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MyChip-n-Dales
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ok im in complete tears please help
I dont know if im doing wrong or what.. (and please if you cant be nice dont answer) My boys have taken bottles to bed. I know its bad.... but i did what i could for having 2 and being bymyself... anyways... i got them off the acutal bottle but they then went on to a nuby kinda botttle... it has a sippy cup feel but still a nipple in away...
well i want them off that. so i bought another nuby bottle but its more sippy cup still a silicone top but the sippy cup style. well joseph took to it no problem... anthony is my problem. he is in his room right now SCREAMING i want a baba. i am refusing to give it to him i gave him the cup thingy. He is still screaming and crying its been about 15 min. what do i do? do i stand to my thoughts on this and let him continue to cry? or do i give in and give him the darn bottle and try again another day?
he keeps getting up out of his bed and coming in to me screaming crying, im picking him back up putting him back in with the cup. god help me please!!!
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Posted 10/9/08 12:50 PM  |
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
I would stand your ground. As hard as it is to hear them scream and carry on, it will be the only way.
If you give in, it will start all over again next time. He will get used it, he has no choice.
I have been there with Ryan's binky, and I sooo wanted to just give it to him the first night we were weaning him, but after a couple of days, he was fine.
Hang in there!!!! 
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| Posted 10/9/08 12:53 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
My honest advice is that I would stand my ground..I feel if you give in, it'll just be bad again when you try to break the habit. It'll also show his brother that the other one is now getting his bottle back and it might make for 2 little boys crying for their baba....
hang in there!! It's so hard to break habits at first, but usually with some work it'll be so worth it in the end! Good luck!
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| Posted 10/9/08 12:54 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
OMGoodness...I was JUST going to start a topic asking how to get DS off the Nuby cup..He bit a hole in his last nipple and they don't sell the darn nipples seperatley..Im trying to get him on a straw cup..Uugghh
Sorry didn't want to hi jack!!
Anyway, what I did today was put the milk in the fridge. I'll try again when he wakes up, then, again at dinner.
Im going to just keep trying.
Can you keep offering it to him?
Tell him the 'Bottle Fairy" came. There are no more, or maybe tell him it's broken?
My DS is only 20 months old, so, he wouldn't 100% understand all that, but, I hope these ideas help you a little.
OR
Let him have the bottle just today, explain "Babies need the bottle as of tomorrow or (whatever day you choose) and let him help you "Give the bottles away".
Good Luck
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| Posted 10/9/08 12:56 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Until I became a mom I never knew or understood...hearing your child cry is the hardest thing!  I absolutely agree when people say that mother's are programmed to respond to their child's cry...heck I respond to any child's cry at this point. So I feel your pain.
My advice...if you want him off the bottle you have to stand strong. He'll cry, he'll protest, he'll go on strike but all will not last very long. It's a battle of determination and he needs you to stand strong to set the example and define the expectation.
Hang in there!!!!
On a positive note....Joseph is a valuable asset (he always is but in this case even more) - he's the shining example to lead the way for Anthony. Make use of that resource when you can!
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| Posted 10/9/08 2:12 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
I think you need to stand your ground. If he's like this today - chances are he'll be the same way tomorrow, or a week from now!
He'll drink from it when he wants. It took Jack awhile to transistion from the bottle to the sippy - but now he is fine (although he still gets a morning bottle and I'm afraid he will murder me if I try to take that one away just yet)
Good luck!
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| Posted 10/9/08 2:14 PM |
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computergirl
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
I totally agree to stand your ground, it's actually easier in the long run to just be firm and deal with a few really bad days, than to be inconsistent and give in after a while. They start to expect that if they just scream and cry enough, you'll always give in. I didn't have this experience with a bottle, but I did have a terrible few days with my DS when I took away the pacifier for sleeping. It was hellish.
I know how it feels to end up in tears yourself when you hear them scream and cry though... it is so, soooo hard
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| Posted 10/9/08 2:20 PM |
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KristinasMama
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
It must be a killer Aeriell.... I'm sure that I'm going to have to go through the same thing with Kristina.... but I would stand your ground to be honest....
He's going to scream for a while, but soon he will realize that Mommy isn't going to give in, and the screaming serves no purpose.... At least that's the rationale that I try to give myself.... 
Good luck momma!
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| Posted 10/9/08 3:42 PM |
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2BEANS
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Maybe hes just not ready.. I would give him the baba and try another time. I feel when the time is right for them, they will let you know...
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| Posted 10/9/08 3:49 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Aeriell, you are a STRONG woman, don't cave in. It will just be like this the next time you try and do it. Kids are sooo resistant to chance, but they do, and they do it quicker than we think they might. So just hang in there. Call me if you need an outlet. I am in for the afternoon with a headache...
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| Posted 10/9/08 3:53 PM |
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Eireann
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Awww...hang in there!! We all know how that must feel and it's heartbreaking!!
I'm going to make a suggestion--I don't know if it's feasible for you, but since he's inconsolable anyway, could you take away the cup at bedtime too--100%? Sort of like ripping off the bandage? I'm only saying this because the daughter of good friends of ours had to have her front two teeth filed and capped at age 2 due to bottle rot. Just two days ago, she rolled off the couch and knocked those teeth out--at age 3.5. They opted to leave her toothless until the adult teeth come in; otherwise, it would have been many trips to the dentist, and a $900 bridge later.
If that's not a good idea for you at this point, then call a friend, turn the music up...and know that it's not going to last forever!!
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:02 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Give the kid the bottle, honestly. Its just a battle of wills at this point, and winning a battle of wills with a 2 year old is totally not worth it. My son had a bottle before bed until he was two and a half, honestly, unless your kid is walking around with a bottle between his teeth all day long, one bottle at bedtime won't kill him.
Do what feels right for you, if fighting over a bedtime bottle feels right to you, which by reading your post, it doesn't, stand your ground. If it doesn't feel right, stick with the bedtime bottle. I don't know any 18 year olds who have to have a bottle before bed.
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:18 PM |
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MyChip-n-Dales
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
OMG!!! thank you ladies!!
he finally fell asleep and barely touched the cup.. god i cant believe how hard that was... i hope this wont be this hard again later tonite for bed time...
seriuosly thank you all!!! i feel better knowing you felt the same as i did for standing my ground... they dont drink from sippys or bottles all day... its either a regualr cup or a juice box. I just cant nix the bed thing... jospeh barely drinks the cup or bottle(when he had it) hes been off the bottle for the past 3 days now. he takes it and puts in onthe night stand next to his bed.. he sips and puts it back.
now to keep anthony on the right track!
thanks mamas!!!
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:19 PM |
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MyChip-n-Dales
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Posted by Eireann
Awww...hang in there!! We all know how that must feel and it's heartbreaking!!
I'm going to make a suggestion--I don't know if it's feasible for you, but since he's inconsolable anyway, could you take away the cup at bedtime too--100%? Sort of like ripping off the bandage? I'm only saying this because the daughter of good friends of ours had to have her front two teeth filed and capped at age 2 due to bottle rot. Just two days ago, she rolled off the couch and knocked those teeth out--at age 3.5. They opted to leave her toothless until the adult teeth come in; otherwise, it would have been many trips to the dentist, and a $900 bridge later.
If that's not a good idea for you at this point, then call a friend, turn the music up...and know that it's not going to last forever!!
see i agree with you.. there teeth arent looking so good to me anyway.. so thats the big reason why i want them off the bottle... i got the pur water pitcher with the flavor thingy and i have been giving them that instead of juice and milk... (they wont drink the plain water... another tackle i know) so hopefully i can get rid of the whole thing.. but baby steps.. dh isnt home to help me through this so 1 step at a time.. besides even if he is home hes no help the run alllllll over him!
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:22 PM |
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Michelle
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
When we did the switch from bottles to sippys we took away the bottles one day. One of my boys was fine iwht it, he drank out of the sippy. My other one, well he would not drink anything from the cup all day. By 6pm, he was in his high chair screaming bloody murder, inconsolable. I broke down and gave him a bottle, he drank 10ozs and never took the bottle again. He had gotten himself so worked up that he could not function. I was scared that we would have to start all over but the next day eh drank form the cup and never went back.
Good Luck, it is hard to see them freak, but know that you are doing this for a reason, and it is best for them to get rid of the bottle at bed. I would probably just do it all cold turkey instead of giving them a cup at bed, but you know your kids. It would have been better for mine to do it that way, but I know all kids are different.
Good Luck!!!!
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| Posted 10/9/08 4:40 PM |
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BigB
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
Posted by BabySammie
Maybe hes just not ready.. I would give him the baba and try another time. I feel when the time is right for them, they will let you know...
I second this....I feel like I am in a competition sometimes with other moms about getting them off the bottle (the babies are just 1) I think when they are ready, they will let me know.....Hopefully it won't be when they are 30! (Both of my babies just gave up on the paci, so I am thinking, maybe the same thing will happen here! )
Good Luck!
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| Posted 10/9/08 5:54 PM |
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nancy6485
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Re: ok im in complete tears please help
i filled DS's night bottle with water, he threw it and fell asleep! He stopped asking for it in only 2-3 nights
GL!
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| Posted 10/9/08 7:34 PM |
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