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Tina1117
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Re: Saying yes to having 3rd child...
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Although I'd still on the younger side (I'm turning 30) I know I still have time to think about this. I was hoping to TTC in 2 yrs. DH thinks he'll be too old. He'll be 34 (not old at all) and doesn't think he wants a child when he's that old  I'm thinking our sons will be 4 and 5yrs which will be a perfect time to try again. Who knows!
I have another question The way I look at it is we'll be living on a VERY tight budget for about 3yrs when/if we have a 3rd child. I keep telling DH that it's only for 3yrs and then we won't have to worry about daycare. Where we live they have full-time K0 which starts at 3yrs. Yes we have to pay for K0 but it our payments decrease from well over $1000/month to $400/month. The first 3yrs there will be NO money for anything extra...nothing!
Am I living in a fantasy thinking the money situation will be better once they're all in school? I do know we'll have sports/activities, etc. I'm ok with that stuff but the daycare bill will not be over our head.
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Re: Saying yes to having 3rd child...
Definately NOT an easy decision. If you had asked me a year ago, the answer was NO WAY. We were done at two, but for us the timing was just right and it happened right away so we feel it was meant to be. Good Luck!
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ME75
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Re: Saying yes to having 3rd child...
Posted by Tina1117
to beachgirl
Although I'd still on the younger side (I'm turning 30) I know I still have time to think about this. I was hoping to TTC in 2 yrs. DH thinks he'll be too old. He'll be 34 (not old at all) and doesn't think he wants a child when he's that old I'm thinking our sons will be 4 and 5yrs which will be a perfect time to try again. Who knows!
I have another question The way I look at it is we'll be living on a VERY tight budget for about 3yrs when/if we have a 3rd child. I keep telling DH that it's only for 3yrs and then we won't have to worry about daycare. Where we live they have full-time K0 which starts at 3yrs. Yes we have to pay for K0 but it our payments decrease from well over $1000/month to $400/month. The first 3yrs there will be NO money for anything extra...nothing!
Am I living in a fantasy thinking the money situation will be better once they're all in school? I do know we'll have sports/activities, etc. I'm ok with that stuff but the daycare bill will not be over our head.
so glad you posted about this since it is the number one question in my head day after day...to go for 3 or not? my time is running out though as i get older and my 2 kids are hitting ages where they are much easier and i am enjoying it  i will say that my sister who has 5 children doesn't regret a single child. not all of them were planned but they were meant to be. however, she tells me ALL the time that money is flying out the window all the time now that they are older. granted one kid goes to private high school amd the other is in college, but they are all involved in sports, clubs etc. then there are parties, uniforms, bar-mitzvahs, and the basic needs of kids from clothes to food...it's a lot of money for them. my BIL does well but my sister did just start watching my 2 kids to make extra money to help pay for her oldest in college and her DD in private high school...there are still 3 more to come up the pike too! but i KNOW that regardless of the money she would scrub floors and her DH would work 10 jobs to make it work. the money thing is tough but has been managed well so far.
good luck with your decision-it will be what it is meant to be!
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Re: Saying yes to having 3rd child...
My situation is a little different but I am still on the fence myself. DH has an almost 15 year old son and we have a 5 1/2 yr old daughter. Before she was 3 I thought there was no way I could handle another. Then I started thinking about it, here we are 2 + years later and I am still uncertain. I don't think I will ever be sure. However, my biggest concern is regreting it in the future and I am almost 100% sure I will regret it, I am already questioning the age gap and why we didn't go for it sooner. But things happen and we had some issues to deal with so here we are. Money will never be right for us, the room in the house won't be either. I can let that go but its hard. We don't travel as it is so how much worse can that get lol. I do a lot of activities with my daughter and now that both kids older, I don't think it will be as hard to give the same to another child with them in school. My DH wants 2 more so the ball is pretty much in my court. Sometimes I wish someone could tell me what the right thing to do is but thats the wrong way to go about it. When I see people with lots of kids, I admire them and it makes me want it.
Only you can decide what the right thing to do is. I know a lot of people that say that they are done and 100% knew they were done. So if you are questioning it, I say your not. I feel complete in a sense, wonder how another child would fit in our lives, but never had that feeling that I was "done". Good luck in whatever you decide.
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