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MrsRivera
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Ok, be honest with me...
Is anyone else NOT really enjoying their pregnancy?
I feel so guilty, I really want to enjoy this...I went through IF treatments in order to get pregnant...but the m/s (STILL at 16 1/2 weeks) and this sciatica that has me sleeping no more than 5 hours during the night...it just makes me think awful things. 
I want so badly to enjoy this. Not for a second would I take any of it back--but I just wonder how difficult it's going to get.
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Back pain is no picnic, I've had lower back pain that comes and goes for about 2 years now. I am sure you're miserable. I guess you have to do the best you can to cope with it. Hope you'll feel better!!! 
XOXOXO
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| Posted 7/5/08 10:00 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
For the last month, I have been miserable. With less than 8 weeks to go, I am increasingly miserable. As grateful and blessed as I am to have had science and technology to help us conceive as well, this aint no picnic and I salute women who have more than one at a time and do this 3 and 4 and 5 and more times.
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| Posted 7/5/08 10:00 PM |
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Bops
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I think its all natures way of preparing us for when the baby really does get here- then no sleep isnt such a shock, along w/ back pains from carrying around the two ton infant seat and diaper bag packed for a year 
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| Posted 7/5/08 10:05 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I was totally not a fan of pregnancy! And honestly I had an easy pregnancy. But I just didnt like the feeling overall. As my friend and I say "babies are much better on the outside"
With that said I will do it again...someday!
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| Posted 7/5/08 10:39 PM |
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Violet
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I know it may be too early for me to complain, but I am not enjoying it, I never thought I would like being pregnant.. LOVE children, but not the pregnant part.
I feel immature and selfish when I think about all the sacrifices I have to make.
..anyway, thanks for posting this, I am a bit relieved that I am not alone 
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| Posted 7/5/08 10:56 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I was REALLY enjoying up until I started my 3rd trimester a week ago. Now I'm just feeling like I want this baby out. I miss my old body, I am tired of pee'ing all the time, I'm tired of the aches and pains and never being comfortable, and to add to all this I was also diagnosed with gestational diabetes so that is going to make these last few weeks that much less pleasant. I've been lucky and have had a fairly easy pregnancy to this point and I know I shouldn't complain but I'm ready for the baby to make his/her appearance. Sept. 25th can't come soon enough!!!
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| Posted 7/5/08 11:03 PM |
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ckone
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Pregnancy isn't a picinic and by no means should you feel bad for feeling uncomfortable. Of course you are happy but lets face it - it can be very uncomfortable and trying on your body.
Aches and pains unfortunately par for the course but feel free to discuss your pains. Back pain can be sooooo horrible not to mention the cramping and pressure. Just try to surround yourself with pillows and stay off your feet - if you can.
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| Posted 7/5/08 11:04 PM |
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avamamma
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
You are not alone. I hated being pg the first time, and I hate it this second and final time.
I felt soooo guilty for hating it during my first pg, then I got a book- I think it was "The Girlfriends Guide To Pregnancy", and it made me feel a lot better.
During my first pregnancy, I had horrific all day sickness, sciatica and carpal tunnel.
This time around my morning sickness was even worse. I was bedridden for about 8 weeks and had to quit my job. Then I got Pneumonia from laying down for such a long period of time. Then the Uti's started and I haven't slept more than 4 hours a night this entire pregnancy- and that isn't even uninteruppted. I pee every hour.
Everytime I hear someone say "I love being pg, I never felt better", I want to pinch them!
So don't feel bad. Pregnancy just sucks for some people. It doesn't mean you want your baby any less!!!!!
I feel your pain, if you ever want to vent, feel free to fm me!
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| Posted 7/5/08 11:10 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Second time around and I am definitely not enjoying it nearly as much as I did the first time. I was able to "suckit up" the first time around but not as much this time. I feel kind of guilty but I figure once I feel really pregnant maybe I'll enjoy it more.
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| Posted 7/5/08 11:15 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I know how bad back pain can be, esp without meds. I don't imagine how happy one can feel when they are so uncomfortable. You are only human.
For me, right now it's not discomfort of the physical kind, more of the mental kind (worrying, bad thoughts, etc). Either way, I truly wish I could feel more joy and less worry.
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| Posted 7/5/08 11:17 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by ckone
Just try to surround yourself with pillows and stay off your feet - if you can.
I thought that would be the solution to this pain--I have had low back problems in the past, and the best thing I could do was to lay down with my legs propped up.
What makes this SOOOO frustrating is the fact that there are only two things I can do to make myself comfortable: stand or walk. Sleeping is pretty near impossible, because the pain in my leg is searing all night long. Sitting--forget about it. I now have my DH drive everywhere, and I sit in the passenger seat with the seat reclined and my right foot up on the dash.
I think my biggest problem is this: Sleep is my stress-reliever. It's what makes me feel better, whether I have a headache, feel nauseous, or just feel like I want the world to go away for awhile--I can just fall asleep. But take away my main source of stress relief, and I am just a mess. 
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| Posted 7/5/08 11:53 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
i am going to miss being PG but with 6 weeks to go, every bone in my body is aching, I cant really walk for long periods of time, it hurts to roll over in bed, I am ready to get this moving!!!
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| Posted 7/6/08 9:27 AM |
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jprimrose
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Pregnancy is not easy. I definitely had my highs and lows when I was pregnant with my DS, and it is the same with this pregnancy. The funny thing is that after my DS was born 2 months later we were trying to conceive again. It is like you forget about all that stuff. Now here I ma pregnant again. LOL Don't feel guilty it is normal to feel the way you do. I am really sorry about your sciatica. Did you talk to your doctor about it? Is there anything that the doctor could prescribe to help you with the pain? Have you tried taking Tylenol?
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| Posted 7/6/08 10:03 AM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I thought I would hate it, but I don't. I don't love it but it has not been bad for me at all. I am only a little under 24 weeks, so maybe it will get worse as time goes on. I am not one to complain about things so much though...moody yes...but full of complaints...no.
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| Posted 7/6/08 10:47 AM |
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runlikethewind
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Honestly, I was enjoying it up until I passed 30 weeks. It has been stressful since then, I am on bedrest and spent 5 days in the hospital last week due to pre-term labor threat. If that did not happen, I would probably be enjoying it more. Now I am just trying to stay calm and hope that I can extend my pregnancy a few more weeks. I guess considering I'm having twins, I should feel lucky that it took this long to have complications, as I have had hardly any up until now.
I can totally understand you not enjoying being pregnant, everyone is different, we all have different bodies and all react differently to pregnancy. Plus, a person can have an awesome first pregnancy and horrible second or vice versa.
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| Posted 7/6/08 10:54 AM |
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Nicole728
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I didn't enjoy my 1st trimester at all, b/c of horrible m/s....my 2nd trimester was fab! But now...I'm feeling more and more uncomfortable everyday, my sciatica is killing me, my feet are starting to bother me...and i still have 10 more weeks to go! Sleeping is becoming an issue, i can't get comfortable, even with my snoogle.
I know once I see  it will be worth it all.
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| Posted 7/6/08 12:57 PM |
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newday21608
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
u are not the only one.. I am so miserable, I cry a lot.. I hate everything about this to the point that I have taken to researching tubal ligations as a hobby.. that's how bad I am.. that I am ready to have my tubes tied to insure that I never have to go through this again..
My husband has worn out my last nerve.. he keeps referring to this as 'our' pregnancy..I am on the verge of hating him.. today he told me that 'we' are going through this together...
uh... WE don't have pubis symphis disorder where iI wince in pain because it hurts to stand up, roll over, or lift my legs..
WE don't have carpal tunnel syndrome.
We don't have so much extra weight on us that we can barely walk up right,which is only exacerbated by the pubis symphis disorder.
WE didn't have to quit our job because we couldn't walk up and down the stairs...
We dont have to drink water all day to make sure our AF doesn't drop only to have to go to the bathroom every hour because we're drinking so much, which requires us to get up out the bed which is painful..
it sucks.. so badly..
to make matters worst, hubby 'claims' he understands.. or that he's trying to understand.. today we were on the phone while he was at work and actually says.. 'okay.. so now that we know what the problem is we can work to fix it'..i hung up on him.
oh.. and then in between all of that, he schedules family dinners and outings for us with his visiting distant cousins.. then cops mini 'tudes with me when I tell him no I'm not going..
i could go on and on.. i am beyond miserable.. I am 35weeks on Tuesday and seriously plan on asking my doc to schedule me for a c section or induction at 37 weeks.. I need to see an end in sight.. I just can't continue to live like this..
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| Posted 7/6/08 1:25 PM |
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GinaBeana
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
I am right there with you. I was actually going to write a post because I am feeling so horrible and I want to know if this is normal. I am 6 weeks along and hating life. I feel depressed, all I want to do is lay down or sleep because I have no energy and feel nauseous. I am anxious about my body changing and wonder if I am going to be a good mom. I don't think I can handle 8 more months of this! 
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| Posted 7/6/08 1:47 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by newday21608
WE don't have pubis symphis disorder where iI wince in pain because it hurts to stand up, roll over, or lift my legs..
OMG this is me, too! But I'm only 16 weeks, and everyone I'm talking to keeps telling me it's "too early" to be in this kind of pain.
I cry every night as I'm pacing up and down the hall at 2:30am, 4am, and 6:30am because laying down hurts so badly that I literally can't stand it...
It really makes me start thinking terrible things. I know what you mean about DH--mine means well, I know he does, but he will NEVER understand the pain.
This pain makes me think terrible things...like, how far along do I need to be for the baby to be viable and for me to schedule a c-section? I HATE HATE HATE having thoughts like this, but this pain is unbearable.
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| Posted 7/6/08 1:53 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by MrsFlatbread
I thought I would hate it, but I don't. I don't love it but it has not been bad for me at all. I am only a little under 24 weeks, so maybe it will get worse as time goes on. I am not one to complain about things so much though...moody yes...but full of complaints...no.
I am exactly the same as you. I struggled for a long time for my babies and I am so ecstatic that I am finally here I actually think I got off easy. My only symptoms have been not sleeping well, stretch marks VERY early, and headaches. besides for that I feel pretty normal. I am 15 1/2 weeks though so hopefully it stays like this.
beth have you tried acupuncture?
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| Posted 7/6/08 2:30 PM |
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newday21608
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by newday21608
WE don't have pubis symphis disorder where iI wince in pain because it hurts to stand up, roll over, or lift my legs..
OMG this is me, too! But I'm only 16 weeks, and everyone I'm talking to keeps telling me it's "too early" to be in this kind of pain.
I cry every night as I'm pacing up and down the hall at 2:30am, 4am, and 6:30am because laying down hurts so badly that I literally can't stand it...
It really makes me start thinking terrible things. I know what you mean about DH--mine means well, I know he does, but he will NEVER understand the pain.
This pain makes me think terrible things...like, how far along do I need to be for the baby to be viable and for me to schedule a c-section? I HATE HATE HATE having thoughts like this, but this pain is unbearable.
i'm sorry to hear you're also going through this.. it's a horrible pain and it's indescribable(sp).. but if you have it.. you know.. yours started earlier than mine.. mine started around june 2nd.. i woke up and went to stood up and almost fell to my knees. another time I was laying down and tried to lift my left leg to cross it over my right and i screamed.. I knew then that something was not right..
my husband means well but i'm over him right now.. i can't deal with him, he irritates me. we just moved to PA and I have quite a bit of family there but no one really close.. and he's at work all day and on my nerves all night.. so i came home.. i'm staying at my mom's for a couple of weeks.. she'll get on my nerves too but at least she has a better understanding of what i'm going through.. he has no clue..
If you need to talk pm me.. my doctor trying to be funny, told me he cure my issue by the end of august.. woop'd do.. i'm due august 12..
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| Posted 7/6/08 2:43 PM |
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pumpkinpye517
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by Kelly9904
I was totally not a fan of pregnancy! And honestly I had an easy pregnancy. But I just didnt like the feeling overall. As my friend and I say "babies are much better on the outside"
With that said I will do it again...someday!
i agree with this right here.. I didnt enjoy my pregnancy at all..now that my DD is here, i do not miss my pregnancy and do not wish to be pregnant again.. although in a few years that could change. 
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| Posted 7/6/08 5:29 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by GinaBeana
I am right there with you. I was actually going to write a post because I am feeling so horrible and I want to know if this is normal. I am 6 weeks along and hating life. I feel depressed, all I want to do is lay down or sleep because I have no energy and feel nauseous. I am anxious about my body changing and wonder if I am going to be a good mom. I don't think I can handle 8 more months of this!
I am almost 29 weeks and although I am starting to get more uncomfortable now I can tell you that for me the first trimester was the WORST!! I had NO energy whatsoever and I was beyond exhausted every day all day. It felt like I was hit by a bus. I didn't think I would last through the 1st tri but it gets better. By 13 weeks I was feeling more like my old self and I thought the 2nd tri was blissful. I felt great. But I know how you feel because as I go through these last few weeks of my pregnancy I am more and more ready for this baby to be born. Hang in there, the 2nd tri gets better.
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| Posted 7/6/08 5:45 PM |
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Jacksmommy
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Re: Ok, be honest with me...
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by newday21608
WE don't have pubis symphis disorder where iI wince in pain because it hurts to stand up, roll over, or lift my legs..
OMG this is me, too! But I'm only 16 weeks, and everyone I'm talking to keeps telling me it's "too early" to be in this kind of pain.
I cry every night as I'm pacing up and down the hall at 2:30am, 4am, and 6:30am because laying down hurts so badly that I literally can't stand it...
It really makes me start thinking terrible things. I know what you mean about DH--mine means well, I know he does, but he will NEVER understand the pain.
This pain makes me think terrible things...like, how far along do I need to be for the baby to be viable and for me to schedule a c-section? I HATE HATE HATE having thoughts like this, but this pain is unbearable.
Its not too early - I started with it at that time too! Im not in love with being pregnant either. I am always in pain and I can't wait to meet my little munchkin! Im not good with waiting for things and 9 months is a very long time!
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