no knowledge of what the letter was about. (it was a general "Welcome to the school" letter) a simple "Oh, that was nothing, just a welcome letter, nothing important" would have been more than enough

I'm surprised that most of you agree on B.

I'm not a teacher, but I would like to think I would run my class this way:
Get there in the morning - prep the days lessons, meet with my assistant and discuss what is happening today/any notices going out/anything we should be aware of - basically make sure we're both on the same page.
After classes are done for the day (still only 2:45 pm) - discuss with my assistant how the day went and what we have on deck for tomorrow do any prep work.

Message edited 10/1/2018 3:17:18 PM.

Posted 10/1/18 3:12 PM
 

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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

Posted by loveus

You didn’t give this option but it is also your responsibility. I find it hard to believe that you don’t have a few seconds to glance at the note especially since you saw there was a note.



Yeah - this. The teacher has a lot of responsibility in the morning with all those kids. Can you imagine if she had to update parents on the contents of the notes each morning? I wouldn't be surprised if she said she didn't know just to discourage you from asking regularly.

Posted 10/1/18 3:16 PM
 

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Posted by newlywedT

I'll address the reading the letter first....I actually did read the letter, I changed the details on WHY I asked her about it a bit to remove identifying info (in case the teacher is on here/murphys law).
But the conversation was the same, I asked about the letter and was told that they had no knowledge of what the letter was about.

I'm surprised that most of you agree on B.

I'm not a teacher, but I would like to think I would run my class this way:
Get there in the morning - prep the days lessons, meet with my assistant and discuss what is happening today/any notices going out/anything we should be aware of - basically make sure we're both on the same page.
After classes are done for the day (still only 2:45 pm) - discuss with my assistant how the day went and what we have on deck for tomorrow do any prep work.



Teaching is different than other professions. I get to work at 7:25 and school starts at 7:49. I literally have kids waiting to be let into my class before 7:35 even though my work day doesn't start until 7:40 and class doesn't start until 7:49. Between 7:35 and 7:49, I am fielding students questions and trying to sneak in a trip to the bathroom. Reading a letter sent out by administration is not really something I have time to do. A lot of times, it is a letter about back to school night or yearbooks or class rings orders. None of which affects me. If it does affect me, the admin sends out an email to let us know what the letter is about.

When school is done, I stay after for extra help and then need to leave promptly at 3:10 most days to pick my son up from daycare.

Posted 10/1/18 3:22 PM
 

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b

Posted 10/1/18 3:24 PM
 

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Posted by newlywedT

I'll address the reading the letter first....I actually did read the letter, I changed the details on WHY I asked her about it a bit to remove identifying info (in case the teacher is on here/murphys law).
But the conversation was the same, I asked about the letter and was told that they had no knowledge of what the letter was about. (it was a general "Welcome to the school" letter) a simple "Oh, that was nothing, just a welcome letter, nothing important" would have been more than enough

I'm surprised that most of you agree on B.

I'm not a teacher, but I would like to think I would run my class this way:
Get there in the morning - prep the days lessons, meet with my assistant and discuss what is happening today/any notices going out/anything we should be aware of - basically make sure we're both on the same page.
After classes are done for the day (still only 2:45 pm) - discuss with my assistant how the day went and what we have on deck for tomorrow do any prep work.



I think you have too much time on your hands and a lot b@lls to speculate how YOU BELIEVE someone should do their job. It's nice that you think you'd run your class that way.. maybe you should teach Pre-k thenChat Icon

By the way I am TA for a Pre-K teacher. I handle putting all the notices in the folders. I make the copies. Unless the teacher needs to know about something she doesn't even always see it. Sometimes our secretary hands me notices to stick in folders 20 minutes before the end of the day and I don't even get a chance to look it over because I am rushing to get them in folders while doing other activities.

Posted 10/1/18 3:24 PM
 

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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

Posted by MK2010x2

Posted by loveus

You didn’t give this option but it is also your responsibility. I find it hard to believe that you don’t have a few seconds to glance at the note especially since you saw there was a note.



Yeah - this. The teacher has a lot of responsibility in the morning with all those kids. Can you imagine if she had to update parents on the contents of the notes each morning? I wouldn't be surprised if she said she didn't know just to discourage you from asking regularly.




Having seen the sheer volume of flyers and notices coming home every day, I would not expect my kid's teacher to waste her time familiarizing herself with every single one. Especially ones that she did not even generate. They send the notes home for US to read.

Posted 10/1/18 3:25 PM
 

newlywedT
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Re: Settle a debate (re: Pre-K teacher and family communication)

Posted by PitterPatter11
Teaching is different than other professions. I get to work at 7:25 and school starts at 7:49. I literally have kids waiting to be let into my class before 7:35 even though my work day doesn't start until 7:40 and class doesn't start until 7:49. .



You are correct it is different.
And every teacher and school is different too.

At this school class starts at 8:30, they don't open the doors to the building until 8:25.
We are usually waiting outside the classroom (door is closed) until they open it at 8:35

Posted 10/1/18 3:29 PM
 

newlywedT
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Posted by MerryChristmas
I think you have too much time on your hands and a lot b@lls to speculate how YOU BELIEVE someone should do their job. It's nice that you think you'd run your class that way.. maybe you should teach Pre-k thenChat Icon



Are we not allowed to question things?
Do you never say to someone "Do you think that person A should do xyz instead?"
Don't people like to say "XYZ should have thrown for a pass instead of trying to run with the ball" or "ABC should have brought a sweater to this outdoor event in December instead of just a tshirt"

We also got an email last week from the teacher:
"Reminder the completed forms need to be turned in tomorrow"

I did not know of any forms (other than the forms that were given to us at the welcome to school day and those were collected from us at the end of the event)

Before I got a chance to ask the next day another parent asked:
"What forms were due today?"
the answer: "I don't know, they told me to send that email"

Is that still an acceptable response?

Message edited 10/1/2018 3:41:40 PM.

Posted 10/1/18 3:33 PM
 
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