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How is everyone doing in the BD'ing department? My boyfriend won't come near me!!!!!! I never though it would have lasted this long but we haven't had s*x since dec 26th. Yes I know pathetic that I remember the date but when you never get it again you remember the last time. Please tell me i'm not the only one that has to deal with a man like this!!!!

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Not nearly as often as it used to be...but we still manage to. Although it's becoming more awkward.

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We've done it once since I found out I'm pregnant (which was 2 weeks ago). It's not really that DH doesn't want to come near me, it's more that I keep falling asleep on him because I'm so exhausted all the time

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TOTALLY TMI..... but you asked.....

When I was pg, we did it like crazy. My hormones made me sex-crazed and DH is just a filthy pig because he found the whole pg thing a huge turn-on.

That said, at around 37 weeks, (when I was really putting the screws to him (no pun intended ) about doing it to HOPEFULLY induce labor)- he could actually FEEL that I was dilated. Poor guy was totally freaked out when I explained that the little "ring" he was feeling was my cervix

Needless to say, he practically refused to touch me for the next 3 weeks.

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We used to do it often. But after a certain week(I think 25ish), it became painful so we stopped having intercourse.

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We haven't since the transfer...first I was spotting, so Dr. said wait till after 12 weeks. Then we just didn't (I think DH was nervous). Now after the bleeding last week, I am on pelvic rest until 24 weeks...so definitely none.

I think DH has become really good friends with his porn sites on the comp.

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Posted by Gertyrae

We haven't since the transfer...first I was spotting, so Dr. said wait till after 12 weeks. Then we just didn't (I think DH was nervous). Now after the bleeding last week, I am on pelvic rest until 24 weeks...so definitely none.

I think DH has become really good friends with his porn sites on the comp.

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So basically for everyone else it's about comfort and sleepiness. my boyfriend just thinks it's weird...that we shouldn't be doing anything. It was here and there until 28 weeks now nothing.

I should add that he's just freaked out about hurting the baby in general. Even when it comes to feeling the movements with his hand...he touches my belly like it's made of tissue paper. He constantly tells me to stop hurting the baby because he thinks i push to hard on my stomach.

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Posted by karacg

Posted by Gertyrae

We haven't since the transfer...first I was spotting, so Dr. said wait till after 12 weeks. Then we just didn't (I think DH was nervous). Now after the bleeding last week, I am on pelvic rest until 24 weeks...so definitely none.

I think DH has become really good friends with his porn sites on the comp.

And you say Dan isn't handy....

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Well we certainly don't have sex like we used to... mostly because of me. My husband hasn't had a problem with it, however, i really don't have a belly yet. So i think once i do, which makes it evident that there really is a baby in there... he might think differently.

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I'm going on longer than that. It wasn't this way with DS and I don't look much different than I did with that pregnancy. Actually "the deed" is what put me into labor at 37 weeks. I keep telling him that we have to "do it" so I get this baby out (almost 40 weeks) - he just laughs and nothing.

I think it's uncomfortable with the belly and he's worried that he might hurt tha baby. Maybe he thinks he'll feel the baby or something:( I'm sorry - I think it's more about the baby than you. I guarantee he'll be more than excited to hear how your six week appointment goes:)

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Well, we are still having s_x, but not as often. The last drought lasted 3 1/2 weeks.

It's a combination of a couple of things. I am always really tired, and DH was afraid that it was not safe for the baby. As a matter of fact he also would be get nervous if I went to the gym or shook the belly at all. All he ever says is, "Are you sure that it's safe?"

I guess I should be happy that he is so concerned.

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So funny you bring this up.

I am 20 weeks preggo and since I found out we have done it twice. Once last night and once at about 16 weeks. And only because I BEGGED!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DH is so freaked about the situation. He is afraid it may disturb the baby or whatever. I told him he needs to get over it.

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Okay...now that more people are responding it seemsi'm not the only one. Thank god!!!! Not that I want you gals to suffer like I am but I don't want to be the only one not getting any...lol.

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I'm not in the mood, but my DH wants it all the time! lol

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Oh how I wish my DH would just leave me alone.....I am twenty five weeks and really not in the mood, plus it feels like I have to pee for an hour afterwards and that is not comfortble. He is always in the mood and groping me.

Message edited 2/16/2008 11:19:56 AM.

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I'm 8 weeks, it hasn't happened since wk 4 bc of spotting, doc said no. DH is scared anyway

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I had a spotting incident 3 weeks ago, and became afraid of doing stuff vaginally.... I'll get over it eventually, but right now, it's too soon after that scare....

but we're still active.... we just do other stuff....

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UH hello......I have not got it since Thanksgiving morning to be exact! I 'm just to nervous..

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I still enjoy it when we do try but it's def. a chore! Last weekend I threw up afterwards (I got a little winded and tried to suck down too much cold water after ). Needless to say, it's not part of our daily routine!