Rollercoaster Ride

I am not a frequent poster on the IF boards but in many ways this is where i belong. I guess sometimes I am in denial about psting here.

Its been 10 months of TTC with one chemical. We have male infertility issues and DH just had a bilateral variocele ligation last week. We are taking a slower approach and going to see if the surgery helps b4 we try other treatments, especially bc we got pg on our own b4 the surgery and we are on the younger side (me: 27 & dh: 30)

So, how do you deal with the rollercoaster of emotions month after month?? I feel so alone at times. I can talk to my mom and a couple friends but they dont "really" get it. I dont always feel at place on this board bc so many girls are doing treatments, IVF, taking medicine which all of it is a puzzle to me and i dont know that i can contribute anything. And then when I am on TTC board ive been around so long many questions and such have been asked tons of times since i began there.

Is there anyone who is in a similar situation?? (male infertility, did surgery, and waiting it out a bit b4 you go onto IUI, IVF, etc??)

If you got this far, thank you for listening to my pointless post. The only thing that gets me by is my faith that everything will work out and be wonderful, and i know it will. It is just matter of how long and how we will get there.

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I don't want to speak for the board as a whole, but I think that anyone that is having trouble conceiving is welcome here. We don't kick people out because they aren't on Clomid or doing IUI etc. The ladies here are EXTREMELY supportive, even if they aren't going through the same thing as you. We are all on an IF journey that will bring us different places along the way, but our final goal is the same. We all want a baby!!! You should feel welcome here to share your story and get positive and constructive feedback from the ladies... I have found that everyone is kind, caring, and concerned.

Good luck!!! And welcome...

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I think there are ladies on this board who have walked the same road as you before they went to IUI or IVF. And even if they hadn't, they would give you comfort and support through the trials and tribulations of trying to have a baby.

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I had one IUI but other than that we have been trying naturally. My husband has borderline low sperm count. He has been taking clomid. The rollercoaster ride is not a fun one unfortunately when things aren't happening as quickly as we hope it to. We are waiting to se if the clomid helped the situation. If not, I guess I will cross that bridge when I get to it. Often times, despite all the fertility treatments, women get pregnant naturally or as a fluke thing. Stay hopeful. If its meant to be i will be.

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We have male infertility as well. 12 months of trying, 1 blighted ovum, 1 possible chemical. IT is exhausting and so frustrating. I am currently trying acupuncture and also looking into counseling. I didn't want it to consume my life, but it has . FM me if you want to talk. You are not alone!

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We're also not currently undergoing any IF treatments. We've previously done 3 medicated (clomid) timed intercourse cycles and one IVF, all resulted in BFN's. Now we're trying to correct the issues we have, PCOS for me and morphology problems for DH, with MANY supplements and herbs. I'm also going to be starting accupuncture again and I have been doing a lot of reading about traditional chinese medicine.

After 15 months of TTC but not currently undergoing any IF treatments I completely understand your feeling like you don't really fit anywhere. I feel the same way at times. I hope it helps to know there are others out there who feel like you!

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I cant even begin to tell all of you ladies how much your responses mean to me!! Thank you so much for taking the time to write such caring and thoughtful responses. It is truly amazing to know that even when at times I feel so alone, I can come on here and be surrounded by ladies who know exactly how I am feeling. Thank you all again for your support!!! I def. feel welcomed here.