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allIwant
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying??? Update in last post
I'm so sensitive.
If I'm angry I cry and I hate it!
On a side note
I'm also let people take advantage of me.
Long story but at work the person above me (not technically my boss) is always taking advantage of me, belittling me etc (and others at work)
I finally had the nerve to respectfully stand up to her and got my union involved. I'm proud of myself!
I have to have a meeting with her and the union tomorrow and I don't want to cry!
Any suggestions on how to help myself NOT cry! Any strategies?!?
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busymomonli
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
This is me. I cry when I'm angry, happy, sad, stressed, you name it. I have cried when talking to my boss and its so embarrassing. I swear he walks on eggshells now because he knows how sensitive I am.
It sucks. And my teenage daughter is the same way.
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| Posted 2/1/16 4:13 PM |
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pumpkinmom
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I'm no help, but I am the same way. Good luck!
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| Posted 2/1/16 4:31 PM |
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Sparrow
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
My two basically fool proof tricks are looking up and doing simple math problems in my head. I read these tips a while back and they really do work. Good luck and good for you for getting the union involved!
Eta- You don't have to do the two simultaneously 
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starlitdragon
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I've done the both looking up and simple math problems, and they work as long as I don't have to speak. Once I have to speak, it's all over again. I hate it. I feel my voice crack and it's all down hill from there.
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gina409
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I cry all the time.
I've even cried at things that happened on this board
I can't help it. I take everything to heart
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luckysmom
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I have no advice, I'm the same way! But good for you for standing up for yourself. Good luck!!
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allIwant
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by starlitdragon
I've done the both looking up and simple math problems, and they work as long as I don't have to speak. Once I have to speak, it's all over again. I hate it. I feel my voice crack and it's all down hill from there.
I have to talk! I thought about a pin in my pocket and stabbing myself in then leg every time I start to cry 
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by allIwant
I finally had the nerve to respectfully stand up to her and got my union involved. I'm proud of myself!
I have to have a meeting with her and the union tomorrow and I don't want to cry!
Any suggestions on how to help myself NOT cry! Any strategies?!?
Good for u! Those type of ppl suck!
Suggestions? Ummm that's gonna be a tough one though cause I can say just think about something that can evoke happiness or other type of feeling in u, but this won't really work because u'll be talking about whatever issue u and this girl have so ur mind will be focused on that. Hmm, maybe letting ur feelings out can actually work on ur favor this time, cause the union representative will see that this is def affecting u and they can actually be on ur side.
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by allIwant
Posted by starlitdragon
I've done the both looking up and simple math problems, and they work as long as I don't have to speak. Once I have to speak, it's all over again. I hate it. I feel my voice crack and it's all down hill from there.
I have to talk! I thought about a pin in my pocket and stabbing myself in then leg every time I start to cry
Wouldn't that make u cry even more though
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| Posted 2/1/16 5:24 PM |
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beachgirl
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Ughhh this is me to a T...I cry over everything...I attended a friends grandma's wake a year ago and even though I had never met the lady in my life and she was 94 and I was crying like a baby...same thing at school if I am speaking to anyone about my kids I tear up so bad...
I have read that if you pinch the skin between you thumb and your forefinger that this works...try it and good luck!! PS good for you sticking up for yourself. I Am such a wuss...I am finally asking for an increase in vacation days after 13 years!!!!!
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| Posted 2/1/16 5:35 PM |
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allIwant
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by allIwant
Posted by starlitdragon
I've done the both looking up and simple math problems, and they work as long as I don't have to speak. Once I have to speak, it's all over again. I hate it. I feel my voice crack and it's all down hill from there.
I have to talk! I thought about a pin in my pocket and stabbing myself in then leg every time I start to cry
Wouldn't that make u cry even more though
I usually don't cry with pain lol
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canwhit
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I cry. I cry when I get frustrated at work. I HATE IT!!! One thing I read was pinching the skin in-between your pointer finger and thumb.
This past year I had a situation at work that made me cry. I was more upset I was crying than the situation that was occurring. This is something that has happened to me a couple of times. Shortly after the last occurrence I spoke with a friend and realized that I can only do my best and even though I am trying to be perfect (at work) I am not. If there is confrontation at work at high stress times I try to remember that I do what I can and face the problem head on and know it will pass. This really has helped my crying at work problem and so has pinching the skin. Good luck!
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StaceyWill
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Good for you for sticking up for yourself. I know how hard that can be. Maybe when you feel yourself about to cry, count from 10 backwards, breathe, and think about what happened with her. Try to turn the tears back to anger.
Good luck!!!
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cj7305
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Wish I had advice because I'm the same way and I hate it! So embarrassing and am afraid it makes me look weak. I've been in these situations and I usually end up crying lol and explaining that I'm just a super emotional person and cry when I'm mad, frustrated, etc. Be proud of yourself!
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by allIwant
I'm so sensitive.
If I'm angry I cry and I hate it!
On a side note
I'm also let people take advantage of me.
Long story but at work the person above me (not technically my boss) is always taking advantage of me, belittling me etc (and others at work)
I finally had the nerve to respectfully stand up to her and got my union involved. I'm proud of myself!
I have to have a meeting with her and the union tomorrow and I don't want to cry!
Any suggestions on how to help myself NOT cry! Any strategies?!?
I am wondering, were you always this way or is it more recent that you notice you crying and feeling sensitive?
I ask because, you have posted several times stating you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed.
My suggestion would be, take some very deep breaths. Inhale trough the nose and exhale through your mouth slowly to the count of 10. exhale to the point your stomach is touching you spine. This will help center you and your thoughts.
Know going in to the meeting what result you are looking for, know your key points.
Good Luck, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by allIwant
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by allIwant
Posted by starlitdragon
I've done the both looking up and simple math problems, and they work as long as I don't have to speak. Once I have to speak, it's all over again. I hate it. I feel my voice crack and it's all down hill from there.
I have to talk! I thought about a pin in my pocket and stabbing myself in then leg every time I start to cry
Wouldn't that make u cry even more though
I usually don't cry with pain lol
For some reason 50 shades of grey popped in my head when I read ur response! I wonder why?!?
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allIwant
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
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Posted by allIwant
I'm so sensitive.
If I'm angry I cry and I hate it!
On a side note
I'm also let people take advantage of me.
Long story but at work the person above me (not technically my boss) is always taking advantage of me, belittling me etc (and others at work)
I finally had the nerve to respectfully stand up to her and got my union involved. I'm proud of myself!
I have to have a meeting with her and the union tomorrow and I don't want to cry!
Any suggestions on how to help myself NOT cry! Any strategies?!?
I am wondering, were you always this way or is it more recent that you notice you crying and feeling sensitive?
I ask because, you have posted several times stating you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed.
My suggestion would be, take some very deep breaths. Inhale trough the nose and exhale through your mouth slowly to the count of 10. exhale to the point your stomach is touching you spine. This will help center you and your thoughts.
Know going in to the meeting what result you are looking for, know your key points.
Good Luck, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
I have always been like this!
But I get what you are saying.
I think my ability to tolerate her crap has diminished because of my anxiety/being overwhelmed.
We have ALL had issues with her at work so I know I am not crazy in this one lol
People are actually thanking me for saying something
So I am proud!
Thanks for all the good wishes
Ill try to update tom!
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JennLala
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I too cry at the drop of a hat. When I'm in a situation where I don't want to cry I will pinch my arm, the underside little past the wrist. Usually works, the pain distracts me from crying.
Good luck!
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momtimes2
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
I cry when angry too - bite the inside of your cheek - it helps me not to cry when I feel it coming on
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JDandMe
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
If possible I would plan on what I was going to say and practice saying it over and over again. By repeating it over and over it may help because you have practiced it numerous times so you won't get so emotional.
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BlessedMomma
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Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Honestly take deep breaths... think positive thoughts... and remind yourself you want to be professional... remind yourself your a strong intelligent woman...
And whateva positive reinforcement you need... keep repeating it like a mantra... take a deep breath before you speak to make sure you feel good...
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allIwant
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying???
Posted by allIwant
I'm so sensitive.
If I'm angry I cry and I hate it!
On a side note
I'm also let people take advantage of me.
Long story but at work the person above me (not technically my boss) is always taking advantage of me, belittling me etc (and others at work)
I finally had the nerve to respectfully stand up to her and got my union involved. I'm proud of myself!
I have to have a meeting with her and the union tomorrow and I don't want to cry!
Any suggestions on how to help myself NOT cry! Any strategies?!?
Update: it went very well! I did cry a tiny bit but was able to get my point across well! I called my superior out on a lot of the crap she has been pulling my union (2 people ) was very supportive and I think I may have opened the door to an improved workplace for all
Of my collegues.
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Jennifer
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Re: Sensitive people...how do you stop yourself from crying??? Update in last post
 
I'm a crier too and have been waiting for an update. Congrats
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