Reflecting back on your choices

I know this is a personal question but I am just curious...

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I have to say, I think I timed it right. But, it is really up to you and DH as to when the time is right. I don't own a house and we don't have a huge amount of money in savings. But, we live comfortably and are so happy (for the most part ). Plus if I would have waited, I wouldn't have my perfect little angel

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We will never have money for a house, so I couldnt ever wait for a house, but if I had a choice, I would have waited until we were more secure financially, but it wasnt in the cards, and he is a wonderful gift!!!

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WEll, we would be other...

$$, job, education, travel, etc. were not issues for us, age and fertility were.

If it was up to us, I would have gotten pregnant on my honeymoon but I pretty much knew for many, many years that IF issues were there so I wasted no time going straight to an RE... sure enough they were confirmed. Glad I didn't wait any longer than I did.

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I said other. She was not planned, she was a surprise. However, we had planned to wait until we had a house.

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we talked about having kids when we were dating. I'll never forget we went to Disney when we were dating, and after a long day at the parks, he said to me "and imagine how much more fun it will be with kids ????" (totally caught me offguard

We waited a year, but I would have had kids at 12 if it were up to me

He would have waited just a little longer, no specific reason, because we did have a house, he had a great job,
no debts, I think it was more "fear of the unknown" and this NEW RESPONSIBLITYcoming into our lives.

so he was nervous at first, but obviously he got over that real quick, theyre now 4 3 and 1

I threw him right in with the wolves: diapers, feedings. He's not one that likes change and adapts to new things well. so he needs to be thrown in to new things.
and then he's a pro. he's the best dad on earth.

sorry I rambled.
good luck to you whatever you decide

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We were married 4 years, together a little over 10 years. We definitely had not planned to have Josh when we did. We had a big move ahead of us to a new state, no jobs lined up.

DH had a medical scare, instead of waiting for test results to come back...the safety couple that we are jumped the gun and had unprotected sex for the first time. It was 2-3 days after I ovulated. In the middle, I changed my mind, DH announced it was too late. So, that's how it happened.

DH is fine. Looking back, I think everything happens for a reason. We had traveled, we partied, we had a lot of years together-almost too many years. The baby was a very hard adjustment on my previously blissful marriage. We are finally getting back to normal 7 months later. I believe the longer we would have waited, the harder transistion it would become.

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DH and I talk about this often. We wish we would have met each other earlier in life so I could have had the 3 (or 4 ) children I always "dreamed" of. I was 37 and 39 when I had my children.

Our boys were both perfectly planned.

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Posted by My2Boys

DH and I talk about this often. We wish we would have met each other earlier in life so I could have had the 3 (or 4 ) children I always "dreamed" of. I was 37 and 39 when I had my children.

Our boys were both perfectly planned.

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i don't think there is ever a right time. there will always be something you wish was perfect/better.

I found out I was PG 3 weeks before our wedding. Yes, technically she was an accident but it was the best accident of my life.

Then we decided to have one more right away because that's what we wanted.

Do we struggle? yes sometimes

Do I have to go back to work this year? Yes but I kind of want to

Did it stop some schools from hiring me in the past? I think so.

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There is never a "perfect" time. I agree with Jen. But I have to say we timed it pretty good. The fact that we were married and purchased a home a few years before we had our DD was a really smart move for us.

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Posted by CkGm

Posted by My2Boys

DH and I talk about this often. We wish we would have met each other earlier in life so I could have had the 3 (or 4 ) children I always "dreamed" of. I was 37 and 39 when I had my children.

Our boys were both perfectly planned.

Same here- Except I had my little girl at 37 and hope to have the second by 39, God willing.

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I got married late (36), so I guess I just waited until I met the right person