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iwed2005
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Julie
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Postpartum
It is my first day alone with my baby girl. I love her and don't regret having her, but I am suffering from postpartum. I sit her and cry wondering how good of a mom i am going to be or how I will make it through the rest of my maternity leave. Please let me know what you did to get through the loneliness and the depression, i just don't want to cry any more.
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Sharon
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Re: Postpartum
Talk to your doctor about it. I got very weepy days after i delivered my twins. while still inthe hospital, my doctor prescribed something. she said it was "Post partum Adjustment disorder". I felt much better within days.
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| Posted 9/19/06 5:36 PM |
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KangaMom
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| Posted 9/19/06 5:37 PM |
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Disneygirl
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Re: Postpartum
I had a good cry the first day I was home alone with the baby. One of the things that made me feel better was leaving the house for a little while and getting some fresh air. See if you can get away for a couple of hours every once in awhile.
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| Posted 9/19/06 5:40 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Postpartum
I cried for weeks after having my baby, its totally normal! Do the best you can and just make sure that you get out of the house!!
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| Posted 9/19/06 6:00 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Postpartum
The first week was so hard for me. I would get this anxious feeling around 5 and it would last for a few hours. I would cry over little things and sob sometimes. The first couple of nights were very hard and I thought that I would never like it. It does get better, I promise. If it doesn't, you need to tell DH and family and friends and professionals so everyone can help.
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| Posted 9/19/06 6:28 PM |
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kimmie
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Re: Postpartum
I too had it really badly sometimes it got so badly I wondered if it was ever going to go away. I prayed for my daughter to be older and now looking back I wouldnt change this for the world. It will get better but dont be afraid to talk to your OB about it. He put me out of work for another whole month because it was so bad. I cried everytime my DH left for work I can only imagine how i made him feel.. good luck and you are a perfect mother everything is trial and error so do your best thats all your baby asks of you..
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| Posted 9/19/06 6:47 PM |
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MM2004
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Re: Postpartum
What you are going through is normal but if it lasts or if it really concerns you, talk to your doctor.
It took me a while to admit that what I was feeling was not just the "baby blues" but something a bit more serious. I was finally diagnosed with PPD 4 months after giving birth. After therapy/meds I'm much better and am grateful that I did seek help.
FM if you need to talk!
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| Posted 9/19/06 6:50 PM |
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Spring Baby06
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| Posted 9/19/06 7:29 PM |
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JTK
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Re: Postpartum
i had pp depression. the only thing that helped me was meds! fm me if you want
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| Posted 9/19/06 7:51 PM |
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dld4e
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Re: Postpartum
Aww you have the baby blues. It's totally normal, you will feel better soon. I have been through it too and now all is well.
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| Posted 9/19/06 8:01 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Postpartum
PLEASE talk to your doctor. I suffered horribly from PPD after I had my daughter. I was miserable and felt like I didn't want to live anymore. It was the most awful feeling I have ever felt in my life. I saw a psychologist who specializes in post partum depression, and it helped SO much to get everything out and to know that how I felt was normal.
If you need any support, please FM me. Do a search on me from July and you will find my posts on my PPD it was just a horrible time in my life. The good news is that I made it through to the other side and am doing so well now. Hang in there
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| Posted 9/19/06 8:05 PM |
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JoCaCoLa
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Re: Postpartum
Posted by shamrock12472
The first week was so hard for me. I would get this anxious feeling around 5 and it would last for a few hours. I would cry over little things and sob sometimes. The first couple of nights were very hard and I thought that I would never like it. It does get better, I promise. If it doesn't, you need to tell DH and family and friends and professionals so everyone can help.
I was very similiar to this, except it would "hit" me whenever. Luckily, as I healed from giving birth and adjusted to my new lifestyle, it got better. I definitely had the support of my family, especially DH. I would talk to your family and doctor if it doesn't start to get better, make sure someone is aware of your situation, it may even help you.
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| Posted 9/19/06 8:13 PM |
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MatteosMom
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Re: Postpartum
You'll get through it, believe me, I was where you are...FM me if you need to talk about it. My son is 4 1/2 months now and it's been SO different. And there is help...like I said, FM me if you want to!
Message edited 9/19/2006 9:51:14 PM.
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| Posted 9/19/06 9:50 PM |
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Melbernai
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Re: Postpartum
I just want to let you know that this happens to a LOT of women and I suffered from PPD also. Please FM me if you need to talk about it.
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| Posted 9/19/06 9:52 PM |
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beachgirl13
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Re: Postpartum
Sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 9/19/06 10:17 PM |
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michele31
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Re: Postpartum
I had PPD for nearly a year...it was awful and dark. I am here if you need to talk. My advise is to NOT do this alone. I tried and it almost destroyed me.
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| Posted 9/19/06 10:32 PM |
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iwed2005
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Re: Postpartum
Thank you so much for your kind words. I see my ob in a week and will talk to her about this. I just feel silly feeling so depressed when this is suppose to be and is the happiest time of my life.
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| Posted 9/21/06 9:20 AM |
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Ali1
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Re: Postpartum
Definetly talk to your doctor, but being weepy and depressed the first few weeks is totally normal. I can't tell you how many times in the two weeks i have been home with my boys I have cried. Along with sleep deprivation, my life is in major transition right now. I spoke to my doctor about it and he said it is completely normal to feel this way for a few weeks when you get home, however if you ever feel like you want to hurt the baby or can't get rid of the depressed feelings then you probably have PPD. I don't cry much anymore and have been feelign happier this week.
Good luck!
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| Posted 9/21/06 9:37 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Postpartum
Posted by iwed2005
It is my first day alone with my baby girl. I love her and don't regret having her, but I am suffering from postpartum. I sit her and cry wondering how good of a mom i am going to be or how I will make it through the rest of my maternity leave. Please let me know what you did to get through the loneliness and the depression, i just don't want to cry any more.
I feel your pain My DS is almost 2 weeks old and i am weepy at times...its totally normal though..I am more anxious than anything, always wondering if he is ok, why i can't console him when he cries a lot...
My advice...get outside for a little bit! I am gearing up now to take him out just for a little bit. Sitting in a house by yourself with baby can be overwhelming..it is for me at least. Like the others said, if it turns into other things other than baby blues you need to talk to someone. It happens all the time and nothing to be ashamed of. Sending you lot of hugs!!
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| Posted 9/21/06 9:44 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Postpartum
Posted by iwed2005
Thank you so much for your kind words. I see my ob in a week and will talk to her about this. I just feel silly feeling so depressed when this is suppose to be and is the happiest time of my life.
I think a big part is hormonal. I know it's hard to believe but think of your baby as this little hormone sucking machine for 10 months. Your body's hormones adjusted to accomodate this adorable little leech. All of a sudden, the baby is out and your body is still producing everything it needed. It takes time for your body to say "Uh oh, we have an overabundance of hormones. Stop production!"
The other thing is this is a HUGE life change. It's absolutely overwhelming in the beginning. It's not just the physical demands of a new baby, it's an emotional responsiblity with huge proportions.
That being said, we're all afraid we're cr@ppy moms and none of us have all of the answers either.
This is still new. I'm glad you're talking to your doctor. Take care of yourself, the rest will fall into place after that.
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Ophelia
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Re: Postpartum
hey sweetie. it is completely normal what you are going through. especially since you are such an overachiever! and all you want to do is make HER life better than yours was. your life has gone through so much transition in the last year, and this is the biggest one of all.
she is and will be the greatest love in your life...of course you are worried about screwing that up. but you are too good, too wonderful to ever mess that up.
remember, it takes a village to raise a child..and you've got all of us here, ready to pitch in and lend a hand.
She's so beautiful Jules...
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| Posted 9/21/06 10:03 AM |
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TwinMama
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Re: Postpartum
I would get medication to help you through it. I know other women who had postpartum and they got medication and within days they felt better. You don't want to spend your entire maternity leave feeling sad and not enjoying your time with the baby.
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| Posted 9/21/06 10:08 AM |
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married53005
LIF Adolescent
Member since 8/06 636 total posts
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ERIN
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Re: Postpartum
Rest assured you will be and already are an awesome mom!!!!! It takes adjustment and time to get used to your new life but you will make it through!!! Just think about this beautiful new life you have brought into this world and how many wonderful things you will get to do . And how many wonderful memories you will be able to create !!!!! If you can try and get out the house if you can.... even if it's just for a few minutes. The change in scenery helped me alot!!!!! Hang in there!!!!!
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| Posted 9/21/06 10:14 AM |
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MatteosMom
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Carolyn
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Re: Postpartum
Posted by iwed2005
Thank you so much for your kind words. I see my ob in a week and will talk to her about this. I just feel silly feeling so depressed when this is suppose to be and is the happiest time of my life.
I feel like that is the romantacized version of having a baby, that it's all smiles and cuddling...the real truth is sleepless days and nights and figuring each other out (bottles, sleeping, gas, etc.). Once you do, it IS the best. And you will be happy, it is okay that you don't feel happy all the time. You know you are happy to have your baby. It is just exhaustion that makes it hard to feel happy! It's an adjustment all around, for you and the baby!
PS--This is just my thoughts on it! Take it or leave it.
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