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EricaAlt
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Relationships changing

Do you feel that Covid is effecting relationships. DH used to be so laid back, but now he has way less patience. Especially with the kids. I feel bad enough they have to wear the masks and he does these lectures. I get he's protecting the family, but we are all pretty good and being careful.

I also feel we used to be closer with neighbors, but everyone is taking things with Covid differently. I know a lot of it is the kids getting older and changing too. WE were super close with one family with 2 girls and now they are closer with another family we are also friends with, but they have girls too so they are all together and making plans. It's weird and hard to explain. DS is 11 now also so hangs out more with the boys in the neighborhood too and now not going anywhere like we used to we don't make as many plans.

It's funny how things change. My family takes it serious, but still living their life, eating out and shopping. DH's family doesn't go out, no plans, etc.
Sorry so long, just when I'm trying to make somewhat "normal" of the crazy situation things change.

Posted 10/8/20 10:32 AM
 
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RainyDay
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My relationship with DH has changed drastically. It could just be that I have changed so much during these last few months. I feel like btwn COVID and seeing people's true feelings on politics I have lost respect for some of those closest to me.

Posted 10/8/20 10:56 AM
 

KarenK122
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Definitely. My husband and I do not agree on how to handle the whole Covid situation. I am a rule follower and will do what we are told too, masks, limit amount of people we socialize with, etc. DH though is completely against doing anything. He wants to stay home locked away. He wanted the kids to do remote and not go to school and he does not want anyone in our house or for us to go to anyone elses. He was very antisocial prior to Covid I just think this is his dream come true having a reason not to socialize in the world. Needless to say it is a lot of arguing but I am not having my kids locked away. They go to school, see my immediate family and socialize within the guidelines. I just leave DH home.

Posted 10/8/20 11:05 AM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by KarenK122
He was very antisocial prior to Covid I just think this is his dream come true having a reason not to socialize in the world. Needless to say it is a lot of arguing but I am not having my kids locked away. They go to school, see my immediate family and socialize within the guidelines. I just leave DH home.



Funny you say this because it’s really been bothering me with some people. I know quite a few people who are loving the restrictions because it makes it ok (or even virtuous) to stay inside and not participate in life. Some people are taking full advantage and using the covid excuse for everything. And shaming those who are trying to enjoy life as best (and safely) as possible. It’s been very eye opening and frustrating. I feel like some people want to perpetuate everything for this reason too. And I am NOT criticizing your DH so please don’t think that. It’s something I’m dealing with with close family members and it’s tough.

Posted 10/8/20 11:45 AM
 

EricaAlt
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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by KarenK122

Definitely. My husband and I do not agree on how to handle the whole Covid situation. I am a rule follower and will do what we are told too, masks, limit amount of people we socialize with, etc. DH though is completely against doing anything. He wants to stay home locked away. He wanted the kids to do remote and not go to school and he does not want anyone in our house or for us to go to anyone elses. He was very antisocial prior to Covid I just think this is his dream come true having a reason not to socialize in the world. Needless to say it is a lot of arguing but I am not having my kids locked away. They go to school, see my immediate family and socialize within the guidelines. I just leave DH home.



Funny thing is DH used to be so social and now he's the opposite. No one is gonna want to be around him with these lectures. Like you we are being cautious, but still have to live. It's not healthy.
Also as other poster said it's also the politics. It's not just about disagreeing over politicians, but it's getting downright mean

Posted 10/8/20 11:46 AM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Not so much our relationship but my mental health is suffering badly the longer this goes on and I guess in turn that doesn't help our relationship because I am anxious and crying a lot.
And also, we aren't used to be home together 24/7 but with my office refusing to ever open I am stuck here and he is retired so we are on top of each other 24/7.
I was telling my boss I wish we could all chip in for a WeWork space or something.
Either that or I need to find a job at a small company that actually allows employees to come in to an office.
This can't go on.

Posted 10/8/20 11:56 AM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by RainyDay

I feel like btwn COVID and seeing people's true feelings on politics I have lost respect for some of those closest to me.



Yes! I don't know if it's boredom or irritability or what, but people are out of their minds with their political ranting. One of good friends, who I love dearly, I can't even talk to her anymore. She sounds like she's been brainwashed. All she does is rant.

Speaking of ranting....

I definitely think differences in Covid opinions have also affected my relationships. I try not to be judgey but I can't help it. One of my college roomates does Friendsgiving. One has already said she will not be attending while the rest of us (it's about 20 people total) plan on going. She is very upset that we will be holding it without her. We are okay with it; she is not - even though she and her DH are teachers and their kids are back in school full time and playing every sport under the sun. So I don't get that mentality.

Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.

Posted 10/8/20 12:09 PM
 

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I am more cautious than DH is - he's going more places than I am.

My parents are super cautious. I don't fault them and honor their wishes but my mom commented that it was stupid to open schools for in person learning now and that they should've waited until January. That comment angered me so I told her if that was the case she'd need to come over and help her grandkids navigate remote learning.

We too aren't used to being home together all the time. It's frustrating too as he doesn't contribute as much to the kids remote education and he's off work when he's home and I am working and helping them. He is frustrated as he's running most of the errands but, he is off when he is home, I am working.

I did start going into the office one day this week and it was nice. It was so quiet and there was nothing else to do there other than work - no kids, no crap to pick up, laundry or dishes to do, etc. Just work and catching up with the handful of coworkers that were there.

I see my relationship has changed with friends as well - many are at different levels of comfort and I feel that one friend, who I was closest with, has pulled away to hang with a different group of friends. We had a small spat over the summer as she snuck in a non-member to our local pool (I am on the board and we spent a lot of time developing rules and planning to get the pool club open safely and it really hurt to have them disregarded so I said something to her and she was snotty about it). Another good friend is a nurse and she's being cautious still (more so than she was in the beginning when everyone was locked down to my surprise).

I feel that being home more has helped me become closer with my neighbors. We are all home and have been talking and socializing more which is nice. Usually we are friendly and such but we are all running in a million different directions.

Posted 10/8/20 12:15 PM
 

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It has changed some relationships for the worse and others for the better, for me. My birthday was basically the first day that things were starting to shut down. I had plans to go out to dinner and see a band with a group of friends. But we were mostly uncomfortable doing that, so I just invited everyone over to my house (like 5 people) and ordered in. One person, who I was pretty close, with didn't come to my house because she "had to go out dancing". It hurt my feelings that she decided going out was more important than being together with our group to help celebrate my birthday. And she is constantly posting pics on FB with large groups of people close together (lots of selfies with a bunch of people), no masks - hey, I get it, you do you. BUT, she is a teacher and will post rants about how dangerous it is to expect teachers to be in a classroom with kids. So between all of that, I'm pretty much done with her friendship.

On the other hand, being home from work, I have gotten to know my neighbors a lot more. I have lived in my house for 2 years and used to just have a mostly "wave hi in the driveway" type of relationship with them. But being home, I see many of them a lot more and have gotten to know them more and now even socialize with some of them

Posted 10/8/20 12:31 PM
 

Pomegranate5
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Re: Relationships changing

Yes! So much! Thankfully DH and I are on the same page with COVID stuff, but our emotional and mental health in general is suffering. After almost 7 months of this, how can it not be? And our relationships with others are definitely changing.

This has been getting to even the strongest people. And I notice and feel that for a lot of people, they are withdrawing a bit. And I'm sure we giving off the same vibe.

Some of our core "people" are still mostly isolating. And that has been really hard for us to deal with. It's a challenge to keep the relationships as strong 7 months in when you haven't had a single new experience with them, or just spent an afternoon with them face to face. And then everyone's mood in general is lower than it was six months ago. It's a struggle.

But we're just hanging in there and riding the wave, because we're all in the same boat. Eventually this will be over and we can rebuild what we had.

Posted 10/8/20 12:56 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by FirstMate

Posted by RainyDay

I feel like btwn COVID and seeing people's true feelings on politics I have lost respect for some of those closest to me.



Yes! I don't know if it's boredom or irritability or what, but people are out of their minds with their political ranting. One of good friends, who I love dearly, I can't even talk to her anymore. She sounds like she's been brainwashed. All she does is rant.

Speaking of ranting....

I definitely think differences in Covid opinions have also affected my relationships. I try not to be judgey but I can't help it. One of my college roomates does Friendsgiving. One has already said she will not be attending while the rest of us (it's about 20 people total) plan on going. She is very upset that we will be holding it without her. We are okay with it; she is not - even though she and her DH are teachers and their kids are back in school full time and playing every sport under the sun. So I don't get that mentality.

Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.



Eh, people handle this differently. My kids are in school full time (with masks, distance, and plexiglass barriers). I’m still uncomfortable with it. They each also play two sports, but they’re outdoors, running around, and all coaches are masked.

I wouldn’t go to an indoor Friendsgiving either, but i haven’t been to restaurants either. I refuse to go indoors without a mask, and if others are not masked as well.

The baby thing is hard. My sister had one over the summer, and immediate family has only been able to see the baby a handful of times even with masks, and for very short visits.

Posted 10/8/20 1:14 PM
 

KarenK122
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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by EricaAlt

Posted by KarenK122

Definitely. My husband and I do not agree on how to handle the whole Covid situation. I am a rule follower and will do what we are told too, masks, limit amount of people we socialize with, etc. DH though is completely against doing anything. He wants to stay home locked away. He wanted the kids to do remote and not go to school and he does not want anyone in our house or for us to go to anyone elses. He was very antisocial prior to Covid I just think this is his dream come true having a reason not to socialize in the world. Needless to say it is a lot of arguing but I am not having my kids locked away. They go to school, see my immediate family and socialize within the guidelines. I just leave DH home.



Funny thing is DH used to be so social and now he's the opposite. No one is gonna want to be around him with these lectures. Like you we are being cautious, but still have to live. It's not healthy.
Also as other poster said it's also the politics. It's not just about disagreeing over politicians, but it's getting downright mean



I hear you. It is just so frustrating. Politics are just the nail in the coffin. I have a hard rule, even before Covid that no politics are discussed in my house during a get together or holiday. My family is deeply rooted on both sides and nothing good comes for any political conversation. My DH and I are pretty compatible politically (about 85%) so at least that is not a problem. Sometimes he gets a little nuts but I'll just turn up the TV lol. We did though agree that we are writing in the fly from last night's debate to win lol.

Posted 10/8/20 1:40 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

the pandemic, combined with the current political stuff, had definitely changed a lot for me.

the whole thing has really shown me people's true colors. makes me sad.

Posted 10/8/20 2:46 PM
 

Adri
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Re: Relationships changing

Yes, it has. In terms of covid and activities we share similar views with DH. The problem is him WFH makes him try to control things I was in charge on and used to do at my own time. Or controlling when DS does homework or how long he spends on electronics, that before he wasn't aware of, but now he starts nagging DS and it creates tension between us. Before he only saw DS's good grades, but now he sees that he could study more, etc, and I don't agree with that since his grades are good.

With friends also. I don't even chat with some of them as often as I used to. I don't go outside too much and some friends keep inviting me for coffee or lunch or drinks and I don't feel comfortable because I see their pictures with no masks and no social distancing and I feel that I have to justify myself and I don't like that.

I used to be more social but now I don't crave social interaction that much. I might be depressed, I don't know, but my relationships have changed for sure.

Posted 10/8/20 5:34 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by NervousNell

Not so much our relationship but my mental health is suffering badly the longer this goes on and I guess in turn that doesn't help our relationship because I am anxious and crying a lot.
And also, we aren't used to be home together 24/7 but with my office refusing to ever open I am stuck here and he is retired so we are on top of each other 24/7.
I was telling my boss I wish we could all chip in for a WeWork space or something.
Either that or I need to find a job at a small company that actually allows employees to come in to an office.
This can't go on.



You are not alone. I am becoming homicidal. And we are very much out of the house and working here so there is some normalcy but the stress of it all is getting to be too much. I find that we are bickering much more and I'm generally more irritable overall. I definitely snap at the kids more. I have a high stress job too which does not help even before the pandemic.

Posted 10/8/20 6:18 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Same on so many of these posts. DH & I working from home at the same time has always been a balancing act, but now with the added pressures of covid life, it's taxing.

I had a school-mom tell me I might be "doing it wrong" if I'm so worried about there being a 2 new covid cases in our school. We've had a playdate here & there and we have one after school activity - and she said maybe i'm doing it wrong. I didn't engage because I was saddened that out of all the things you should me, you should me motherhood wrong during covid. Smh.

Little things like that irk me 10 times more than the time before last March.

And the political rants. Wow. It reminds me of the way people in other countries talk about their dictator leaders. It does not sound or feel like the US I knew. Blindly following a reality tv celeb. Like that movie Idiocracy or when Biff reigns from back to the future. You see it, right?

I hooked us all up with a therapist for each family member, so that's helping.

I miss the old days of 7 months ago. But I'm adapting, or at least trying.

Posted 10/8/20 6:20 PM
 

NervousNell
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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by FirstMate



Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.



Could you imagine that God forbid something happened to one of her parents and they passed away and never got to meet their first grandchild? I would think she'd be riddled with guilt forever after that...as she should be.
I think it's pretty disgusting if you ask me.
My parents would be so angry and hurt if I did that and would probably disown me completely. And I wouldn't blame them one bit
People have gone off the deep end. I'm sorry but they have

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Posted 10/8/20 6:21 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Thankfully, not for us. Life is pretty much back to normal for us except we have masks on a lot and I clean even more than i used to (if that’s even possible) our close friends and family are all on the same page with covid. They are as careful as they can be. The only thing we won’t do is eat inside a restaurant or go to a large gathering. Being 20+ people Inside and close, even with masks, we are not comfortable with. People accept the rsvp No with a gift sent. Whether they like it or not, I don’t know. But I feel like you have to respect people’s feelings. From those who still wear gloves daily and won’t see anyone and those who think it’s a bunch of BS. Me and my inner circle all agree and it’s nice being in our own bubble.

When it comes to the politics part, again, most of my inner circle are on the same page but there are those who are not. We respect each other’s opinions but definitely flame each other jokingly any chance we get lol thank god none of my friends are far right or far left. I couldn’t handle the excessive behavior of either side in my life. That would stress me the F out.

So no. Covid or politics haven’t messed with my relationships. Maybe because I’ve always kept my circle small? Plus with DH, I’d I can get through years of infertility, and then Covid mixed with his surgery and complications after the fact - we can get through anything.

Posted 10/8/20 6:25 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by FirstMate



Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.



Could you imagine that God forbid something happened to one of her parents and they passed away and never got to meet their first grandchild? I would think she'd be riddled with guilt forever after that...as she should be.
I think it's pretty disgusting if you ask me.
My parents would be so angry and hurt if I did that and would probably disown me completely. And I wouldn't blame them one bit
People have gone off the deep end. I'm sorry but they have



She said to me "I just don't want to have any regret." and I told her exactly what you said! Her in-laws are well into their 80's and this is their only son's only child and they aren't allowed to meet him. They don't drive and haven't left the freaking house since March but it's a risk. (Because the pediatrician said NOBODY should be around the baby for at least 3 months - other than health care worker co-workers?). I try to remember being a first time mom and try to be sympathetic. But then she facetimes me again, which she does minimally 4 times a day because she wants the baby to know me, and I get all salty again. She might drive by this weekend so my kids can see him. She said she'll let the kids approach the car. I told her if she wants to go see animals on safari she should do just that. Chat Icon

Posted 10/8/20 10:06 PM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by FirstMate

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by FirstMate



Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.



Could you imagine that God forbid something happened to one of her parents and they passed away and never got to meet their first grandchild? I would think she'd be riddled with guilt forever after that...as she should be.
I think it's pretty disgusting if you ask me.
My parents would be so angry and hurt if I did that and would probably disown me completely. And I wouldn't blame them one bit
People have gone off the deep end. I'm sorry but they have



She said to me "I just don't want to have any regret." and I told her exactly what you said! Her in-laws are well into their 80's and this is their only son's only child and they aren't allowed to meet him. They don't drive and haven't left the freaking house since March but it's a risk. (Because the pediatrician said NOBODY should be around the baby for at least 3 months - other than health care worker co-workers?). I try to remember being a first time mom and try to be sympathetic. But then she facetimes me again, which she does minimally 4 times a day because she wants the baby to know me, and I get all salty again. She might drive by this weekend so my kids can see him. She said she'll let the kids approach the car. I told her if she wants to go see animals on safari she should do just that. Chat Icon




That is BS. My niece is 3 months old and me and my parents have been to visit her and they took her to my parents twice. They were never told not to bring baby around everyone. What is the baby going to grow an invisible covid shield at 3 months? I gwt b66wing careful but you can visit with bbn precautions. I stayed 6 ft, wore a mask and didn't hold the baby but I still got to see her. don't know what that pediatrician is smoking

Posted 10/9/20 5:34 AM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by Mrs213

Posted by FirstMate

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by FirstMate



Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.



Could you imagine that God forbid something happened to one of her parents and they passed away and never got to meet their first grandchild? I would think she'd be riddled with guilt forever after that...as she should be.
I think it's pretty disgusting if you ask me.
My parents would be so angry and hurt if I did that and would probably disown me completely. And I wouldn't blame them one bit
People have gone off the deep end. I'm sorry but they have



She said to me "I just don't want to have any regret." and I told her exactly what you said! Her in-laws are well into their 80's and this is their only son's only child and they aren't allowed to meet him. They don't drive and haven't left the freaking house since March but it's a risk. (Because the pediatrician said NOBODY should be around the baby for at least 3 months - other than health care worker co-workers?). I try to remember being a first time mom and try to be sympathetic. But then she facetimes me again, which she does minimally 4 times a day because she wants the baby to know me, and I get all salty again. She might drive by this weekend so my kids can see him. She said she'll let the kids approach the car. I told her if she wants to go see animals on safari she should do just that. Chat Icon




That is BS. My niece is 3 months old and me and my parents have been to visit her and they took her to my parents twice. They were never told not to bring baby around everyone. What is the baby going to grow an invisible covid shield at 3 months? I gwt b66wing careful but you can visit with bbn precautions. I stayed 6 ft, wore a mask and didn't hold the baby but I still got to see her. don't know what that pediatrician is smoking



It reminds me of when they say a baby can't go out in public until it's had "all its shots". Meanwhile the shots a baby has in the first few months of life aren't protecting it from the most common things out there likrbcolds, flu, and even things like MMR aren't given until they are older.
And in this case, what the hell is 3 months going to do, you are right. There is no Covid vaccine and if and when there is who knows the age they will say it's safe to give to a baby.
I find this very sad for her poor parents and in laws.

Posted 10/9/20 6:50 AM
 

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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by Mrs213

Posted by FirstMate

Posted by NervousNell

Posted by FirstMate



Also, my BFF recently had a baby and refuses to let anyone meet the baby, including her parents (1st grandbaby BTW!). This is someone who was literally in the delivery room with me when I had my boys and she will not allow me to meet him. Only on Facetime. She works as an OR RN and has allowed all of her OR friends to meet the baby because they know proper precautions. I'm not a leper, I'm not sick and I know how to wash my hands and wear a mask, thank you. Its very hurtful.



Could you imagine that God forbid something happened to one of her parents and they passed away and never got to meet their first grandchild? I would think she'd be riddled with guilt forever after that...as she should be.
I think it's pretty disgusting if you ask me.
My parents would be so angry and hurt if I did that and would probably disown me completely. And I wouldn't blame them one bit
People have gone off the deep end. I'm sorry but they have



She said to me "I just don't want to have any regret." and I told her exactly what you said! Her in-laws are well into their 80's and this is their only son's only child and they aren't allowed to meet him. They don't drive and haven't left the freaking house since March but it's a risk. (Because the pediatrician said NOBODY should be around the baby for at least 3 months - other than health care worker co-workers?). I try to remember being a first time mom and try to be sympathetic. But then she facetimes me again, which she does minimally 4 times a day because she wants the baby to know me, and I get all salty again. She might drive by this weekend so my kids can see him. She said she'll let the kids approach the car. I told her if she wants to go see animals on safari she should do just that. Chat Icon




That is BS. My niece is 3 months old and me and my parents have been to visit her and they took her to my parents twice. They were never told not to bring baby around everyone. What is the baby going to grow an invisible covid shield at 3 months? I gwt b66wing careful but you can visit with bbn precautions. I stayed 6 ft, wore a mask and didn't hold the baby but I still got to see her. don't know what that pediatrician is smoking



I told her the baby has a much higher risk of getting RSV and other respiratory illnesses and that by keeping him in a bubble she is depriving him of his ability to develop natural immunities. BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT THE PEDIATRICIAN SAID! I can't.

Sorry to the OP for hijacking your post!

Message edited 10/9/2020 1:20:56 PM.

Posted 10/9/20 9:30 AM
 

LuckyStar
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Relationships changing

DH takes his cues from me because of my profession so we are on the same page.

I think most of the people close to us are of a similar mindset. Wear masks, eat outdoors, don't go to huge gatherings. We know some people who take it to a level that is probably overkill from a scientific standpoint, but I respect their wishes.

I don't think we really interact with anyone who is flagrant about the virus or denies its seriousness, but that probably stems from the fact that our circle is an intelligent, well-educated bunch.

Posted 10/9/20 12:15 PM
 

Hopefulmama
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Re: Relationships changing

Posted by LuckyStar

DH takes his cues from me because of my profession so we are on the same page.

I think most of the people close to us are of a similar mindset. Wear masks, eat outdoors, don't go to huge gatherings. We know some people who take it to a level that is probably overkill from a scientific standpoint, but I respect their wishes.

I don't think we really interact with anyone who is flagrant about the virus or denies its seriousness, but that probably stems from the fact that our circle is an intelligent, well-educated bunch.



I think that is a good way to put it - what some people are doing is indeed overkill from a scientific standpoint. And while I agree with PP and respect their wishes, I tend to find that this zealous crowd can be, generally speaking, sanctimonious and judgmental.

Posted 10/9/20 1:15 PM
 

JennP
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Jenn

Re: Relationships changing

Posted by Hopefulmama

Posted by LuckyStar

DH takes his cues from me because of my profession so we are on the same page.

I think most of the people close to us are of a similar mindset. Wear masks, eat outdoors, don't go to huge gatherings. We know some people who take it to a level that is probably overkill from a scientific standpoint, but I respect their wishes.

I don't think we really interact with anyone who is flagrant about the virus or denies its seriousness, but that probably stems from the fact that our circle is an intelligent, well-educated bunch.



I think that is a good way to put it - what some people are doing is indeed overkill from a scientific standpoint. And while I agree with PP and respect their wishes, I tend to find that this zealous crowd can be, generally speaking, sanctimonious and judgmental.



Curious if you mean in general society or on here?

Because if it's on here, I disagree. On the other hand, I've seen plenty of posts filled with hysteria along with blatant condescension and dismissiveness for those being cautious. There is one going on right now with a ridiculous false equivalency when the controversial comment wasn't even directed at anyone on here. It's so unnecessary.

I also think there's a difference between being judgmental towards people who are following the rules but maybe living less cautiously than you (which is not ok) and being judgmental towards people flouting the rules and being reckless with people's lives (which I think is totally justified.)

Posted 10/9/20 1:45 PM
 
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